NGWAGA O MOSWA- NEW YEAR

Ola my people, so hope ya'll missed me neh? Lol I know even though you would pretend you didn’t. Well I know for a fact that you keep opening my site thinking that maybe and just maybe I forgot to post a blog on my social networks. Lol well I too like you was on holiday. Anyways Compliments of the new season my awesome people. Hope you all had an awesome, super December hey! Me did, I got to know some part of my family that I never knew existed. Wow and the amazing part was meeting one of the craziest cousin of mine called *ponds* Selby is his real name.

Alright back to real life now. So now it is the time that we prepare to see the results of December mhm... so can’t wait to see what it has brought to 2014. No no no don’t be scared, you did not do anything wrong did you? Huh you still thinking about it? Lol got you right, keep thinking.

We did spend time with our families, had a lot of fun and closed 2013 with a great bang. We are all hoping that 2014 will be the best year for all of us right?. Some of you have set up new year’s resolutions which you know very well that you wont keep. Hahaha we watching you. Lots of lives were lost and love also lost along the way, but then this is the time to redeem your self to the good things in life. Aim high so that when you fall you don’t just fall right at the bottom. Always have plan B for whatever that you plan to do or achieve.

Continue to love and respect others. Do unto others as you would also love them to do unto you. This is life; we all need each other to survive. You came alone to this world but you need people to survive. Respect God and His Words. Respects elders at all times. Remember everything you do has its consequences. We hope and pray to see no abortions and teenage pregnancies. We pray to see more 21^st birthday parties too. Except what you can’t have in life. No sugar daddies hey!

Happy new year everyone!!!  

ONLY 13 BUT GOING WILD

Adolescent kicked in so much earlier in her. Now she’s driving her parents crazy, they are scared she might do something that can disgrace then, even more makes her life a tough one like being a mother at a young age. She’s still in grade 9 but her actions are those of a 21 year young lady. On weekends she doesn’t sleep at home. They call her and she drops and switches it off the next day she changes her number and refuses her family to have the number.

Her family tries by all means to give her guidance, talk to her about life and all that but all seem to have fallen to a person whom can’t hear. This is only the beginning. Imagine when she reaches 18 year, what will she be doing? The worst thing, she replies back to her elders when they try to talk to her. She’s totally uncontrollable. Only 13 but you can’t touch her. The more you try to talk to her it seems like it is the more you push her to do the things she is doing.

Her elder sister is only 21 and by 4 O’clock she’s already at home. But that is her time to go out instead. Her home is so comfortable, loving and very respected. Recently she has joined the life style of the so called “SKHOTHANI”.Well this is only the beginning I tell you. The 13year old is forever demanding money and never tells what she wants to use it for. The other day she was just nagging her mother to get a gold tooth for her.

Is this the future? Is that life? The names of the expensive shoes she names, the language she uses, her attitude? Lots of role models within her house yet she never gets motivated even a bit. She doesn’t see her clothes as attractive lately, so she wears her friend’s clothes and you would ask where she got them and she will proudly reply you.

All the family has is hope for the better to come..

AUSI, ABUTI PHAPHAMA

Are you that one girl that they only miss, call and text when they want sex? Haaa excuse me but they using you shame. And there you are charmed by those flashy cars that they still owe, telling you that they bought it cash. Enklek what do you gain there? What are the benefits? Is it the gifts, food and the clothes they buy you only to find out they did not even buy them his sister did not like them because she has good taste, then he just decided to keep them till he gets bored and horney then calls you and surprises you and wena with lack of taste in fashion and good things you feel like he bought you life, just because you are an idiot you also think the guy likes you and all that then two minutes later you open your legs. You are his distraction from his problems just so you know plus he is taking advantage unless you are also up for game.

 Have you ever asked yourself, where does he stay because he always takes you to cheap motels, which you think they are expensive. He never even mention the word love yet you tell us that you are in love saying (chomie hape nna ka ratiwa) lol you will tell us the day you realise that you are actually HIV positive or suffering from any sexually transmitted disease and being pregnant then him not to be found. KHUZEKA NTOMBI.

