FIRST TIME PARENT (MY JOURNEY)
FIRST TIME PARENT (My journey)
BY Rebecca Masina
My little one was always kicking me so bad it hurt and
did not want her to kick anymore. I was
a month away to giving birth but still it wasn’t in my mind that I was
about to be a mom. As crazy as I seemed, most people were even asking what kind
of a mom I am going to be to my child because I was never serious. Weeks away I
still was not prepared. Not even bought anything for the baby or prepared
anything. I hated how she kicked me but when she was not kicking I was getting
worried.
Always had that friend who sponsored my crazy cravings (Lebo
Mamabolo). This lady went through hell as if she was the father of my baby. She
took a lot of crap from me. Stood by me even though I gave her tough times. Thank
you LEE. **/…Askere Modimo ago boke.
Oh well soon I got into labor at the best ever hospital,
where I almost drove nurses crazy. Aah labor pains are no child’s play. 27+
hours of hectic labor pains. Hope you understand the pain that I was in. then
they asked me if I was going to come again. Lol well after what I have
experienced I do not know.
After those hours with God’s Grace I gave birth to a baby
girl and named her Kagiso. She is my benediction. From that hour I knew it was
the beginning of a long life journey. Just because some of us raised kids at
our places, then taking care of Kagiso did not need me to always call my mom to
help me. I did everything myself. Today I call her Formula 1 because she’s too
active and speaks a lot of gibberish, she has a loud voice and she’s a strong
lady. She fights for her things. She’s my all. And even today I still cannot believe
am her mom. Only 10 months old, but already calls me mama. Already walks to
every room she wants to go to. The way she responds to her dads call… wonders. Granny
always complaining about the mess but hey what we can do. We put together then
few seconds she’s marking her territory that she’s here. Mess up the house in
seconds. Not forgetting that she’s a dancer. That she took from her aunt.
FOR A GOOD LAUGH... MY LILL SISTER DANCING TO RIHANNA AND DRAKE WORK!!
DEAR UNFAIR
DEAR UNFAIR
By Rebecca Masina
Putting up a face is not
easy at all. You can do it as many times to try to perfect it but hey it is
very hard out there. You always see people out there sitting and saying there
are no jobs and you will be thinking “yes there are no jobs because you are sitting
here and waiting for a job to come to you”. Well sometimes judging is wrong,
concluding without facts it is wrong. We all have dreams. They might be bigger
or smaller but the truth remains that we all have dreams. Size does not matter.
I for one have been under a lot of strain yet no one can really tell that I
have.
Some people out there when
they say they tried and they even thinking of giving up, it is not because they
are lazy or they are not motivated. Truth is you can go to school and study
hard for that certificate, diploma, and degree and to mention a few. At the end
you still have to go out there and look for a job. Jobs are scares not to
mention that, these days it is all about who you know and not what you have. Our
papers these days do not weigh as much. One may be qualified more than the
other but just because you don’t know someone, then you lose the opportunity
that you worked hard for. That we call “life is hard” oh yes “life is unfair”.
Isn’t that we go to higher
institution so that we can better our lives? Yet it seems like it is the more
we go deeper into poverty. Names are put for people who try to make money by
selling their bodies and judge them, yet we do not know where they come from.
We did not walk in their shoes.
People with university
papers have been at home for more than 4 four years without jobs. They tried, hustled
like nobody’s business, but no luck. On the other hand some have to give out
cash to get jobs. How will you be able to give cash that you don’t have in
order to get a job? The world we live in. if you go to many companies to check
who has the right papers for the positions they are in, well you will see things.
“Shockers”. We are told and taught to be entrepreneurs but let’s face it not
everyone can be an entrepreneur. Same as not all of us can sing. It has its own
people.
some people even resort to crime.
It is said that a prayer
helps and Gods timing is always the best. Well it’s all up to how much you
believe. No one is opposing that statement but you spend more than a decade
after graduating looking for job and you still say Gods timing is always the
best? Huh? We pray, we praise and believe but for how long? Pray until
something happens. That statement is
always said but those who already made it and I am sure they only saying that
and them, themselves did not do it. It is motivation but for how long?
