HELLO CHEATERS

CHEATERS

BY Rebecca Masina

No woman deserves to be treated like second class, especially the mother of your kids. Be of you are still together or not. Imagine if someone was to treat your mother or your sister like second class, how would you feel about that?

Treat her like the queen she was when you first met her and lied to her that you love her and promised her the world. You told her she is your everything, but today you are cheating on her as if she does not exist. You even do it in front of her to show her how proud you are about what you are doing.

Look she will stay and keep trying to get you back because she loves you and she needs her kids to grow up knowing their father. “O tshwara thipa ka bogaleng byale kage mosadi aswanetse kego dira”. You taking her efforts for granted and the worst part of it is that you are physically and emotionally abusing her.

Do you know how hard it is to keep calm and let things be? Do you know how hard it is to tolerate the things you man do? We get hurt and we heal ourselves because of the love we have for you yet you still find cheating as an achievement.

Ore monna ke thari wa naba? Hebanna! Did she sign for that? Remember you told her that she’s the only women in your life? Remember you told her you are a one women man? What is all that? Keng neo mo shayashaya so that she will agree to everything you say? Tjo osehlogo shem sies arg

Tomorrow you will bring sickness in the house and next minute you will be blaming her saying she’s the one who brought the sickness when you know very well she has been loyal to you all the time and you are the one who messed up. Cheating never brought good things into a relationship. If you are not happy then set her free.

Why don’t you let her go? Every time she tries to leave you threaten her and you even promise to change but that’s all a lie. What if someone did all that to your own blood? What are you teaching your kids? Your siblings? Keng ke setso sabo lena sere byao?

What is it that she lacks, that makes you to go outside and look for it? Can’t you sit down and talk to her? I doubt what you do is what real man do.
If she’s truly our women then treat her with respect or let her leave.
She deserves better than that.

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YOU WALKED AWAY

YOU WALKED AWAY

BY Rebecca Masina

You chose to walk away when I needed you most. You did not even show that you cared or at least pretend you did. You were straight forward with me. I felt like I was used, like you had your own mission with me and that you have completed your mission now you are moving on.

You do know that everything you do will have an effect in your life neh? Even if it is not today or the next day but eventually it will catch up with you. Well that is what we call karma. Only if you knew how much you meant to me. But hey it is your choice after all. No one is allowed to force another person to stay. If you are not happy, you should feel free to move on. Your happiness comes first.

I did a lot for you. I sacrificed my job for you, sold my property for you, I chose you above all of them yet you walked away when I needed you the most. I was left with nothing. My family turned against me, my friends even forgot my name and my existence all because of you. It is not a blame game but I am just letting you know how it hurts inside. When you chose to walk away a huge scar was left on my whole body. Even today it cannot be removed. I was in and out of hospital, not knowing what is wrong with me.

That was the thank you I got for putting you first in my life and leaving all important people who cared and loved me outside. I chose you and forgot them. Today I am blessed and have managed to get my life on track. You hear of my sudden success then out of nowhere you re appear with your endless excuses of apologies and me being me I have to forgive you and pretend that nothing happened just because I love you? For the sake of what we share?

Khohlwa…Forget…Lebala

That is not going to happen this time. Your charms will not work this time. I have learnt a lot from the lesson you gave me.  No one should put a stranger above family.  You chose to walk away in my deepest hurtful days so please keep walking even in my successful days.

 

MY GANGSTER LOVE

God's Gift To Me...Kagiso

MY GANGSTER LOVE

By Rebecca Masina

Life changing moment. One that I shall never in my life forget.
It may not have been a happy nine months, the pains, cravings but gosh the Gift,
the Blessing that I got from God is so wonderful. I cant seem to get my eyes off.
He, the Almighty blessed me with an angel. I then named the angel Kagiso Oatlegile Masina (Peace and Success).
she's quiet a feisty one, gives me sleepless nights but Oh Lord I thank you.
She brings joy to my life. My days used to boring. always alone but now I've got a friend.
I cannot say she's only my daughter, nope she's also my friend now that I no longer spend my days alone.

All those things you hear about having a baby and motherhood are all true hey. All of them are beautiful and painful yet amazing experience.

I have come to terms with the fact that I am no longer the center of my own universe when I became a mom to my Gift Kagiso. She has now taken the
spot and became the center of my universe. It is so crazy how drastic even small things change in such amazing way, even silly things like
my phone used to have my pictures only and be all about me but now Kagiso has taken over yet she cannot talk lol. such love though.

