I don't know but I believe I gave it my all. If it wasn't meant to be mine then who am I to fight it? I loved, loved so hard to a point where I Didn't even think the end is possible. Taking the L for the second time. Getting burned for the second time and knowing me and my heart, there's still lots of love there. I don't know how to feel or react. Hurt I am but tears refuse to fall. How do I let go wheny tears don't wanna fall and let the pain out? It's hard. It feels like a setup. However, if it had to happen then it happened. I guess forever doesn't exist or maybe it doesn't exist in my world. I Feel used at the same time I am happy knowing I didn't cheat on my feelings. They say when you love, only give what you get. With me I give my all. I leave no space for disappointment. When the heart loves it loves with no limits. Took a second chance and thought it would be different but I got burned. I had so much planned, one time even Thanked God for this opportunity and asked for guidance. It hurts knowing that I am so confused on how, why, when. I thought I had it all. But it slipped through my heart. How am I different not receive the same? Who did I wrong? I apologize every second. Am I crushed? To the finest. Time wasted? Nah because I enjoyed every bit of it. Will I give it another shot? Definitely, with a different being. The experience was out of this world I can tell. Though verbal and emotional abuse was always there. I chose to oversee it. What an experience. I wish my heart would let go and tears fall so I can let go of all the pain. God heals. I Trust.
Giving Birth to A Stillborn
Nothing hurts more than birthing a still born baby that you have carried for a full term. How do you begin to prepare for labor and birth with a still born baby? A lot of support from family and friends is well needed. It is always a better idea to bring the person you need to the hospital for support.
Having a stillborn does not mean you cannot
give birth to healthy living babies. it is one of the most unfortunate moments
to take place.
Get all the information and support on giving birth to a stillborn baby, including birthing options, How to prepare yourselves, and what you need to know about spending time with your baby afterwards.
What is A Stillborn?
A stillbirth is a fetal loss that takes
place after 20 weeks of pregnancy. A fetal loss that takes place before 20
weeks is typically referred to as a miscarriage.
The cause of stillbirths varies based
on gestational age and the underlying risk factors, though in some cases the
cause is unknown.
Preparing for Labor
If the unthinkable has taken place and
you are told that your baby has died in the womb before your labor has started,
the options for giving birth will then be raised with you.
It is likely to be difficult to
process anything that you are told at this point because of the overwhelming
shock of being told that your baby has passed on.
If there is no medical reason for the
baby to be born right away, it may be possible to wait for labor to start
naturally. You may not need to decide immediately. It may also be possible to go
home for a day or two first.
Vaginal birth or caesarean section?
Your options will then depend on the
circumstances, for instance if you have a condition such as pre-eclampsia or an
infection, it may be medically necessary to have caesarean section. This may need
to happen quite quickly.
However, vaginal birth is safer for
the mother than having a caesarean section. You will then be asked if you would
like your labor to be induced. This medication may take up to 48 hours, or in
some cases longer, to work.
Spending time with your stillborn baby
Although it can be hard to face, you
will need to decide whether to spend time with your baby or not after the
birth. It is your choice whether you do this, but it can be a vital step in
your journey of grieving. If you choose to do it, it will be extremely hard and
upsetting but it is also incredibly special.
Recognizing your baby as a real person
is important. Take your time to create memories and acknowledge your baby’s
existence in the world.
Hold your baby
After the birth you will be able to
choose whether you see, and hold, your baby. This is a very personal choice and
one that you can discuss with your midwife.
Many years ago, most women who had
stillbirths were not allowed to see their babies. Some are still sad they had never
had this chance. Think about how you feel now, but also how you might feel in
the future.
Read more here
What Are the
Most Common Stillbirth Causes? (verywellfamily.com)
By Rebecca Teffo Masina
Body Shaming - What, Why & How To Overcome it
Body shaming has become a serious issue in our society. There's nothing interesting from body shaming other persons. it is actually disgusting and shameful.
It is Not up to you to decide how others should look. You prefer what you prefer and they also do the same. Why cant you accept people as they are?
I am definitely sure that you also is accepted as you are. Being slim fit and wearing smaller sizes doesn't make you better than anyone. You are you and you doing you. So, let others do themselves as well.