Your background should not be the reason you do such things. “You have means to achieve your dreams and men are not the answer”.

Are you that one guy that girls miss and be friendly, pretend to love when they are bored and want to go out and they call you because you have a flashy car and money and they call you “kgogo ya rona” ao hahaha shame phaphama (wakeup) baho hloba strong! They keep giving you false hope of love. Ai shem ngwana batho just because wena you love them and you are too blind to see that you are being used, you keep falling for their tricks.

Yah neh the world is messed up, but retlareng? That’s how things work these days. Go rough mo ntle mo. Being sweet and all that good won’t work but they will take advantage unless you also have your own motives.

For everything you do, there’s always going to be a result for it.

THE GIFT OF GIVING

It is almost time for the festive season. The time for spending and having good times with family and friends.

In these times do you ever think of those that don’t have anything to eat, drink and dress? It is heartbreaking to see someone suffering at the same time looking at you whilst you are having fun. Where’s the love? Can’t we share?
Out there, there are Non Governmental Organisations that helps people from all over the world with homes, food and better life. Those organisations are everywhere. Spread love and help them know how it is to be loved and appreciated mostly how it is to have fun once in a while. Most of the people have lost their families, homes due to fire or crucial accidents. They ran from their families due to abuse.
Give them love, even if it is not love but whatever you give them make sure it comes from the heart. That person will forever cherish that moment and thank you. Have you seen that most of the people who are thankful for the life that they are given are those that don’t have anything in life?
The gift of giving back is when you open your heart and give the love to those that need it. It doesn’t have to be materialistic. There more you give back the more the Blessings from God come.  Give help to anyone, it can be your neighbour or a stranger. God gave you the power to give back, use it.
This time have the heart of giving and make someone else life different. Make someone smile once in a while. Give that street kid a blanket. Show them where they can go for safety and better life. Dress that kid to school. Do anything that can change their perspective view of the world. Give them hope.
If you don’t know which organisation you can make donations to or to contact, then ask around or email me at rebecccateffo@gmail.com or call me on 0745696220.

Make someone’s life a better one, change their suicidal thinking.

YOU CANT KEEP A MAN BY HAVING HIS CHILD

Girl listen you can’t keep a man by having a kid with him. “Mmapelo oja serati”. If you not the one he loves then it’s a waste to have a baby with him let alone to plan the future with him. You are simply wasting time. “Otsamaya ntse ona le bana ba hae”. Anyways does this mean that whenever you are in a relationship and that person wants to leave, you are going to have his baby? How many kids are you going to have with different fathers? Well that’s not life at all.

Are you that desperate? Just because he earn millions and lives in an expensive apartment and treats you right, that doesn’t mean he’s yours and that doesn’t mean you should have his baby so that he can stay with you forever. “Se sesa feleng sea hlola”. Everything has its beginning and ending. He might have promised you heaven and earth but if he doesn’t love you or want you, then those promises will never be fulfilled. No love is worth forcing. That is total obsession.

When he says he wants to leave, feel free to let him leave. It’s no use to fight for a relationship to work whilst it is only one person trying and another one not even showing an effort. Well we know love is something else and it can make one to do strange things. Just so you know you simply cannot keep a man by having his kid. That is more like a threat to force him to love you. When love is gone its gone sweets, it won’t come back unless by some sort of miracle. There's more of how to keep a man but not with a baby.

Learn to let go. Yeah yeah we know it is hard but the sooner you realise you are not loved the better. There might not be another guy like him but I am sure there’s one whose more than him. You deserve better.

MGOSI

I always smile, make jokes, laugh at all times and I make sure that everybody who is around me is always happy. As long as I see everyone happy and smiling, and knowing that I am the reason behind that, then I know my heart is at peace and my God is watching over me and blessing me with more love to give.

Behind all the great things that I do, the love and respect that I give back to everyone, there is actually a brutally broken heart. I am a quiet person, whom enjoys life and taking it easy at all times and give thanks to the Lord at all times. Good or bad I always pray to God to give me strength to live to see more years and to be able to achieve my goals and dreams.
We all have those bad days, where your heart is being played with. Well I’ve never thought that I will allow myself to be heartbroken. I always thought that those who get their hearts broken are the weak hearted. Don’t get me wrong I am strong young lady and I stand my ground if I want something I make sure that is of goodness to my life and won’t hurt the ones around me.

