OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE

OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE

By Rebecca Masina

These days it has come to a point where almost every female has a child which a relationship with the other parent has failed or maybe because of certain circumstances like death came.

The elders will tell you if you love him/her you must also be able to love and accept his/her kids unconditionally. You simply cannot compete with a parent and his/her kids because there it is a sure thing that you will never win not even by a long shot. Again you cannot tell him/her to choose between you and his/her kids.

Situation will be what if he decides to merry her with her kids? Would the kids also use his surname? And if so what about the culture? How will it work out as people of tradition will say that every kid has to be introduced to their ancestors? When they are doing that to their biological kids what will happen to the one who came with the mother and what if she or he also needs rituals to be performed for him or her while she or he is using the surname that his or her mother currently use which is her marital surname?

Sometimes turn to have a problem accepting their parent’s new partner and makes it difficult for a parent which it will end up as if she or he hates the kids. That is why taking another women’s or men’s kids its difficult at the end reports of hatred and abuse arise.

Ho e gapa ledi namane it is not easy at all. It takes guts and again the love you have for your partner. Things we do for love.

 

 

 

YOU ARE THE ISSUE AM TALKING ABOUT

You are the issue am talking about

By Rebecca Masina

Some people like to claim their nonsense on other people. They don’t want to be wrong but always right and always winning. Well that cannot happen every day, not in my world.

I have been living in one deep dark hole that I always kept quiet and looked at everything that is happening and also watch everything as it happens in front of me and do nothing because I am avoiding noise from the empty tins.

I, myself am not a saint but please just because I cannot say a thing to defend myself it doesn’t mean that I am wrong in anything. Given a chance to speak, yes I would speak. But well since that there is too much noise and you only want your voice to be the only one to be listened to, then I shall keep being in that deep dark hole. But I promise you the day I come out, you will not even utter a word as it will be my chance to speak. Yes continue doing as you please. As they say every dog has its day.

Truth be told I regret every single moment

 I am not pissed, angry or anything but I am only saying what is on my heart and mind. It is wise to think before you take any action so that you don’t later regret anything. It is usually hard for me to utter my feelings to anyone especially where there is lot of judgments. I am not perfect. I am still learning this life. Allow me to be me. Are you not tired enough that you have already taken my pride away? What more do you want as I don’t think I poses anything of value but life. Or is it my life that you want to yourself? Well that is all up to God to decide.

Take whatever you want from me but hey life is only owned by the Mighty One and I know that one day He will hear my prayers, my cries and Answer me. All things come in the right times. Am not in rush because it is Gods call not mine. Take everything but my soul only belongs to God.

 

WE WILL PROPOSE

WE WILL PROPOSED

BY Rebecca Masina

Aichii ke neng kemo shebile this guy?  I tried by all means to get his attention but luck was not on my side at all. Years went and in my mind I though no this person does not see me the way I see him. Okile wa bona o shwa oe kepela ka motho empa yena a sego mo wena.That breaks the hearts of so many people.

This days when you need or want something you go for it ka nama. Don’t send someone. So it happened that I did not have the guts to confront him and tell him how I feel about him. Honestly what I had and still have is real. I then sent my so trusted friend to help me with the issue that has been troubling me for years. Well for two years and few months.

Few days later only to find out that they are an item. Hehehe that killed me as if I lost something valuable to my life. Well after all I’ve learned that sa mogwera ke saka lol. Joking.

I would make small chats with this guy but hey gwa pala. It was like he was so ignorant or he had someone already. Pelo ne ebaba those days yoh. Leleme le tatagane. That is when I felt how hard it is for some guys to approach girls. For once I was in their shoes.

Time went and hey we grew up and life became life as it is. The other moved and hey, I thought we were never to see each other and even if we do then it would be on that greeting level and nothing else.

Little did I know that guy was also feeling the same way it was just that thing called *gwababa* lol well we both have it ke.

 

STRONGER THAN PRIDE

My love is stronger than pride

By Rebecca Masina

Sheba, when I utter the words I love you, I really mean them. Not everyone mean those words when they speak them, but hey I am not everybody, I am me and I am different. Don’t compare me with the last person you were with. We can all be females but I so truly possess something that not every female does. Hence I say I am me and I don’t live to fix other peoples mistakes.

