Realtalk: 2021

What More to Give?

By Rebecca

What happens when things are not coming together as planned? Yes, we do know that things happen on God’s time. But for how long should one suffer because of God timing or ist that not all of us deserve to be successful? not all of us deserve a good life or better achievements? aren’t we equal? which God is this one? allowing us to go through so much pain? some of the things might not be Gods doing but why would he let His children to make us suffer like this?

People have been applying for job for over 4 years and to date nothing seems to move. not even a single call for an interview. Yet you will be saying God’s timing. While waiting for God’s time, what are we eating? how are we surviving? We can’t be asking forever. people also get tired of us always asking.

people have been trying all the time. we try to go to school to better our li8ves. however, after school, no one is willing to hire us. All thi8s companies need 5 years’ experience. Bathong!! For how long? are we the ones that are supposed to be begging nonstop? are we the chose poor ones? where will I get 5 years’ experience if I’m straight from varsity? how fair is that? others are only recruiting their families without any qualifications. are we the ones to bribe in order to get the job? well, again with what money because we don’t work?

are we now supposed to give out our bodies in order to get employment? this world can end really. its too much. ‘Families are suffering with cum laude gradates. This also leads to suicides, depressions. don’t tell us about entrepreneurship, not all off us has those skills or abilities. also, that requires capital. those motivators be telling us, mina I started with one grain of wheat, knowing very well you lying. Haibo get out of here.

Hennops Hiking Trail Review

Ever wanted to try something new? Well Hennops Hiking Trail is one of the best place to try out. Hennops Hiking Trail is located on the R511, Pretoria, 0001, South Africa.

It's not my first time trying out the place. I went for the first time and did my 5km. It was an experience, great one filled with love, laughter and peace.

I had people now asking me if I can join them and do the 10km one. Bruh I thought I'm fit till this past weekend. Tagged friends and went to do the 10km hike.

This was one of the best trips ever taken. Lol excluding baecations obviously 😂. With hiking, You get to meet new people everyday and learn a thing or two.

Check out the benefits of Hiking below:

1. Hiking Is Good For The Heart. Hiking is great for cardiovascular health.

2. Hiking also Helps With Weight Loss.

3. Hiking Eases Stress And Boosts your Mental Well-Being.

4.Hiking also Allows Us To Unplug From Technology.

Can Hiking Become a Spiritual Experience?

Hiking helps you connect with nature. Going on a hike is one of the best ways you can celebrate and worship the marvels of nature.

It's a break from the everyday monotony. A monotonous life often takes a toll on our emotional and mental state. It also teaches you mindfulness.

Best Hiking Trails to Try out

1. Hennops River Hiking Trail in Magaliesberg.

2. Africaland in Hartbeespoort.

3. Shelter Rock in Magaliesberg.

3. Klipriviersberg Nature Reserve.

4. Melville Koppies Nature Reserve.

5. Walter Sisulu Botanical Gardens.

6. Suikerbosrand Nature Reserve in Heidelberg.

6. Uitkyk in Hartebeespoort.

Finding Love On Tinder

By Rebecca Teffo Masina

Move, dating sites have now taken over. abafana the boys no longer go the long route. Bona, a simple download, sign up, add images and walla!!! you are in.

This days, you don't even have to meet the person physically to know them or even know about them. aah man, the internet has indeed taken over.

There are tons of dating sites available today. a well known one being Tinder. Wooh, a lot happens there. Most say they do find love and some say they only have the app for fun that's all.

I know a couple of people that have met on a dating app and are now happily married. I guess it works, and also doesn't work. A lot says the app has scammers, but then again, why would you want to send money to someone you don't know?

Mjolo, the dating has been levelled up. What's your take on finding love on tinder or any dating site?

Check out some rules and a list of top dating sites to try out.

GOODLUCK!!

10 Rules For Finding Love On Tinder

1. Pick good photos

You want your photos to showcase your best right?. This means they are good, but realistic.

2. Be very upfront about what you want

If you’re only looking to hookup then you don’t have to worry about stating what you want, though if you’re looking for a Real Relationship you want to make that clear as soon as possible. There’s a big chunk of people on Tinder that aren’t looking for that, so you want to weed them out before you get sucked into someone.

