DEAR UNFAIR

DEAR UNFAIR

By Rebecca Masina

Putting up a face is not easy at all. You can do it as many times to try to perfect it but hey it is very hard out there. You always see people out there sitting and saying there are no jobs and you will be thinking “yes there are no jobs because you are sitting here and waiting for a job to come to you”. Well sometimes judging is wrong, concluding without facts it is wrong. We all have dreams. They might be bigger or smaller but the truth remains that we all have dreams. Size does not matter. I for one have been under a lot of strain yet no one can really tell that I have.

Some people out there when they say they tried and they even thinking of giving up, it is not because they are lazy or they are not motivated. Truth is you can go to school and study hard for that certificate, diploma, and degree and to mention a few. At the end you still have to go out there and look for a job. Jobs are scares not to mention that, these days it is all about who you know and not what you have. Our papers these days do not weigh as much. One may be qualified more than the other but just because you don’t know someone, then you lose the opportunity that you worked hard for. That we call “life is hard” oh yes “life is unfair”.

Isn’t that we go to higher institution so that we can better our lives? Yet it seems like it is the more we go deeper into poverty. Names are put for people who try to make money by selling their bodies and judge them, yet we do not know where they come from. We did not walk in their shoes.

People with university papers have been at home for more than 4 four years without jobs. They tried, hustled like nobody’s business, but no luck. On the other hand some have to give out cash to get jobs. How will you be able to give cash that you don’t have in order to get a job? The world we live in. if you go to many companies to check who has the right papers for the positions they are in, well you will see things. “Shockers”. We are told and taught to be entrepreneurs but let’s face it not everyone can be an entrepreneur. Same as not all of us can sing. It has its own people.

some people even resort to crime.

It is said that a prayer helps and Gods timing is always the best. Well it’s all up to how much you believe. No one is opposing that statement but you spend more than a decade after graduating looking for job and you still say Gods timing is always the best? Huh? We pray, we praise and believe but for how long? Pray until something happens.  That statement is always said but those who already made it and I am sure they only saying that and them, themselves did not do it. It is motivation but for how long?

DEAR UNFAIR as we believing.

ITS A LEAP YEAR LADIES

IT’S A LEAP YEAR LADIES.

By Rebecca Masina

http://wis.pr/Nuji

 

It is that month that gets couples closer to each other. Treat each other with more love and gifts. It’s a month that hopefuls also come out and seek other hopefuls. It called a Love Month “kgwedi ya baratani”.  On the 14^th of February couples will be having that extra love and showing more affection to each other. Well that’s to those who enjoy it. Have you got your valentines date yet?

Most people say to them Valentine’s Day is every day or it should be every day. Well I for one think that those people are the ones  that do not have anything to do or anyone to spoil them, so they hating on those who celebrate it. Well get a hobby and leave those who celebrate it to celebrate it. It is not our fault that you don’t have anyone to spoil you. Lol hater! Why aren’t you saying the same things when it is your birthday?

“What a lover’s heart knows let no man’s brain dispute.” ― Aberjhani,

OH well guess what?? It is a leap year. Yeap yes it is ladies. You now don’t have to wait on him to hit on you. This year you can make things happen. He’s been taking too long to open up. Well this is your year, your chance. Tell him how you feel.  “Mo shele”- propose to him. If you don’t then you going to have to wait for another four years dear. Let love rule this month. It is yours. You deserve it.

“If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love”. - Maya Angelou

Love should be happiness, support, communication, loyalty, trust, comfort and fun, fun, fun.

“Most people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.” ― Aberjhani

Rebecca Masina…

 

BEING THE OTHER WOMEN

BEING THE OTHER WOMEN

By Rebecca Masina

How does it feel being the other women and knowing that you are one? Are there any benefits that come with being the other women? What are the gains? How do you respond when they ask you questions about being the other women? How will the first women feel when she finds out that you are busy with their partner and you know of their existence? Are you planning to take her spot? Have you been guaranteed that the spot will soon be yours?