Accept me as I am and don’t change me, don’t even try because you might not like the change that you would have created. I don’t judge you because you have what and you don’t have what. My love is stronger than pride sweets. Nje ngoba uze ngakhona, I will take you as you are. Bayasho that love alone will not pay bills and all but tlohela bao ko nna. Batho batlo phela ba bolela ka melomo e metelle okare di ostrich.

Do they know what got us together at first? Bo mmaditaba lebo rre ditaba. Whose judging them with their big houses and cars? Haibo leave us alone. My love is stronger than pride. Ungasho ukuthi “sobona niyo phelelaphi” but really that doesn’t matter to us. All we do is love each other unconditionally. Wena stay there with your Evogue guy/lady and enjoy. Tlohela rona bo malambane, ngeke us'khone. We are far more than money and material.

Yeah vele motho waka ke a street vendor so what? #phumakithi#.  Sheba/kgona tsa hao.

The society nowadays all they do is to judge other people based on what they do and what they have. So it is like when you don’t have anything it means you don’t deserve to be loved. What is that? Kanty the meaning of love comes with money and something else? Tell us phela we don’t know. Or we interpret it differently?

We only live once, so mara let us love and live this once#ONETIME

“Ebunzimeni siyo themba njalo. Ngeke sililahle ithemba. Noma kumnyama U Somandla Uyosi khanyisela”-we say.

 

Makhwapheni

MAKHWAPHENI

By Rebecca Masina

Hahaha so bophelo bo mnate neh? You even settle for being a side dish. How does it feel though, knowing that you are second best? Better yet knowing that you are just a booty call? Aledi tshabe struu. Anyways everyone has a choice in their lives. We can’t really judge you for being you.

The next moment you are pregnant. Enklek what are you going to tell that baby? “Ke nyatsi ya papa hao”? Lol that sounds nice neh?

Eisan please remind me what are you doing with a side dish? We not saying don’t have one or have one, but aren’t you satisfied at home or? Then if not why not leave the poor lady and continue life with the side dish? Askere if you are not happy, you leave? Cheating is not an option but a choice.

Later there’s a child out of wedlock, demands for maintainance are coming in like a tsunami. How should the main one feel? You come ka excuse, ‘’Monna ke selepe ra adimisana”. Hehehe who taught you that? Is that person educated or? Education does not mean going to school only.
Yes our cultures might say that but aowa this is the 21^st century. People die. There are lots of diseases and innocent people die because of what you call culture. Imagine if that was being done to you.

Kana what is interesting about having multiple guys? All sleeping with you and not protected? What is the gain? Wena you are called “”our meal” and yet you don’t even have a heart to say that hurts but it makes you to rejoice and keep doing it as if you are going to get a degree at the end. Mara vele you will get that dgree called aids and pregnancy not knowing who the real father is.

Ostlaela. This is life not some Disney dream land. Wake up. Take care of your life and body. You ought to know you deserve better than being a side guy/chick. Go out there opportunities re galore.

RESPONSIBLE ROLE PLAYERS

RESPONSIBLE ROLE PLAYERS

By Rebecca Masina

Every kid would like to grow knowing both their parents and also to get both their love. This nowadays not everyone can be a parent. Yes you can have kids but not take responsibilities for them. It is always said that guys don’t care about being parents and that it is a job of a women to take care of the kids.  That might be right but mind you the kids where not only made by one person but two. So as I say both parents are responsible for growing and supporting the kids.

Life is hard. You would even thin that this is the end of the world.  With things that are happening in this life haibo it’s hard to tell some things. People love each other so dearly that they even promise each other trains on a tar road. Come pregnancy one has to run away. Huh! How right is that?

Oh kana its women’s month neh!! Guess what? Not all women with or without kids can take care or responsibilities of their children or their siblings. Ngwana o hodiswa ke sechaba, but this days you will hear them saying “ase ngwana waka”. We praise women so bad that we forget that they are not all innocent. Mosadi otshwara thipa ka bogaleng, mara nou so, you will hear and see babies being abandoned some found dead as fetus in dustbins. What kind of a woman does that? That is taking down the pride of all women around the world.

Clinics are made for a reason. Yeah those nurses might be rude and all but it is your life after all. Take responsibility for it and stop killing innocent souls.

