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DON’T BLAME YOURSELF FOR
FALLING PREGNANT
By Rebecca Masina
They might make you feel
like it is your fault, why did you not use protection or better yet why are you
not on prevention. The truth is you are both responsible for what takes place
during and after intercourse. You did not sleep alone. He was there. You women
also don’t need to blame men on why they did not ejaculate on the outside. Why
were you also not using a condom and we all know that unprotected sex leads to
what, so why do we act as if we don’t know?
Education about pregnancy
and diseases is being spread within schools, churches, clinics and even at
homes. To this day people still act if
it is not as if they have never heard about the consequences of unprotected
sex. People suffer from H.I.V; people suffer from S.T.I’s even though they know
better about them. Media is the biggest platform where teachings about such
thing are being aired but still no one really takes them to mind till it is
late.
“Nkabe ke ngwana morago”
Most of the time guys turn
to think that it is women’s responsibility to make sure that they don’t get
unwanted pregnancies but no, that is not true. Whoever gets involved in
unprotected sex is responsible for the consequences. It only takes two seconds to
create a soul, whether wanted or not.
No one is trapping anyone
with a baby as we know that cannot happen. They leave with or without a baby.
Even a good sex doesn’t mean he will stay or otherwise. The truth is if you
know you do not want unforeseen things to happen then you have to protect yourself.
No one will protect you but yourself. After all no one sends you to go have
sex. It is your choice and your life.
Thoughts and decisions of abortions
come up. They might force you to do one and you also might fall into it as you
will be feeling like you are not yet ready to have a child let alone with that
person. Your decisions might be based on your future but who gives rights to
kill innocent souls? He might not be ready but he can’t force you to kill, vice
verse lady.
Families also do sometimes
blame you for falling pregnant but they also have children and they have also
made some mistakes in life. No one is perfect don't let them judge you, belittle
you. Don’t beat yourself about it.
Don’t feel ashamed but take
responsibility of your actions.
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