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FIRST TIME PARENT (MY JOURNEY)

FIRST TIME PARENT (My journey)

BY Rebecca Masina

It all seems easy until it is you having to go through it. For me I never thought that I could nail this parenthood thing. I never thought I could be this good. I’ve always been that crazy, happy and a person who always makes jokes. I don’t remember being serious about life. Well I had that thing of I will be serious when the time comes and for now it is just my time to be me and enjoy being Rebecca. I raised my sisters kid Gomolemo and learnt a lot from raising her. I did everything that a mother can and should do for a new born to a toddler. Well except for breastfeeding because I wasn’t her mom.  From there I have never thought of my self being a mom let alone having my own bundle of joy, my own photo copy. I bet almost everyone was shocked to hear and see me being pregnant including myself. Even after eight months I still did not believe it was me who was pregnant.

My little one was always kicking me so bad it hurt and did not want her to kick anymore. I was  a month away to giving birth but still it wasn’t in my mind that I was about to be a mom. As crazy as I seemed, most people were even asking what kind of a mom I am going to be to my child because I was never serious. Weeks away I still was not prepared. Not even bought anything for the baby or prepared anything. I hated how she kicked me but when she was not kicking I was getting worried.

Always had that friend who sponsored my crazy cravings (Lebo Mamabolo). This lady went through hell as if she was the father of my baby. She took a lot of crap from me. Stood by me even though I gave her tough times. Thank you LEE. **/…Askere Modimo ago boke.

Oh well soon I got into labor at the best ever hospital, where I almost drove nurses crazy. Aah labor pains are no child’s play. 27+ hours of hectic labor pains. Hope you understand the pain that I was in. then they asked me if I was going to come again. Lol well after what I have experienced I do not know.

After those hours with God’s Grace I gave birth to a baby girl and named her Kagiso. She is my benediction. From that hour I knew it was the beginning of a long life journey. Just because some of us raised kids at our places, then taking care of Kagiso did not need me to always call my mom to help me. I did everything myself. Today I call her Formula 1 because she’s too active and speaks a lot of gibberish, she has a loud voice and she’s a strong lady. She fights for her things. She’s my all. And even today I still cannot believe am her mom. Only 10 months old, but already calls me mama. Already walks to every room she wants to go to. The way she responds to her dads call… wonders. Granny always complaining about the mess but hey what we can do. We put together then few seconds she’s marking her territory that she’s here. Mess up the house in seconds. Not forgetting that she’s a dancer. That she took from her aunt.

few minutes born...Kagiso

 We love her. Kagiso ya rona. 

9 months 

10 months ols

FOR A GOOD LAUGH... MY LILL SISTER DANCING TO RIHANNA AND DRAKE WORK!!

video taken by Tebogo Masina.. 16 years old.

DEAR UNFAIR

DEAR UNFAIR

By Rebecca Masina

Putting up a face is not easy at all. You can do it as many times to try to perfect it but hey it is very hard out there. You always see people out there sitting and saying there are no jobs and you will be thinking “yes there are no jobs because you are sitting here and waiting for a job to come to you”. Well sometimes judging is wrong, concluding without facts it is wrong. We all have dreams. They might be bigger or smaller but the truth remains that we all have dreams. Size does not matter. I for one have been under a lot of strain yet no one can really tell that I have.

Some people out there when they say they tried and they even thinking of giving up, it is not because they are lazy or they are not motivated. Truth is you can go to school and study hard for that certificate, diploma, and degree and to mention a few. At the end you still have to go out there and look for a job. Jobs are scares not to mention that, these days it is all about who you know and not what you have. Our papers these days do not weigh as much. One may be qualified more than the other but just because you don’t know someone, then you lose the opportunity that you worked hard for. That we call “life is hard” oh yes “life is unfair”.

Isn’t that we go to higher institution so that we can better our lives? Yet it seems like it is the more we go deeper into poverty. Names are put for people who try to make money by selling their bodies and judge them, yet we do not know where they come from. We did not walk in their shoes.

People with university papers have been at home for more than 4 four years without jobs. They tried, hustled like nobody’s business, but no luck. On the other hand some have to give out cash to get jobs. How will you be able to give cash that you don’t have in order to get a job? The world we live in. if you go to many companies to check who has the right papers for the positions they are in, well you will see things. “Shockers”. We are told and taught to be entrepreneurs but let’s face it not everyone can be an entrepreneur. Same as not all of us can sing. It has its own people.

some people even resort to crime.

It is said that a prayer helps and Gods timing is always the best. Well it’s all up to how much you believe. No one is opposing that statement but you spend more than a decade after graduating looking for job and you still say Gods timing is always the best? Huh? We pray, we praise and believe but for how long? Pray until something happens.  That statement is always said but those who already made it and I am sure they only saying that and them, themselves did not do it. It is motivation but for how long?

DEAR UNFAIR as we believing.