MY SKIN COLOUR

MY SKIN COLOUR

By Rebecca Masina

Why does my skin have to define me?

Why is being dark skinned considered to be the same as black skinned? not beautiful? Even so why does it bother some if one has a dark skin? Is that person not the same as other light skinned people? How important is the light skinned? How much better is the light skinned? Have you ever imagined that light skinned as a dark skinned person and see that there is no difference as they are all people? Do light skinned individuals eat or do things better than the other? Are they born with special talents?

I realized quickly what Mandela and Tambo meant to ordinary Africans. It was a place where they could come and find a sympathetic ear and a competent ally, a place where they would not be either turned away or cheated, a place where they might actually feel proud to be represented by men of their own skin color. Nelson Mandela

No one is judging anyone as everyone has their own opinions and it is within their rights to have one. It is seen that most of the people prefer being friends or associates with light skinned people as they are viewed as more beautiful and easy to hang around with. I for one see that as a myth. Everyone has their own opinions about the skin of other people. Being dark skinned doesn’t make you ugly or unapproachable.

It is perceived by stereotypes that light skinned are nicer for going to parties and are good for music videos and they are easy people. Dark skinned are better in other parts especially when they are thick bodied. Light is associated with being blon

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There are people whom actually prefer dark skinned people.  Do not let your skin colour to define your life for you. Do not let the opinions of other people to choose the path for your life. You are as human as much as they are too. Which colour is better or not it does not matter. Choose to be wise and be a person of right choices.

HURT

BY Rebecca Masina

So many people are being hurt and they do not talk much about it, or they just chose not to talk about it because of fear from those that hurt them and from the public that will judge them. Being hurt does not have to be physically only, there are many ways that one can get hurt. The ones we love seem to be the ones that take the cake on hurting us. The ones that we trust and have our hopes on, seem to be the ones that take away our pride, joy and happiness.

Talking about your hurt to someone or other people can be helpful in terms of finding a healing or helping others. We give our hearts with the thought that they will be taken care of and not destroyed or abused. “Earlier I was listening to Metro FM  ...Ask a men... there was a guy who called and asked for advise with his girlfriend of three years whose been cheating on him and still is cheating at the same time she got married to someone whilst seeing that guy. The lady has a six year old child which the guy takes care of besides the fact that the child is not his. So apparently the lady keeps coming back and the guy keeps forgiving her, but still the lady continues to cheat”. This only shows that we as people do not appreciate the little that others are trying to show and give us.

Where we seem to love it is mostly said it is where we are not loved. We give our all but they still find a way to hurt us. We give too much that when we are getting hurt we find it hard to let go. Which will be the best way and the best way to save ourselves from hurt? Move on, there are people out there who will appreciate you more and give the same or even more percentage of love, respect and communication than what you are getting. Time heals so they say. Trying to move on is not simple but it’s the best way of healing. You are not meant to be hurt. Everyone deserves what’s best for their lives.

Let love rule not hurt. Others are abused physically and emotionally but still they hang on thinking that the situation will change but the honest truth is we all know a leopard will never change its spots.

Work on yourself. Figure out who you are and what you are about. Know your story. Don’t be afraid to ask. Believe in your abilities. The future is your and not theirs.

SELF REHABILITATION AFTER FAILING IN A BIG LEAP

By Brandly Mathibela

When one tries to leap into a mentality of success the likeliness of failure weighs lighter than that of the opposite, but when it comes to reality there are quite a lot of qualities that one's mindset has to consist of because in the mist of failure one will suffer thudding blows to the mentality which will definitely leave permanent scars. In that context and going forward one's energy shall be altered with, and result in a mind and heart that think in a slack tune.

The new tune created by permanent scars shows up as a character of skepticism and the fear of going all  committed towards one's dreams and aspirations. People often resort to convenient alternatives due to the fear of failing in their own lanes, compromise their dreams for something totally different due to the low self-esteem created by the failure of the initial maneuvers.

The questions that emerge are: How does one rehabilitate oneself from the previous failure's trauma, rekindle the attraction one had towards success, how do you begin to think you are ready for challenges  though it is not known by anyone what to expect, How do you get rid of the bad memories left by failure?

THERE'S A NEW KID ON THE BLOCK

 THERES A NEW KID IN THE BLOCK

By Rebecca Masina

Tshepo  Zulu also known as Trizle Beats, a young and upcoming artist who is passionate about music and lives up to his name  The Midrand/ ivory park born star is a producer ,rapper and a performer. The love of music started when he was still young, at the age of five when he realized that he loves singing and dancing in which he has won awards consecutively, for three years.  At the age of 16 he decided to start producing and writing his own music.

During his matric year he had a bedroom studio where he recorded most of his songs and started performing them in local schools and local taverns where he got recognition as a musician. Trizle went to Ponelopele Oracle Secondary and is currently studying Public Management at Tshwane North College.

When asked how he started his music career, he said “I used to be a dancer meaning I used to listen to music a lot, and then I started to learn how to produce and write my own music”. He got motivated by his late mother, who used to be singer.

He has produced and still produces music for upcoming artist like him all over South Africa.

 ‘’I mix and master my own songs and I also produce my own beats. the best track I’ve ever recorded and produced is my latest single #WeLoveTo, I feel like it has that vibe to get anyone dancing, whether you love hip hop or not.’’- He said.

He is an independent artist and currently owns his own music label Trizle Beats Entertainment and recently opened a crew by the name of ‘’TalkTruthClan’’

Later this year he’s going to release his first Beat-tape called the R.E.D (Red End Dangerous). Hip hop is what he loves and enjoys. ” it makes me feel comfortable with who I am- he said.