We as women turn to give men wrong names and insult them hence some turn to give up when it comes to supporting their kids. Not every guy will run away from their responsibility but we as women we push them away.  There are a lot of guys out there that would love to be part of their children’s life but because of their situations they are denied access to them. Then later they name and shame them of not being responsible for their actions.

Guys out there do hustle. You loved him from the beginning knowing that he has nothing but today you have a kid with him you deny him access to see his kid just because “ke malambane” really now? When the kid grows and asks for his/her father you tell him/her that they abandoned him/her. Haibo mosadi keng nah?

BIG UPS TO ALL RESPONSIBLE FATHERS OUT THERE.

 

 

 

HELLO CHEATERS

CHEATERS

BY Rebecca Masina

No woman deserves to be treated like second class, especially the mother of your kids. Be of you are still together or not. Imagine if someone was to treat your mother or your sister like second class, how would you feel about that?

Treat her like the queen she was when you first met her and lied to her that you love her and promised her the world. You told her she is your everything, but today you are cheating on her as if she does not exist. You even do it in front of her to show her how proud you are about what you are doing.

Look she will stay and keep trying to get you back because she loves you and she needs her kids to grow up knowing their father. “O tshwara thipa ka bogaleng byale kage mosadi aswanetse kego dira”. You taking her efforts for granted and the worst part of it is that you are physically and emotionally abusing her.

Do you know how hard it is to keep calm and let things be? Do you know how hard it is to tolerate the things you man do? We get hurt and we heal ourselves because of the love we have for you yet you still find cheating as an achievement.

Ore monna ke thari wa naba? Hebanna! Did she sign for that? Remember you told her that she’s the only women in your life? Remember you told her you are a one women man? What is all that? Keng neo mo shayashaya so that she will agree to everything you say? Tjo osehlogo shem sies arg

Tomorrow you will bring sickness in the house and next minute you will be blaming her saying she’s the one who brought the sickness when you know very well she has been loyal to you all the time and you are the one who messed up. Cheating never brought good things into a relationship. If you are not happy then set her free.

Why don’t you let her go? Every time she tries to leave you threaten her and you even promise to change but that’s all a lie. What if someone did all that to your own blood? What are you teaching your kids? Your siblings? Keng ke setso sabo lena sere byao?

What is it that she lacks, that makes you to go outside and look for it? Can’t you sit down and talk to her? I doubt what you do is what real man do.
If she’s truly our women then treat her with respect or let her leave.
She deserves better than that.

psychcentral.com
 

 

YOU WALKED AWAY

YOU WALKED AWAY

BY Rebecca Masina

You chose to walk away when I needed you most. You did not even show that you cared or at least pretend you did. You were straight forward with me. I felt like I was used, like you had your own mission with me and that you have completed your mission now you are moving on.

You do know that everything you do will have an effect in your life neh? Even if it is not today or the next day but eventually it will catch up with you. Well that is what we call karma. Only if you knew how much you meant to me. But hey it is your choice after all. No one is allowed to force another person to stay. If you are not happy, you should feel free to move on. Your happiness comes first.

I did a lot for you. I sacrificed my job for you, sold my property for you, I chose you above all of them yet you walked away when I needed you the most. I was left with nothing. My family turned against me, my friends even forgot my name and my existence all because of you. It is not a blame game but I am just letting you know how it hurts inside. When you chose to walk away a huge scar was left on my whole body. Even today it cannot be removed. I was in and out of hospital, not knowing what is wrong with me.

That was the thank you I got for putting you first in my life and leaving all important people who cared and loved me outside. I chose you and forgot them. Today I am blessed and have managed to get my life on track. You hear of my sudden success then out of nowhere you re appear with your endless excuses of apologies and me being me I have to forgive you and pretend that nothing happened just because I love you? For the sake of what we share?

Khohlwa…Forget…Lebala

That is not going to happen this time. Your charms will not work this time. I have learnt a lot from the lesson you gave me.  No one should put a stranger above family.  You chose to walk away in my deepest hurtful days so please keep walking even in my successful days.