Well the wait was not good for me as some pregnant women may say. I did not enjoy a bit being pregnant.
I just couldn't wait to hold her. I was impatient. Asking my self lots of questions. If I will be able to do this motherhood thing,
I thought I would break, I wont be able to do it. I am one selfish person. Everything is always about me.
but little Kagiso has taught me to be selfless and to give freely so. So much has changed. but my crazy, shy self is still there..

I've brought a new life to earth. Things are about to get real. Challenges, huge ones are coming my way, but I know with God nothing is impossible
He wouldn't put me were I am today and leave me. He has plans and I mean Great plans for me. Bringing a soul to earth is not a child's play that I can say.
It is not something that I can do again also lol. I pray to God to protect and give Kagiso the life that she deserves.
Respect her parents and make her to appreciate what God has given her and live a Godly life.

Now this special lady who was there all months, making sure I feel better and keeps me company. I would like to thank her very much
and ask God to bless her with everything she wants in life. Lebogang Mamabolo. I thank you so much. There are no words to describe how much
all you did means to me. Not everyone could/would do what you did for me. Your support made it possible for me to bring Kagiso. Dankie.

 

Motherhood.. all love begins and ends there. I am so looking forward to this journey with my princess and God bless us with much much much Love.

Lee

 

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HEITA MAGENTS

HEITA MAGENTS

By Rebecca Masina

Askere ntse hole monate when you guys were in bed or where ever you were doing it without protection? so don't come here with your nonsense and tell them to abort. i think you know what are the consequences of having unprotected sex. she is not the only one who is having sex, but the both of you. so it is both your responsibility to take precautions. most of the time females are expected to be the ones who are supposed to be taking precautions but that is wrong. both partners are suppose to be taking it. for as long as you are not ready to become a parent or be responsible for someone, then taking precaution should be the first thing on your mind when such things are about to take place.  you can be in a steamy position but remember it will only last for few minutes and the responsibility will last for ever. 
monate rao rata strong vele but lets love it with carefulness. why omo rotela if you  don't love her or plan to have a future with her? ebe she keeps the baby then you go around telling people that she is trying to trap you with the baby enklek who said ko wena don't wear a condom?. ai suka wena, be real.  real men dont put such blames on women as they make them look lame and stupid. it completes their status IQ. Females do also blame males for the  things that they also know that they should have prevented from happening. keng did that guy tell you he will love you more if omofa ka nama? lol look what happenes now. o pusha six pack and yena o phusha new chikita. keng what were you hoping for? miracle? well hard luck sistas o spat and ena hes moved on. majita a byao fela.
a wise guy knows how to act responsible and also do things responsibly. not only thinking about themselves but also the next person. simple sex can ruin your future lala. nkabe tlabe ele ngwana wa morago. bula mahlo...same as speed kills. ho mathela dilo tsesa ho tshwannang. otla e tshola lovey. ntho e monate hae tshabe.

HOW COULD YOU

How could you

By Rebecca Masina

All this while you were playing me kanti? Why did you not tell me that we are only playing and you are not into the commitment things? Why did you let me fall so hard for you? Dude I gave you my all. I gave you my heart and this is the thanks I get? Haowa you can’t be serious. You just broke my heart and you are smiling about it. How could you? Why vele?

Ko social media o bua ka nna as if I am obsessed with you. As if am the one who followed you and approached you. As if ntse keo jisitse korobela. Haa mara my guy really vele? I guess where we love most it is where we are not loved or we not going to get the love back.

Sheba abuti, nna kao rata neh? Bona wa nketsa. From the start nje I didn’t have doubts about you, about us. What I have for you is real. Mara if that’s how you want it to be then I can’t force you to love me because that is where am going to keep hurting myself even more. You keep showing up with different girls but I never asked you to why you doing that to me.

Kana bare Karma is a bitch. Well I don’t know if that is meant for me or not. Mara retla bona. Se sesa feleng sa hlola. What goes around comes around. Am not obsessed or anything, am just shocked. The love I gave you, I swear there’s no one that can exceed that. Am not cursing am just wishing you the best that’s all.

Nna kao rata shem.  

 

 

THE BOOK OF LOVE

THE BOOK OF LOVE

By Rebecca Masina

Love at first… you are not only able to love yourself but to also love your better half unconditionally. Love is something else. It cannot be defined, it is UN explainable yet we love like there is no tomorrow. We fall in love and do crazy stupid things; but it is a great feeling to do them. We go all the way to impress and satisfy our better halves. We go to the extremes to make and keep them happy.

This is my story…. The best thing which might be the one thing that kills me is that I love without limit. I may not be the best lover a guy can ever ask for, but I don’t lessen my love. When I love I love, but the question is do I get the same love back? It is not easy to love with your whole heart and still stick around even though you do not receive the love back or to be cheated on. Cheating comes in many ways. It may not be with another person but not receiving the love that you deserve is also cheating from your better half.