I am a crazy person yet I never go wild. I am a risk taker yet I play it safe at all times. But there is this one thing called love. Damn that word is so beautiful and can do a lot yet people turn to play with it and torture the hearts of the innocents. Mh well here is my story.

When I love, I love so badly. I try by all means to give it my best. I believe with honesty, trust, comfort and communication there’s nothing that can break a relationship with those. But lies, deceit never grew a relationship. No relationship ever lasted with that. I loved and gave it my all and told myself that this is it. No more games and no more lies. Here I am to stay. Little did I know that my so called boyfriend (askere ka nako eo reba bitsa bo HUBBY lol) was in love with someone and that someone was not me. Lol and girl is awesome and has the looks but not the brains. So since well am literate I think I was a bit of job to handle.

Yoh guy knew how to treat his lady that even if you were to be told that he is cheating you wouldn’t believe it or you can see that he is cheating or flirting yet you still refuse to see the truth.  Yep that was me Blinded by love. All the signs were there it was just me being in denial. It hurts to love where you are not loved. Most hurting thing is that we love were we are not loved and reject where we are truly loved.

It wasn’t about the money or the material but only love. Yet the name was put into mud and stomped.  Ow or maybe uz’thandela ama bencane mmm as u call them.

always happy..thanks to the one who messed up now I got the right one *dead* 

To think that the lady being cheated with is only five (5) years younger.lol yeah I also thought that too (rape), hahahha am joking. Did not even finish school; she dropped out of high school.  Innocent hearts are always the ones that get hurt. There’s more to the story but cannot write about it. A leopard will never change its spots. Lesson learnt.

THAT ONE GUY “KE BHARI”

Every time you fall in love with a guy, there will always be another guy telling you that “o jola le bhari”. Am I lying? Anyways what makes him to think that he’s the right guy for you because the other one “ke bhari”?. If the guy “ke bhari” then what are you? Clever? Shame poor you. Well I’ve met a lot of guys telling me that one lame line. You will find out the person telling you that your guy “ke bhari” doesn’t even bath let alone have dreams and goals to archive something in their lives. People need to grow up really. If you are that one guy that does that then you really need help. It’s simple “GET A LIFE”.

Excuse me “clever” you simply not my type. You see that “bhari”? Yeah that’s my type. Ere nna le bhari yaka reje bo bhari ba rena ka kgotso.  I love and am proud to say am happy le bhari yaka, wena go look for di clever. I love di bhari vele, askere wena o clever otla nhlalefela, so nope am good le bhari yaka. Life is amazing hey. Don’t let them fool you or play you.  Especially di “clever”. Haa sies if you that kind of a person.

In fact that bhari “HE SPINS MY WORLD AROUND”!

MY MOM, MY WORLD!

O ke waka and for that am very much thankful for having her in my life. Not everybody has the chance and moment to be with their mothers. Some lost theirs at an early age and so on. “God please protect my mother at all times, Amen”. Yoh I don’t have words for my mom. She’s simply the world, the best, she’s amazing. I’ve always given her hard times but she still stood there by me.

She’s a quiet, down to earth woman. The heart that she has WOW... it’s amazing. I would like to believe that I am where I am today because of her. I’ve got love, respect from her. She taught me a lot. “Ha Modimo amo okeletse matsatsi aho phela, mahlogonolo le bohlale”. She one in a million. Hlompho le boikokobetso I got it from her.

I always thank God for making her my mother. I think out of the four children she has, I am the one who gives her the worst headache ever, but it’s only out of love. She understands lol. Best moments with her. I would steal her car to school and she would shout at me and seconds after laugh. Hehehe oh oh ho did I say I just turned 21? Ow yeah ow yeah I did. Ahahahhahaha lol I just shut all the haters big mouths. No babies but respect for her. Hahaha I’ve made her the proudest mother ever. Ola mama waka!!! Lol I love my mom people. I just don’t know how to express the feeling. Will always keep the love and respect for her.