What is Body Shaming/ Fat Shaming?
Fat shaming, also known as body shaming, is an act in which individuals are being judged negatively based on their physical appearance. What do you get from body shaming other? The satisfaction that you have managed to ruin their confidence?
We are In an age where media and social media are easily accessible, there is a very strong emphasis on idealized beauty on those platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, magazines and even on television.
When we see celebrities and models who are thought to be having “perfect bodies”, people start to become critical of their own bodies.
Body shaming occurs among both men and women of all different shapes and body sizes. Body shaming has included both criticisms of being “too fat”, or “too skinny”, often picking on flaws that completely irrelevant.
Body shaming Can Occur in many ways:
- Criticizing your own appearance, through the judgment or comparison to another person.
- Criticizing another’s appearance in front of them.
- Criticizing another’s appearance without their knowledge.
Why does body shaming occur?
Growing up in the in front of a mirror can ingrain the conventional notions of beauty and it can result in deep seeded self esteem issues.
Today, persons are more accepting of being different from others. However, with the pressure from social media, young people are more prone to want to look a certain way.
Negative comments and even provoking images can drive young girls to engage in unhealthy behaviors to change their body type to conform to the norms of society. This may then lead to self-injury or cutting, binging and purging behaviors or even full-fledged eating disorders.
People with a history of trauma, self-harm, depression, low self-esteem are more likely to be affected by body shaming and may potentially develop an eating disorder or even engage in self-harm behavior.
How to overcome body shaming
Like any other type of bullying, body shaming will always be present unless you stick up for yourself in a positive and healthy way. It is vital to practice self-love and try to not let negative comments bother you. Furthermore if you witness body shaming on social media, you can report it and flag it for inappropriate content.
Love,
Rebecca Teffo Masina
Power of Pain
Do you know pain? Have you experienced pain?
Pain takes away your whole self and leaves you feeling like nothing. It leaves you feeling like you don't deserve anything or worse you are not worth it. Pain hurts!
I've lived with pain for so long it's taking away my happiness. It's depriving me of life. Well some may say "only you can decide to be happy and let pain go"
Most of the time such people haven't experienced what pain is. How pain can damage you. How pain can lead you to suicide. How pain can lead you to anger problems. How pain can depress you.
Emotional pain is the worst you could ever go through. It's a permanent scar that not even all those products can rub away. Emotional pain kills. It's too hard to forget, even if you do, somehow the memory of it comes back and when it does, huh, you relapse.
I don't know how many times I've tried to forget, to heal, to move on.
I relied on my dad for everything comfort. I didn't even on my worst day think he would leave me. With my dad I was always ready. Always happy and I knew he's got my back.
Growing up is a challenge hey. Not easy to face. However one step at a time and one day at a time. It Hurst. What? You ask? PAIN.
Sometimes I just sit in my car and cry listening to music. I take long drives to try and get better. Does it work? For me, only for that time.
Betrayal as well is most damaging pain one could experience. People turn to belittle you to make themselves feel better. You allow it? I honestly do, I don't know why.
What do you do when you are hurt? How do you deal with hurt?
Apparently you have to make a choice to live with it or to fight it. You let it run you or let it go?
I pray to get over this pain. I pray to get over this hurt. I pray for my emotional and physical well-being. I pray for myself. I pray for you.
Happy Birthday Papa
So its Saturday, the 18th of July,2020. Few hours to your birthday. I write this not with a broken heart but also not with joy in my heart. On this day last year, you were in hospital 🏥. Nothing was making sense. I was at work, never managed to focus on my work since i knew you were admitted. Life has never been the same. No gossips (yeah i used to gossip with my dad) no laughs, no random calls, nothing. It was silent which caused a lot of loudness in my mind. I used to blame you for leaving me, yes i still do (still wrong of me) because you were my best friend, my pops, my ninja and most of all granddad to my baby girl whom even today cant stop asking why are we not going to see mkhulu.
