OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE
By Rebecca Masina
These days it has come to a point where almost every
female has a child which a relationship with the other parent has failed or
maybe because of certain circumstances like death came.
The elders will tell you if you love him/her you must
also be able to love and accept his/her kids unconditionally. You simply cannot
compete with a parent and his/her kids because there it is a sure thing that
you will never win not even by a long shot. Again you cannot tell him/her to choose
between you and his/her kids.
Situation will be what if he decides to merry her with
her kids? Would the kids also use his surname? And if so what about the culture?
How will it work out as people of tradition will say that every kid has to be
introduced to their ancestors? When they are doing that to their biological
kids what will happen to the one who came with the mother and what if she or he
also needs rituals to be performed for him or her while she or he is using the surname
that his or her mother currently use which is her marital surname?
Sometimes turn to have a problem accepting their parent’s
new partner and makes it difficult for a parent which it will end up as if she
or he hates the kids. That is why taking another women’s or men’s kids its
difficult at the end reports of hatred and abuse arise.
Ho e gapa ledi namane it is not easy at all. It takes
guts and again the love you have for your partner. Things we do for love.
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