Totally you must be confused. Isn’t it that the first thing that he must have done when he realized that he is in love with you was to leave the person that they are involved with? Oh I forgot that you know of the first women. Keng are you interested in polygamy? Keng banna bafedile or vele wena you are a marriage/relationship breaker?

We are totally not against what you believe in. well after all its your choice but do not expect to be the first as you know there is someone already in that position. Keng it’s called sacrificing for the one you love or you hoping for something or you have plans for that? Lol ai shame some people, you like giving your selves endless and unnecessary jobs/responsibilities.

Holding or trapping him with a baby is not an option my dear. Ba tsamaya ntse hole byao.

Have you ever thought about your reputation? Or you ae that type that does not care about what other people say or think?, obviously it is not about other people but you and your person but hey you must be ready for anything that comes your way. Your life is precious and you deserve better than being second best. No one is opposing anything. It is your life, live it and live it to the fullest.

Love and respect yourself. Consider self-love and self-worth before anything.

 

WE ALL HAVE A CHOICE

WE ALL HAVE A CHOICE/DISRESPECT

By Rebecca Masina

We all have problems or what we may call challenges in our lives especially when growing up. Maybe you lacked confidence during your formative years. Perhaps you received little love and encouragement. Possibly you might remember the constant fights that took place in your home and how they shred your family apart. Sometimes blaming yourself that you may be the reason why your parents are no longer together. Even bigger, having to live with the fact that your own parents neglected you or they were abusing you physically or verbally.

Life will always be unfair as most of you take it.  All in that it does not mean that we should lose respect because you do not know what respect it. Yes you may grew up hectic but giving respect to your elders regardless of what they did to you is the best you can do. Revenger has never been sweet as they say. Respect gives you the light, gives you the way, and opens up for you every door that you would like to enter. It shows you life, a better life. So keep it and use it everywhere you go.

Be the change that you want to see in others.  Love and respect others. Be you.

 

 

I CANT GET ENOUGH OF YOU

I CANT GET ENOUGH OF YOU

By Rebecca Masina

Thursday, January 7, 2016

A new year it is. People make resolutions for every year but only they know if they do stick to them or not. Well I for one am not a fan of making resolutions. Reasons being that I never follow them or try to.  This year I pray it be a good year for me as last year I cannot say it was a good year for me. Life happened and life goes on. We thank God for another day as is indeed a blessing.

Have you ever thought of how some other things can make you feel like it is only a dream and you will soon wake up from it? Well yeah I got that and guess what it is not a dream at all it is reality. God blessed me. I might not have a lot and I might not have a name to anything but hey, I am a happy women and each and every day I thank God for it.

He brought a special gift to me. A lot has taken place but now I know my worth. You know when you are treated like the women you are, and then you know you are doing something right to the right person. Past months I’ve learnt a lot about respect, love, loyalty and communication. I got one and hey each and every minute I get a smile on my face.

Gosh I RIRI am in love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ABUSE AND FORGIVENESS

Abuse and forgiveness

By Rebecca Masina

How do you begin to forgive someone who abused you intentionally? How do you begin to forgive someone who took what you have for them for granted? Someone who made your life seems so useless you even thought of committing suicide? Do you believe in good life after forgiveness? Yes you might have forgiven but does your heart and mind really forget?

They say time heals but really? How many of you have been through such stages and have forgiven and forgotten? It takes a very good heart to forget about such. Abuse is a very big thing in our country and it is continuing to happen. Most people are afraid to speak out, in fear of being judged. Keeping something in your heart will definitely kill you.

Abuse comes in different ways. Most suffer from physical and emotional abuse. Look you deserve better than being abused. There is more to life than to be with someone who abuses you and tomorrow say they are sorry, they did not know what was wrong with them and that they will never do it again only for it to happen few hours after they have apologized. They might be the only people you have in your life but really somewhere out there, there is help. Let’s take down our pride and open up. Try to get help. In that you might be taking the step into helping those in need of help. No one deserves to be abused in any sort of way.