3. Ask the person you’re talking to what they are looking for

Its vital to know what to expect from the other person.

4. Don’t waste time on what you don’t want

So you meet a hunk, cool person who you want to hang out with, but you know he isn’t long term material.

5. Don’t be afraid of having a bad first date

Bad first dates do happen.

6. Always Keep an open mind

Think about the opposite sex friends you have in real life. Go on Facebook and look at a few of their pics, would you swipe right? Tinder is 95% based on looks and initial attraction, you still need to interpret that loosely.

7. DONT SWIPE RIGHT ON FACELESS AB PHOTOS

They are not looking for love! that I promise!

8. Don’t swipe right on everyone

Some say it’s best to swipe right on every single person because you can amass matches as quickly as possible. The problem with this is that your inbox because extremely cluttered to the point that it’s un-navigatable. You’ll miss messages from people because Tinder’s inbox feature sucks and sends you a “message” every time you match with someone and real messages can get buried. Plus, it’s just bad karma. Don’t waste people’s time, don’t waste your own time.

9. Be OK with letting a hot person get away

People who are just looking to hook up will compliment you and seem promising, but you know what they want even if you don’t want to admit it to yourself. You have to be OK watching them walk away for this to work.

10. Remember the kind of person you’re trying to attract, and also act accordingly

Always keep in mind on what kind of a person you are looking for. at the same time dont settle for less than what you want.

Best Sites If You’re “Looking for Love” (2021)

1. Match.com

★★★★★ 4.8/5.0

2. EliteSingles

★★★★★ 4.7/5.0

3. Zoosk

★★★★★ 4.5/5.0

4. eharmony

★★★★★ 4.7/5.0

5. SilverSingles

★★★★★ 4.6/5.0

It's Painful

Rebecca Teffo Masina

I've been meaning to write, but I couldn't bring myself to. However today the 28th of July 2021, I shall. It's not easy, it hurts. Okare motho otlile ka thipa e bogale a nhlaba ka yona mo pelong. They say with time all will be over. How do you get over all this pain, the heartache. I keep denying, thinking it's all a dream that I will wake up from. I'm trying but it doesn't seem to go away. Today was supposed to be one of the best days in my life. However, here I am in pain and tears falling none stop. I keep asking myself what happened, how did it happen, why did I allow it to happen.

I am trying to be strong. I know I am and I can be. Sad thing is I saw all this coming. Everything was there. All the signs but me being me kept denying and believing it's all gonna be fine.

You really broke my heart. I never expected many things from you though it happened that you are always the one that hurts me the most. I don't know why you derive joy in making me miserable. Remember, a day will come; even rat will no longer be scared of the cat.

Take a Breather Girl

I don't know but I believe I gave it my all. If it wasn't meant to be mine then who am I to fight it? I loved, loved so hard to a point where I Didn't even think the end is possible. Taking the L for the second time. Getting burned for the second time and knowing me and my heart, there's still lots of love there. I don't know how to feel or react. Hurt I am but tears refuse to fall. How do I let go wheny tears don't wanna fall and let the pain out? It's hard. It feels like a setup. However, if it had to happen then it happened. I guess forever doesn't exist or maybe it doesn't exist in my world. I Feel used at the same time I am happy knowing I didn't cheat on my feelings. They say when you love, only give what you get. With me I give my all. I leave no space for disappointment. When the heart loves it loves with no limits. Took a second chance and thought it would be different but I got burned. I had so much planned, one time even Thanked God for this opportunity and asked for guidance. It hurts knowing that I am so confused on how, why, when. I thought I had it all. But it slipped through my heart. How am I different not receive the same? Who did I wrong? I apologize every second. Am I crushed? To the finest. Time wasted? Nah because I enjoyed every bit of it. Will I give it another shot? Definitely, with a different being. The experience was out of this world I can tell. Though verbal and emotional abuse was always there. I chose to oversee it. What an experience. I wish my heart would let go and tears fall so I can let go of all the pain. God heals. I Trust.

Giving Birth to A Stillborn

Nothing hurts more than birthing a still born baby that you have carried for a full term. How do you begin to prepare for labor and birth with a still born baby? A lot of support from family and friends is well needed. It is always a better idea to bring the person you need to the hospital for support.