🌼 Pops, daddy my Daddy ♥️ Only those who know me, know you are my world 🗺. A day wouldn't pass without us talking. I remember how you didn't want me to get married 👰 🤣🤣 oh this guy. He ddnt want to lose his daughter. I understood though but ive grown-up lol. We had our first father's day without you. Remember you didn't care who wishes you a happy father's day as long as i havent said anything its not a happy father's day 🤣. Wena ntse o actor bruh 🤣.
Man i pray you are a good angel 😇 and looking after us, your kids, your family. On your birthday last year i had to call the hospital to wish you the happiest birthday even though you were in pain. I love you so much papa. I will never stop. To me you were the best, Lepogo laka. 🌸 Maaan i had an awesome time of my life with you. My whole 28 years of life with you were bliss. I was the happiest daughter and i will always cherish the moments we had. Bruh you were the best. I'd call to tell you i cant enter vasity gates 🤣 due to unpaid school fees 🤣 ooh my dad would be at MGI gates within 2 hours to teach people how to do their jobs. 🤣🤣 Wena ntse ole Lapara laka my dad.
You never shouted at me 🤣 oh wow i was the best daughter i tell you. I only got shouted when my siblings were messing up. Enklek that was you ranting on me 🤣. Man i miss you papa. I love you papa. Happy birthday papa. Dumedisa koko, Rakgolo, Sello (maflex), Marumo, Nkola, Walter le babangwe ka moka. Ba botse morwedi wa gago are Agee ka lerato🌸❤️♥️. BATHOKWA😌
Your Next Relationship
Rebecca Masina 🐾
You cant go into the next relationship broken. No you definitely can't. You have to give it your all. If you have doubts, then dont go foward with it. I suggest you take your time to heal, discover yourself, spend more time with your family or friends. Learn and enjoy being you. Give yourself time. Falling in love is the best feeling ever. Yes we all want that feeling but whats the use if you doing it for the wrong reasons?
- To love someone is to accept them fully for who they are, imperfections and all.
- Support and nurture them.
- Learn the language of 😍 love.
- Know and understand when loving means letting go.
- True love begins at home, remember that.
Music Unites South Africa
Knowing how SA citizens dont listen or take everything serious, most are still going out and traveling in numbers. It is gonna be very hard to curve this virus should we keep doing this. Ignorance is a killer. A silence one but a quick one.
Will I Ever?
Raising A Girl Child in South Africa
Your grandparents, your wives and more. Are we wrong to be in this world? Where should we run to when you, our shields are now killing us?
February ❤️The Love Month 2020
2. Take cooming or baking class
3. Join a dance class
4. Book a fancy hotel
5. Dress up and go out on a date night
6. Netflix together
7. Take a long hot relaxing bath together
8. Go out and sing your heart out of karaoke 🎤
9. Go to an ice rink
10. Exchange gifts/ write top 10 reasons why you chose each other and read them to each other.
Oh Lord, This Is Too Much!
2019, one of the worst years ever I've experienced. This year, not only have I lost my dad, I have now lost 3 of my close friends. How do I deal with all of this? Who will I talk to? Who will mock me? I have lost more than I can afford to lose. This is draining me. It's taking a lot of my energy. I cant focus. My mind is all over. Ohh Tebogo, childhood friend. Gone just like that. Nico, childhood friend. Gone like that. Lutendo, the one that drives me crazy 🤪 because he doesn't listen. Also gone just like that. Shuuu this 3 knew me very well and understood me. I will miss you so much ❤ ❤ ❤. You've been soo real to me. Managed to make me smile on my bad days. Lutendo, lol you the worst. Carrying my bag from school to home and having to walk back to Umthambeka. Taking your one and only cell phone 📱 and give it to me without asking questions. Dude not to mention the airtime we got me and Kgomotso Makgato. You were a big part of our lives, you will always be. You never judged us or gave us any reasons to doubt you. With you, we were always happy. Lol 😂 you'd dodge work just to make sure my events are well guarded. Talk about (protect and serve)Dude who will mock us? Lutendo!!! 😭💔😞. Please be a good Angel 😇 to your family, your son and to us your friends. Rest in peace Tendy. Luhaha, Mr Levi's 🤣😂. Rest easy buddy.
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