Yes we love them. But let’s love them enough to let them go. No one should commit suicide in the name of love. Love should be love not abuse. Love is happiness, respect, joy, trust, communication, understanding, comfort, laughter and growth.  No one is allowed to be abused and say it’s been done because they are being shown love. Wake up. Someone who loves you will never abuse you. Even the obsessed lovers never lay a hand on their loved ones.

Give love, trust, and respect if you also want to be given them back.1/7/2016

                        

 

 

 

OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE

OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE

By Rebecca Masina

These days it has come to a point where almost every female has a child which a relationship with the other parent has failed or maybe because of certain circumstances like death came.

The elders will tell you if you love him/her you must also be able to love and accept his/her kids unconditionally. You simply cannot compete with a parent and his/her kids because there it is a sure thing that you will never win not even by a long shot. Again you cannot tell him/her to choose between you and his/her kids.

Situation will be what if he decides to merry her with her kids? Would the kids also use his surname? And if so what about the culture? How will it work out as people of tradition will say that every kid has to be introduced to their ancestors? When they are doing that to their biological kids what will happen to the one who came with the mother and what if she or he also needs rituals to be performed for him or her while she or he is using the surname that his or her mother currently use which is her marital surname?

Sometimes turn to have a problem accepting their parent’s new partner and makes it difficult for a parent which it will end up as if she or he hates the kids. That is why taking another women’s or men’s kids its difficult at the end reports of hatred and abuse arise.

Ho e gapa ledi namane it is not easy at all. It takes guts and again the love you have for your partner. Things we do for love.

 

 

 

YOU ARE THE ISSUE AM TALKING ABOUT

You are the issue am talking about

By Rebecca Masina

Some people like to claim their nonsense on other people. They don’t want to be wrong but always right and always winning. Well that cannot happen every day, not in my world.

I have been living in one deep dark hole that I always kept quiet and looked at everything that is happening and also watch everything as it happens in front of me and do nothing because I am avoiding noise from the empty tins.

I, myself am not a saint but please just because I cannot say a thing to defend myself it doesn’t mean that I am wrong in anything. Given a chance to speak, yes I would speak. But well since that there is too much noise and you only want your voice to be the only one to be listened to, then I shall keep being in that deep dark hole. But I promise you the day I come out, you will not even utter a word as it will be my chance to speak. Yes continue doing as you please. As they say every dog has its day.

Truth be told I regret every single moment

 I am not pissed, angry or anything but I am only saying what is on my heart and mind. It is wise to think before you take any action so that you don’t later regret anything. It is usually hard for me to utter my feelings to anyone especially where there is lot of judgments. I am not perfect. I am still learning this life. Allow me to be me. Are you not tired enough that you have already taken my pride away? What more do you want as I don’t think I poses anything of value but life. Or is it my life that you want to yourself? Well that is all up to God to decide.

Take whatever you want from me but hey life is only owned by the Mighty One and I know that one day He will hear my prayers, my cries and Answer me. All things come in the right times. Am not in rush because it is Gods call not mine. Take everything but my soul only belongs to God.

 

WE WILL PROPOSE

WE WILL PROPOSED

BY Rebecca Masina

Aichii ke neng kemo shebile this guy?  I tried by all means to get his attention but luck was not on my side at all. Years went and in my mind I though no this person does not see me the way I see him. Okile wa bona o shwa oe kepela ka motho empa yena a sego mo wena.That breaks the hearts of so many people.

This days when you need or want something you go for it ka nama. Don’t send someone. So it happened that I did not have the guts to confront him and tell him how I feel about him. Honestly what I had and still have is real. I then sent my so trusted friend to help me with the issue that has been troubling me for years. Well for two years and few months.