Having a stillborn does not mean you cannot give birth to healthy living babies. it is one of the most unfortunate moments to take place.

Get all the information and support on giving birth to a stillborn baby, including birthing options, How to prepare yourselves, and what you need to know about spending time with your baby afterwards.

What is A Stillborn?

A stillbirth is a fetal loss that takes place after 20 weeks of pregnancy. A fetal loss that takes place before 20 weeks is typically referred to as a miscarriage.

The cause of stillbirths varies based on gestational age and the underlying risk factors, though in some cases the cause is unknown.

Preparing for Labor

If the unthinkable has taken place and you are told that your baby has died in the womb before your labor has started, the options for giving birth will then be raised with you.

It is likely to be difficult to process anything that you are told at this point because of the overwhelming shock of being told that your baby has passed on.

If there is no medical reason for the baby to be born right away, it may be possible to wait for labor to start naturally. You may not need to decide immediately. It may also be possible to go home for a day or two first.

Vaginal birth or caesarean section?

Your options will then depend on the circumstances, for instance if you have a condition such as pre-eclampsia or an infection, it may be medically necessary to have caesarean section. This may need to happen quite quickly.

However, vaginal birth is safer for the mother than having a caesarean section. You will then be asked if you would like your labor to be induced. This medication may take up to 48 hours, or in some cases longer, to work.

Spending time with your stillborn baby

Although it can be hard to face, you will need to decide whether to spend time with your baby or not after the birth. It is your choice whether you do this, but it can be a vital step in your journey of grieving. If you choose to do it, it will be extremely hard and upsetting but it is also incredibly special.

Recognizing your baby as a real person is important. Take your time to create memories and acknowledge your baby’s existence in the world.

Hold your baby

After the birth you will be able to choose whether you see, and hold, your baby. This is a very personal choice and one that you can discuss with your midwife.

Many years ago, most women who had stillbirths were not allowed to see their babies. Some are still sad they had never had this chance. Think about how you feel now, but also how you might feel in the future.

Body Shaming - What, Why & How To Overcome it

Body shaming has become a serious issue in our society. There's nothing interesting from body shaming other persons. it is actually disgusting and shameful.

It is Not up to you to decide how others should look. You prefer what you prefer and they also do the same. Why cant you accept people as they are?

I am definitely sure that you also is accepted as you are. Being slim fit and wearing smaller sizes doesn't make you better than anyone. You are you and you doing you. So, let others do themselves as well.

What is Body Shaming/ Fat Shaming?

Fat shaming, also known as body shaming, is an act in which individuals are being judged negatively based on their physical appearance. What do you get from body shaming other? The satisfaction that you have managed to ruin their confidence?

We are In an age where media and social media are easily accessible, there is a very strong emphasis on idealized beauty on those platforms such as Facebook, Instagram, magazines and even on television.

When we see celebrities and models who are thought to be having “perfect bodies”, people start to become critical of their own bodies.

Body shaming occurs among both men and women of all different shapes and body sizes. Body shaming has included both criticisms of being “too fat”, or “too skinny”, often picking on flaws that completely irrelevant.

Body shaming Can Occur in many ways:

Criticizing your own appearance, through the judgment or comparison to another person.
Criticizing another’s appearance in front of them.
Criticizing another’s appearance without their knowledge.

Why does body shaming occur?

Growing up in the in front of a mirror can ingrain the conventional notions of beauty and it can result in deep seeded self esteem issues.

Today, persons are more accepting of being different from others. However, with the pressure from social media, young people are more prone to want to look a certain way.

Negative comments and even provoking images can drive young girls to engage in unhealthy behaviors to change their body type to conform to the norms of society. This may then lead to self-injury or cutting, binging and purging behaviors or even full-fledged eating disorders.

People with a history of trauma, self-harm, depression, low self-esteem are more likely to be affected by body shaming and may potentially develop an eating disorder or even engage in self-harm behavior.

How to overcome body shaming

Like any other type of bullying, body shaming will always be present unless you stick up for yourself in a positive and healthy way. It is vital to practice self-love and try to not let negative comments bother you. Furthermore if you witness body shaming on social media, you can report it and flag it for inappropriate content.

Love,