One promise I can’t keep though “I can’t stop driving her car, I like it”, and playing deep house music louder at night lol will always fight about that but out of love. People learn to love, honour and respect your parents while they still alive. Hlompha mmaho le ntate wa hao hore matsatsi a hao a bophelo atle a ate.

MOMMY, RIBSY LOVES YOU ALWAYS!

IS AGE AN OBSTACLE TO LOVE

Does age matter when it comes to love/relationships?.For some, dating someone who is older or younger is not out of the question. Some girls find older man more attractive, mature and stable.  Wena what kind of a better half would you like to have? Lol this I can’t wait to see the replies. Love is overrated these days.  There is no true love these days. If it is there then, it’s rare. Life is a bit rough out there. It’s quiet interesting how older men like younger women and younger women prefer older women.

Here comes the new trend....... abo maBen10 lol *deathbylaughter* so this is the in thing. A good looking lady with everything that she wants then decides to lose her mind and date a guy who is 10 to 15 years younger than her. What is happening to this world? Well as for me I can’t wait for the new in thing after Ben10’s.

 Ok so age doesn’t matter when it comes to love, as long as you guys love and support each other? Yoh kana what are your parents or family saying about that? Ooooh lol you don’t care right? Thought so too.  You still keep each other a secret. Till when? Lol when he divorces his wife and leaves his children? Or when she decides to marry you and wena le ben10 you lie to your parents? Lol we are watching....

After all you the master of your own life. Make the right choice      

MY OWN VIEW, WHAT DO YOU THINK?

Do you believe in love at first site? Hahaha and soul mates? You must be joking right?. I honestly do not believe in such but when it happens, it’s said one can feel it in their hearts. As @Miss Masina I find it hard to tell if I did fell in love at first site lol tough... things we go through in life though. Funny enough one can believe that love is powerful and when you find it, you would never want to stop loving. Well can I get someone whom fell in love at first site five years ago and that person is the same age as me, to tell me that even today it still feels like it was the first day? NO that only used to happen to our parents and grandparents because by then they were not misusing the word.  Hee bathong!!! Am not being stereotypical, but am only asking. I asked one lady who replied to me and said “@Miss Masina just because you have never met someone whom you really like or experienced true love, it doesn’t mean love at first site does not exist. It actually does exist”. Lol for her own information... love is just overrated to me and am taking it easy in that department *hides*. Once beaten twice as shy. Am sure you get my drift akere motho wa motho o bamo jelang? *death by laughter*.

With our generation, these days it is not easy to believe in a words like”love”. Many misuse it. It has lost its true meaning. These days when you agree to love it means you agree to being played, beaten, and bragged on, sex and booze...any objections? Thought as much... ebile batho ba jelwa this days... wena o busy working hard to make a living for both you and your partner and yena o busy ka dilo tse snax...then you come to me ka di “love at first site” mxm ska mbora lol nna ketlao bolella taba tsa hao... he banna there we go again... where have u heard me saying nna am perfect? Lol wa bona wa thoma? Well let’s put things into perspective, I am not perfect, yet I strive for perfection, just not in a desperate way like wena *oops sorry* kera someone not wena.

Tip: enjoy life responsibly and be careful sweets fact is #WA JELWA

MAKE SOMEONES LIFE WORTH LIVING

Not all of us have access to the fancy life. Some of us long to just have a glimpse of it, taste of it. Life ain't easy. Not all of us can make it to the big world and get to experience the good life. It is tough out there. One goes to the fancy schools, fancy shopping malls and eats and dress fancy while some of us have to hustle to make it to the top.
ow well have you once thought about those who don't even own a pair of school shoes, They go to school bare footed, in a week they only have access to food once. Can we work together to help these people?Can you make a difference in life and make someone to have hope and faith in their lives because of you? life is precious but do not enjoy it on your own, help others to have and live the same life as you.
it hurts me to see people with advantages to the good life but yet they waste it while out there, there are people who need that chance so bad.