Few days later only to find out that they are an item. Hehehe that killed me as if I lost something valuable to my life. Well after all I’ve learned that sa mogwera ke saka lol. Joking.

I would make small chats with this guy but hey gwa pala. It was like he was so ignorant or he had someone already. Pelo ne ebaba those days yoh. Leleme le tatagane. That is when I felt how hard it is for some guys to approach girls. For once I was in their shoes.

Time went and hey we grew up and life became life as it is. The other moved and hey, I thought we were never to see each other and even if we do then it would be on that greeting level and nothing else.

Little did I know that guy was also feeling the same way it was just that thing called *gwababa* lol well we both have it ke.

 

STRONGER THAN PRIDE

My love is stronger than pride

By Rebecca Masina

Sheba, when I utter the words I love you, I really mean them. Not everyone mean those words when they speak them, but hey I am not everybody, I am me and I am different. Don’t compare me with the last person you were with. We can all be females but I so truly possess something that not every female does. Hence I say I am me and I don’t live to fix other peoples mistakes.

Accept me as I am and don’t change me, don’t even try because you might not like the change that you would have created. I don’t judge you because you have what and you don’t have what. My love is stronger than pride sweets. Nje ngoba uze ngakhona, I will take you as you are. Bayasho that love alone will not pay bills and all but tlohela bao ko nna. Batho batlo phela ba bolela ka melomo e metelle okare di ostrich.

Do they know what got us together at first? Bo mmaditaba lebo rre ditaba. Whose judging them with their big houses and cars? Haibo leave us alone. My love is stronger than pride. Ungasho ukuthi “sobona niyo phelelaphi” but really that doesn’t matter to us. All we do is love each other unconditionally. Wena stay there with your Evogue guy/lady and enjoy. Tlohela rona bo malambane, ngeke us'khone. We are far more than money and material.

Yeah vele motho waka ke a street vendor so what? #phumakithi#.  Sheba/kgona tsa hao.

The society nowadays all they do is to judge other people based on what they do and what they have. So it is like when you don’t have anything it means you don’t deserve to be loved. What is that? Kanty the meaning of love comes with money and something else? Tell us phela we don’t know. Or we interpret it differently?

We only live once, so mara let us love and live this once#ONETIME

“Ebunzimeni siyo themba njalo. Ngeke sililahle ithemba. Noma kumnyama U Somandla Uyosi khanyisela”-we say.

 

Makhwapheni

MAKHWAPHENI

By Rebecca Masina

Hahaha so bophelo bo mnate neh? You even settle for being a side dish. How does it feel though, knowing that you are second best? Better yet knowing that you are just a booty call? Aledi tshabe struu. Anyways everyone has a choice in their lives. We can’t really judge you for being you.

The next moment you are pregnant. Enklek what are you going to tell that baby? “Ke nyatsi ya papa hao”? Lol that sounds nice neh?

Eisan please remind me what are you doing with a side dish? We not saying don’t have one or have one, but aren’t you satisfied at home or? Then if not why not leave the poor lady and continue life with the side dish? Askere if you are not happy, you leave? Cheating is not an option but a choice.

Later there’s a child out of wedlock, demands for maintainance are coming in like a tsunami. How should the main one feel? You come ka excuse, ‘’Monna ke selepe ra adimisana”. Hehehe who taught you that? Is that person educated or? Education does not mean going to school only.
Yes our cultures might say that but aowa this is the 21^st century. People die. There are lots of diseases and innocent people die because of what you call culture. Imagine if that was being done to you.

Kana what is interesting about having multiple guys? All sleeping with you and not protected? What is the gain? Wena you are called “”our meal” and yet you don’t even have a heart to say that hurts but it makes you to rejoice and keep doing it as if you are going to get a degree at the end. Mara vele you will get that dgree called aids and pregnancy not knowing who the real father is.

Ostlaela. This is life not some Disney dream land. Wake up. Take care of your life and body. You ought to know you deserve better than being a side guy/chick. Go out there opportunities re galore.