DEAR UNFAIR as we believing.
ITS A LEAP YEAR LADIES
IT’S A LEAP YEAR LADIES.
By Rebecca Masina
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It is that month that gets
couples closer to each other. Treat each other with more love and gifts. It’s a
month that hopefuls also come out and seek other hopefuls. It called a Love
Month “kgwedi ya baratani”. On the 14th
of February couples will be having that extra love and showing more affection
to each other. Well that’s to those who enjoy it. Have you got your valentines
date yet?
Most people say to them Valentine’s
Day is every day or it should be every day. Well I for one think that those
people are the ones that do not have
anything to do or anyone to spoil them, so they hating on those who celebrate
it. Well get a hobby and leave those who celebrate it to celebrate it. It is
not our fault that you don’t have anyone to spoil you. Lol hater! Why aren’t
you saying the same things when it is your birthday?
“What a lover’s heart knows
let no man’s brain dispute.” ― Aberjhani,
OH well guess what?? It is a
leap year. Yeap yes it is ladies. You now don’t have to wait on him to hit on
you. This year you can make things happen. He’s been taking too long to open up.
Well this is your year, your chance. Tell him how you feel. “Mo shele”- propose to him. If you don’t then
you going to have to wait for another four years dear. Let love rule this
month. It is yours. You deserve it.
“If you have only one smile
in you give it to the people you love”. - Maya Angelou
Love should be happiness,
support, communication, loyalty, trust, comfort and fun, fun, fun.
“Most people are slow to
champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives.
And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and
operations of our egos in a very mighty way.” ― Aberjhani
Rebecca Masina…
BEING THE OTHER WOMEN
BEING THE OTHER WOMEN
By Rebecca Masina
How does it feel being the
other women and knowing that you are one? Are there any benefits that come with
being the other women? What are the gains? How do you respond when they ask you
questions about being the other women? How will the first women feel when she
finds out that you are busy with their partner and you know of their existence?
Are you planning to take her spot? Have you been guaranteed that the spot will
soon be yours?
Totally you must be
confused. Isn’t it that the first thing that he must have done when he realized
that he is in love with you was to leave the person that they are involved
with? Oh I forgot that you know of the first women. Keng are you interested in
polygamy? Keng banna bafedile or vele wena you are a marriage/relationship
breaker?
We are totally not against
what you believe in. well after all its your choice but do not expect to be the
first as you know there is someone already in that position. Keng it’s called sacrificing
for the one you love or you hoping for something or you have plans for that?
Lol ai shame some people, you like giving your selves endless and unnecessary
jobs/responsibilities.
Holding or trapping him with a baby is not an option my dear. Ba tsamaya ntse hole byao.
Have you ever thought about
your reputation? Or you ae that type that does not care about what other people
say or think?, obviously it is not about other people but you and your person
but hey you must be ready for anything that comes your way. Your life is
precious and you deserve better than being second best. No one is opposing
anything. It is your life, live it and live it to the fullest.
Love and respect yourself.
Consider self-love and self-worth before anything.
WE ALL HAVE A CHOICE
WE ALL HAVE A
CHOICE/DISRESPECT
By Rebecca Masina
We all have problems or what
we may call challenges in our lives especially when growing up. Maybe you
lacked confidence during your formative years. Perhaps you received little love
and encouragement. Possibly you might remember the constant fights that took
place in your home and how they shred your family apart. Sometimes blaming
yourself that you may be the reason why your parents are no longer together.
Even bigger, having to live with the fact that your own parents neglected you
or they were abusing you physically or verbally.
Life will always be unfair
as most of you take it. All in that it
does not mean that we should lose respect because you do not know what respect
it. Yes you may grew up hectic but giving respect to your elders regardless of
what they did to you is the best you can do. Revenger has never been sweet as
they say. Respect gives you the light, gives you the way, and opens up for you
every door that you would like to enter. It shows you life, a better life. So
keep it and use it everywhere you go.