If one does not love, then they should make it clear to the next person that they do not love them the way they think that they are loved. Tell them straight that they are just for time pushing; tell them that they should not get their hopes high with the relationship. Giving people false hope hurts hey, big time.

Well I loved and truly loved but I never got the same love back. Maybe it was me, but I have noticed that no, it was not me but the people that I fall in love with, they do not have the same motive as me. They had their own plans and motives and they were not love but time pushing. One even kept me a secret for over four years but because of the love I had; I did not worry about that.

Well after all those years of playing and all, and then I met M*, well then that is where real love was shown and appreciated. Gosh it felt like a dream. M* loved and so did I. I have never in my life experienced love like that. It was so good, great. I couldn’t have asked for a better guy in my life. Thought that I will spend my life with him. *A girl is allowed to over dream lol* Well then life happened. Someone played the right music and won him to the dance.

I seemed to have lost hope afterwards. I will never find the right person for me. That was when I was wrong about everything. Love finds you, not the other way. Well then I decided to stay single for a long time which it was not that long when friends from MGI have invited me to come and celebrate one of our friends birthday with. I have just turned 22 and it was a great feeling. At the party I never even thought that I will find love or fall in love. I was a jolly person, having fun was the plan and it is what I did. Days passed and weeks also then suddenly a guy whom was on the party messaged me.

We became friends and spoke a lot till we decided to meet and enjoy the day of reconciliation together with his friends at his Kasi. It was a great day, meeting people and getting to know kasi.  The same day we fell in love. As Rebecca I thought it was only a time pushing thing as I have given up on love. Days and time passed and I realised that this guy cannot be a pass–a-by but a guy for keeps.

Well I stopped everything for him. Neglected my friends, life and focused on him. He is my world, my king. I would do anything just to be with him. We spent the whole December together as if we were married. He did not take time to introduce me to his family. That’s a point where I saw that games are over and it is time to focus on real life. The days of playing are over, the days of fooling around.

He makes me laugh, we spend more time together that even his friends were so jealous that I was taking him away from them. Time passed and love grew even bigger but to the disappointment of it he wanted me to cut off some of the most important people in my life which it was not part of the plan. Relationships are hard to keep. You have to compromise somewhere somehow. Nothing comes easy in life if it is meant to be.

We all have our own views of perfect/good relationship. The one I am in no one could define it. We forgot that we have friends. All we did was to be with one another and the rest did not matter. It is like nothing exists but the two of us. It is like that love that you only read about in books and see in the movies.

I am not bragging about it because nothing lasts forever but what I do is to cherish the love that I get and be thankful to the Lord for such a blessing He is about to bless us with.

Love without Limit... appreciate the little you get.

Miss Masina.

SO MUCH HATE YET SO MUCH LOVE

SO MUCH HATE YET SO MUCH LOVE

BY Rebecca Masina

We do things then we regret doing them. We forget that we did them with love, so much love that we were not thinking about the outcomes of them. Have you ever done something with so much love then later regret doing it?  Like giving a hand to someone and they throw it back at you without a thank you. Such what do you about them? Let them pass? Mmhm your choice.

Speaking of choices, have you thought about what you did last night? Was it good, bad? Did it benefit you or the next person? Well sometimes if not every time, we young stars turn to make decision that will only benefit us and not think about the outcome of them until it is late and there is nothing one can do about them. It is not easy to live with regrets, to live with the ‘what if’s’. Those are the mistakes or choices we made and have to live with them and learn how to make better choices next time, it is a learning curve.
Time is precious and how you utilise it is also important. Turning back isn’t an option but fixing whatever that has been broken can be the only option to recovery. Not everything in life will be smooth sailing; well even the rich can confirm that one. Seek help where possible. No one is allowed to judge you as we all make mistakes in life. Not every right way will be right.

In life we learn by numbers!

 

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THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET

THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET

By Rebecca Masina

Have you ever got that feeling that you cannot describe or turn it into an action? Is it a good feeling or a bad feeling? Well such is life, sometimes is hard to explain it. That moment when you are happy and you cannot contain it, what do you do? In life we learn and we teach. We might not see it like that but hey it is what is happening. We learn everyday and somehow it happens that we teach without noticing that we are doing so.

To all my friends who got married/engaged this year congratulations. I mean even those that manage to take other peoples better halves. Well its life right? We are all blessed in different ways. Have you noticed that moment when you have been with your partner for almost a decade and hoping that one day they will wife you, then it happens that you fight or break up due to some reasonable reasons  or not, then they move on to the next person then a few months later you hear they are getting married. THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET. After all the sweats you went through, I wonder what is next after that. Does that mean you were not what they call marriage type or something else?