 

MY GANGSTER LOVE

God's Gift To Me...Kagiso

MY GANGSTER LOVE

By Rebecca Masina

Life changing moment. One that I shall never in my life forget.
It may not have been a happy nine months, the pains, cravings but gosh the Gift,
the Blessing that I got from God is so wonderful. I cant seem to get my eyes off.
He, the Almighty blessed me with an angel. I then named the angel Kagiso Oatlegile Masina (Peace and Success).
she's quiet a feisty one, gives me sleepless nights but Oh Lord I thank you.
She brings joy to my life. My days used to boring. always alone but now I've got a friend.
I cannot say she's only my daughter, nope she's also my friend now that I no longer spend my days alone.

All those things you hear about having a baby and motherhood are all true hey. All of them are beautiful and painful yet amazing experience.

I have come to terms with the fact that I am no longer the center of my own universe when I became a mom to my Gift Kagiso. She has now taken the
spot and became the center of my universe. It is so crazy how drastic even small things change in such amazing way, even silly things like
my phone used to have my pictures only and be all about me but now Kagiso has taken over yet she cannot talk lol. such love though.

Well the wait was not good for me as some pregnant women may say. I did not enjoy a bit being pregnant.
I just couldn't wait to hold her. I was impatient. Asking my self lots of questions. If I will be able to do this motherhood thing,
I thought I would break, I wont be able to do it. I am one selfish person. Everything is always about me.
but little Kagiso has taught me to be selfless and to give freely so. So much has changed. but my crazy, shy self is still there..

I've brought a new life to earth. Things are about to get real. Challenges, huge ones are coming my way, but I know with God nothing is impossible
He wouldn't put me were I am today and leave me. He has plans and I mean Great plans for me. Bringing a soul to earth is not a child's play that I can say.
It is not something that I can do again also lol. I pray to God to protect and give Kagiso the life that she deserves.
Respect her parents and make her to appreciate what God has given her and live a Godly life.

Now this special lady who was there all months, making sure I feel better and keeps me company. I would like to thank her very much
and ask God to bless her with everything she wants in life. Lebogang Mamabolo. I thank you so much. There are no words to describe how much
all you did means to me. Not everyone could/would do what you did for me. Your support made it possible for me to bring Kagiso. Dankie.

 

Motherhood.. all love begins and ends there. I am so looking forward to this journey with my princess and God bless us with much much much Love.

Lee

 

baby Kgosigadi

 

 

 

 

HEITA MAGENTS

HEITA MAGENTS

By Rebecca Masina

Askere ntse hole monate when you guys were in bed or where ever you were doing it without protection? so don't come here with your nonsense and tell them to abort. i think you know what are the consequences of having unprotected sex. she is not the only one who is having sex, but the both of you. so it is both your responsibility to take precautions. most of the time females are expected to be the ones who are supposed to be taking precautions but that is wrong. both partners are suppose to be taking it. for as long as you are not ready to become a parent or be responsible for someone, then taking precaution should be the first thing on your mind when such things are about to take place.  you can be in a steamy position but remember it will only last for few minutes and the responsibility will last for ever. 
monate rao rata strong vele but lets love it with carefulness. why omo rotela if you  don't love her or plan to have a future with her? ebe she keeps the baby then you go around telling people that she is trying to trap you with the baby enklek who said ko wena don't wear a condom?. ai suka wena, be real.  real men dont put such blames on women as they make them look lame and stupid. it completes their status IQ. Females do also blame males for the  things that they also know that they should have prevented from happening. keng did that guy tell you he will love you more if omofa ka nama? lol look what happenes now. o pusha six pack and yena o phusha new chikita. keng what were you hoping for? miracle? well hard luck sistas o spat and ena hes moved on. majita a byao fela.
a wise guy knows how to act responsible and also do things responsibly. not only thinking about themselves but also the next person. simple sex can ruin your future lala. nkabe tlabe ele ngwana wa morago. bula mahlo...same as speed kills. ho mathela dilo tsesa ho tshwannang. otla e tshola lovey. ntho e monate hae tshabe.

HOW COULD YOU

How could you

By Rebecca Masina

All this while you were playing me kanti? Why did you not tell me that we are only playing and you are not into the commitment things? Why did you let me fall so hard for you? Dude I gave you my all. I gave you my heart and this is the thanks I get? Haowa you can’t be serious. You just broke my heart and you are smiling about it. How could you? Why vele?