Be the change that you want
to see in others. Love and respect
others. Be you.
I CANT GET ENOUGH OF YOU
I CANT GET ENOUGH OF YOU
By Rebecca Masina
Thursday, January 7, 2016
A new year it is. People
make resolutions for every year but only they know if they do stick to them or
not. Well I for one am not a fan of making resolutions. Reasons being that I
never follow them or try to. This year I
pray it be a good year for me as last year I cannot say it was a good year for
me. Life happened and life goes on. We thank God for another day as is indeed a
blessing.
Have you ever thought of how
some other things can make you feel like it is only a dream and you will soon
wake up from it? Well yeah I got that and guess what it is not a dream at all
it is reality. God blessed me. I might not have a lot and I might not have a
name to anything but hey, I am a happy women and each and every day I thank God
for it.
He brought a special gift to
me. A lot has taken place but now I know my worth. You know when you are treated
like the women you are, and then you know you are doing something right to the
right person. Past months I’ve learnt a lot about respect, love, loyalty and
communication. I got one and hey each and every minute I get a smile on my
face.
Gosh I RIRI am in love.
ABUSE AND FORGIVENESS
Abuse and forgiveness
By Rebecca Masina
How do you begin to forgive
someone who abused you intentionally? How do you begin to forgive someone who
took what you have for them for granted? Someone who made your life seems so
useless you even thought of committing suicide? Do you believe in good life
after forgiveness? Yes you might have forgiven but does your heart and mind
really forget?
They say time heals but
really? How many of you have been through such stages and have forgiven and
forgotten? It takes a very good heart to forget about such. Abuse is a very big
thing in our country and it is continuing to happen. Most people are afraid to
speak out, in fear of being judged. Keeping something in your heart will
definitely kill you.
Abuse comes in different
ways. Most suffer from physical and emotional abuse. Look you deserve better
than being abused. There is more to life than to be with someone who abuses you
and tomorrow say they are sorry, they did not know what was wrong with them and
that they will never do it again only for it to happen few hours after they
have apologized. They might be the only people you have in your life but really
somewhere out there, there is help. Let’s take down our pride and open up. Try
to get help. In that you might be taking the step into helping those in need of
help. No one deserves to be abused in any sort of way.
Yes we love them. But let’s
love them enough to let them go. No one should commit suicide in the name of
love. Love should be love not abuse. Love is happiness, respect, joy, trust,
communication, understanding, comfort, laughter and growth. No one is allowed to be abused and say it’s
been done because they are being shown love. Wake up. Someone who loves you
will never abuse you. Even the obsessed lovers never lay a hand on their loved
ones.
Give love, trust, and
respect if you also want to be given them back.1/7/2016
OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE
OE GAPA LE NAMANE/DINAMANE
By Rebecca Masina
These days it has come to a point where almost every
female has a child which a relationship with the other parent has failed or
maybe because of certain circumstances like death came.
The elders will tell you if you love him/her you must
also be able to love and accept his/her kids unconditionally. You simply cannot
compete with a parent and his/her kids because there it is a sure thing that
you will never win not even by a long shot. Again you cannot tell him/her to choose
between you and his/her kids.
Situation will be what if he decides to merry her with
her kids? Would the kids also use his surname? And if so what about the culture?
How will it work out as people of tradition will say that every kid has to be
introduced to their ancestors? When they are doing that to their biological
kids what will happen to the one who came with the mother and what if she or he
also needs rituals to be performed for him or her while she or he is using the surname
that his or her mother currently use which is her marital surname?
Sometimes turn to have a problem accepting their parent’s
new partner and makes it difficult for a parent which it will end up as if she
or he hates the kids. That is why taking another women’s or men’s kids its
difficult at the end reports of hatred and abuse arise.
Ho e gapa ledi namane it is not easy at all. It takes
guts and again the love you have for your partner. Things we do for love.
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