It is not like we are having doubts that you can or will not last in your marriage but don’t you think it is too early especially when you know you haven’t done anything with your life? Or ist that you will see when you get there? ‘’Yeah our parents also got married at a younger age and they lasted’’. But are you OUR PARENTS? THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET.

In this century nothing is ever the same. Today it happens to never be the same as yesterday. Of course it is a different day and time.

YOU DONT KNOW ME

YOU DONT KNOW ME

By Rebecca Masina

Look I am not in love with you because of your money or any other materialistic things, but I am with you because kao rata nothing more. Wait if you think I am here because of you riches then really, you do not know me at all. You go all around listening to every mouth that stops you and tells you that ‘cheese boy lalela, Kedibone ogo ratela tshelete ya hao’. Then you believe them and start acting weird towards me. Really? Like really?

Last I checked you are the one who came up to me and proposed. Did I ask you if you are loaded or not? Well let me tell you and you shall remember this. Not everyone will appreciate the good that you have. They will always try to run it down for their own benefits. One day I will be gone and you will be looking for me saying ‘nkebe’. We have been together for 6 years now and you only realise that I am after your riches? Ntse rewa re ema together now that’s all forgotten. I practically made you who you are today and that’s how you thank me.

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Ao come December you are nowhere to be found. You have a new number, a new girlfriend for December, you don’t sleep at home. You are always out. I guess you know me only ‘ge tlala e ephile maatla’. This is not a complaint but I am just letting you know that what you saw it is what you going to reap. January to November you know me as I am the one looking after you as if I am your parents or your bank account manager.

Come December because you now have money and bonuses you do not know me, thinking that I want your money. Well congratulations, have fun and come January as always I will be there not because of anything but only because kao rata and nothing more.

 

LOVE VERSUS BROKENESS

By Rebecca Masina

What you have today it is what it is used to measure love in this century. Nowadays it is said that where there is no money there is no love. Mhmm how true is that? When you love shouldn’t that be because of the heart and not money? So does this mean all broke people do not deserve to be loved because of their financial status? Are we all born lucky and blessed? The answer to that is yes but we are all unique, which makes us lucky and blessed in different ways. Life needs to be balanced. We cannot be all financially stable.

What was love before money mattered? Why do we need money in relationships? Or maybe love is money. One should love regardless of money or employment. Most of the people say that dating someone who doesn’t have an income it is not easy and for them it is not acceptable as the partner will rely/depend on them with everything married or not.

While a small percentage of interviewed people say it is not a big deal as long the person remains true and faithful to them and can also keep them happy. All they want is their love and affection nothing beyond that. With all that then there’s no way that money will be a problem as long as they also try to do something with their lives not just sitting at home and expecting to be spoon fed every day. Love is everything then all the materials and money they are just a bonus to them.

What has this world come to? So a good relationship is defined by money these days. No money, no car, no house means one does not deserve to be loved. Not everyone will reach their dreams in time but only God decides when to bless us all. Poor people have to go around stealing money and cars in other to receive love from the ones they love and want to be with. What happens after the money, cars and flashy things have gone? Does the love also vanish and end along with the money/material?

Love is something precious and needs no extra ingredients to add on in order to be special. On its own it is special.

 

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LET THEM WRITE

LET THEM WRITE...

By Rebecca Masina

Let them write. Let them express through writing because it seems like it is the only way of how they can actually say what is eating them, what is inside of them. Writing allows one to express themselves, to tell their feelings. It can be of anger, joy, love, sorrow or happiness, but please just allow them write. They may not know how to tell the way they feel aloud but with written words one will bet you, they can do a better job. It hurts, it really does hurt to lose them but if it is for a good cause then so be it.  You cannot force them, despite of how you may be feeling. What you must know and believe in is that when it is done let it be. Do not force it. Do not close the door for them. It can be a friend, a long time friend, a better half, a long term one; do not refuse them the way.  Set them free. A lot might have happened but sometimes we cannot control how we feel about certain things.

You spend days and weeks thinking about them, thinking of what went wrong and how it all began, how you could have prevented it but either way it was time to let go.  Sometimes our lives, happiness come first then the rest shall follow. It will feels like part of your life has died and about to be buried.  You cannot blame everything on yourself; you will end up losing the good life that the LORD has given you. Well guess se sesa feleng sea hlola. Learn a thing or two from such then move on. Always remember to say NO to abuse. Leave or report it.

LET THEM WRITE