Ko social media o bua ka nna as if I am obsessed with you. As if am the one who followed you and approached you. As if ntse keo jisitse korobela. Haa mara my guy really vele? I guess where we love most it is where we are not loved or we not going to get the love back.

Sheba abuti, nna kao rata neh? Bona wa nketsa. From the start nje I didn’t have doubts about you, about us. What I have for you is real. Mara if that’s how you want it to be then I can’t force you to love me because that is where am going to keep hurting myself even more. You keep showing up with different girls but I never asked you to why you doing that to me.

Kana bare Karma is a bitch. Well I don’t know if that is meant for me or not. Mara retla bona. Se sesa feleng sa hlola. What goes around comes around. Am not obsessed or anything, am just shocked. The love I gave you, I swear there’s no one that can exceed that. Am not cursing am just wishing you the best that’s all.

Nna kao rata shem.  

 

 

THE BOOK OF LOVE

THE BOOK OF LOVE

By Rebecca Masina

Love at first… you are not only able to love yourself but to also love your better half unconditionally. Love is something else. It cannot be defined, it is UN explainable yet we love like there is no tomorrow. We fall in love and do crazy stupid things; but it is a great feeling to do them. We go all the way to impress and satisfy our better halves. We go to the extremes to make and keep them happy.

This is my story…. The best thing which might be the one thing that kills me is that I love without limit. I may not be the best lover a guy can ever ask for, but I don’t lessen my love. When I love I love, but the question is do I get the same love back? It is not easy to love with your whole heart and still stick around even though you do not receive the love back or to be cheated on. Cheating comes in many ways. It may not be with another person but not receiving the love that you deserve is also cheating from your better half.

If one does not love, then they should make it clear to the next person that they do not love them the way they think that they are loved. Tell them straight that they are just for time pushing; tell them that they should not get their hopes high with the relationship. Giving people false hope hurts hey, big time.

Well I loved and truly loved but I never got the same love back. Maybe it was me, but I have noticed that no, it was not me but the people that I fall in love with, they do not have the same motive as me. They had their own plans and motives and they were not love but time pushing. One even kept me a secret for over four years but because of the love I had; I did not worry about that.

Well after all those years of playing and all, and then I met M*, well then that is where real love was shown and appreciated. Gosh it felt like a dream. M* loved and so did I. I have never in my life experienced love like that. It was so good, great. I couldn’t have asked for a better guy in my life. Thought that I will spend my life with him. *A girl is allowed to over dream lol* Well then life happened. Someone played the right music and won him to the dance.

I seemed to have lost hope afterwards. I will never find the right person for me. That was when I was wrong about everything. Love finds you, not the other way. Well then I decided to stay single for a long time which it was not that long when friends from MGI have invited me to come and celebrate one of our friends birthday with. I have just turned 22 and it was a great feeling. At the party I never even thought that I will find love or fall in love. I was a jolly person, having fun was the plan and it is what I did. Days passed and weeks also then suddenly a guy whom was on the party messaged me.

We became friends and spoke a lot till we decided to meet and enjoy the day of reconciliation together with his friends at his Kasi. It was a great day, meeting people and getting to know kasi.  The same day we fell in love. As Rebecca I thought it was only a time pushing thing as I have given up on love. Days and time passed and I realised that this guy cannot be a pass–a-by but a guy for keeps.

Well I stopped everything for him. Neglected my friends, life and focused on him. He is my world, my king. I would do anything just to be with him. We spent the whole December together as if we were married. He did not take time to introduce me to his family. That’s a point where I saw that games are over and it is time to focus on real life. The days of playing are over, the days of fooling around.

He makes me laugh, we spend more time together that even his friends were so jealous that I was taking him away from them. Time passed and love grew even bigger but to the disappointment of it he wanted me to cut off some of the most important people in my life which it was not part of the plan. Relationships are hard to keep. You have to compromise somewhere somehow. Nothing comes easy in life if it is meant to be.

We all have our own views of perfect/good relationship. The one I am in no one could define it. We forgot that we have friends. All we did was to be with one another and the rest did not matter. It is like nothing exists but the two of us. It is like that love that you only read about in books and see in the movies.

I am not bragging about it because nothing lasts forever but what I do is to cherish the love that I get and be thankful to the Lord for such a blessing He is about to bless us with.

Love without Limit... appreciate the little you get.

Miss Masina.