Here is one of his releases that you can listen and rate him on,

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Contacts: trizlebeats@gmail.com

Facebook: Trizle Beats

HER FIRST WALK..STEPS

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FIRST TIME PARENT (MY JOURNEY)

FIRST TIME PARENT (My journey)

BY Rebecca Masina

It all seems easy until it is you having to go through it. For me I never thought that I could nail this parenthood thing. I never thought I could be this good. I’ve always been that crazy, happy and a person who always makes jokes. I don’t remember being serious about life. Well I had that thing of I will be serious when the time comes and for now it is just my time to be me and enjoy being Rebecca. I raised my sisters kid Gomolemo and learnt a lot from raising her. I did everything that a mother can and should do for a new born to a toddler. Well except for breastfeeding because I wasn’t her mom.  From there I have never thought of my self being a mom let alone having my own bundle of joy, my own photo copy. I bet almost everyone was shocked to hear and see me being pregnant including myself. Even after eight months I still did not believe it was me who was pregnant.

My little one was always kicking me so bad it hurt and did not want her to kick anymore. I was  a month away to giving birth but still it wasn’t in my mind that I was about to be a mom. As crazy as I seemed, most people were even asking what kind of a mom I am going to be to my child because I was never serious. Weeks away I still was not prepared. Not even bought anything for the baby or prepared anything. I hated how she kicked me but when she was not kicking I was getting worried.

Always had that friend who sponsored my crazy cravings (Lebo Mamabolo). This lady went through hell as if she was the father of my baby. She took a lot of crap from me. Stood by me even though I gave her tough times. Thank you LEE. **/…Askere Modimo ago boke.

Oh well soon I got into labor at the best ever hospital, where I almost drove nurses crazy. Aah labor pains are no child’s play. 27+ hours of hectic labor pains. Hope you understand the pain that I was in. then they asked me if I was going to come again. Lol well after what I have experienced I do not know.

After those hours with God’s Grace I gave birth to a baby girl and named her Kagiso. She is my benediction. From that hour I knew it was the beginning of a long life journey. Just because some of us raised kids at our places, then taking care of Kagiso did not need me to always call my mom to help me. I did everything myself. Today I call her Formula 1 because she’s too active and speaks a lot of gibberish, she has a loud voice and she’s a strong lady. She fights for her things. She’s my all. And even today I still cannot believe am her mom. Only 10 months old, but already calls me mama. Already walks to every room she wants to go to. The way she responds to her dads call… wonders. Granny always complaining about the mess but hey what we can do. We put together then few seconds she’s marking her territory that she’s here. Mess up the house in seconds. Not forgetting that she’s a dancer. That she took from her aunt.

few minutes born...Kagiso

 We love her. Kagiso ya rona. 

9 months 

10 months ols

FOR A GOOD LAUGH... MY LILL SISTER DANCING TO RIHANNA AND DRAKE WORK!!

video taken by Tebogo Masina.. 16 years old.

DEAR UNFAIR

DEAR UNFAIR

By Rebecca Masina

Putting up a face is not easy at all. You can do it as many times to try to perfect it but hey it is very hard out there. You always see people out there sitting and saying there are no jobs and you will be thinking “yes there are no jobs because you are sitting here and waiting for a job to come to you”. Well sometimes judging is wrong, concluding without facts it is wrong. We all have dreams. They might be bigger or smaller but the truth remains that we all have dreams. Size does not matter. I for one have been under a lot of strain yet no one can really tell that I have.

Some people out there when they say they tried and they even thinking of giving up, it is not because they are lazy or they are not motivated. Truth is you can go to school and study hard for that certificate, diploma, and degree and to mention a few. At the end you still have to go out there and look for a job. Jobs are scares not to mention that, these days it is all about who you know and not what you have. Our papers these days do not weigh as much. One may be qualified more than the other but just because you don’t know someone, then you lose the opportunity that you worked hard for. That we call “life is hard” oh yes “life is unfair”.

Isn’t that we go to higher institution so that we can better our lives? Yet it seems like it is the more we go deeper into poverty. Names are put for people who try to make money by selling their bodies and judge them, yet we do not know where they come from. We did not walk in their shoes.

People with university papers have been at home for more than 4 four years without jobs. They tried, hustled like nobody’s business, but no luck. On the other hand some have to give out cash to get jobs. How will you be able to give cash that you don’t have in order to get a job? The world we live in. if you go to many companies to check who has the right papers for the positions they are in, well you will see things. “Shockers”. We are told and taught to be entrepreneurs but let’s face it not everyone can be an entrepreneur. Same as not all of us can sing. It has its own people.

some people even resort to crime.

It is said that a prayer helps and Gods timing is always the best. Well it’s all up to how much you believe. No one is opposing that statement but you spend more than a decade after graduating looking for job and you still say Gods timing is always the best? Huh? We pray, we praise and believe but for how long? Pray until something happens.  That statement is always said but those who already made it and I am sure they only saying that and them, themselves did not do it. It is motivation but for how long?

DEAR UNFAIR as we believing.

ITS A LEAP YEAR LADIES

IT’S A LEAP YEAR LADIES.

By Rebecca Masina

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It is that month that gets couples closer to each other. Treat each other with more love and gifts. It’s a month that hopefuls also come out and seek other hopefuls. It called a Love Month “kgwedi ya baratani”.  On the 14^th of February couples will be having that extra love and showing more affection to each other. Well that’s to those who enjoy it. Have you got your valentines date yet?

Most people say to them Valentine’s Day is every day or it should be every day. Well I for one think that those people are the ones  that do not have anything to do or anyone to spoil them, so they hating on those who celebrate it. Well get a hobby and leave those who celebrate it to celebrate it. It is not our fault that you don’t have anyone to spoil you. Lol hater! Why aren’t you saying the same things when it is your birthday?

“What a lover’s heart knows let no man’s brain dispute.” ― Aberjhani,

OH well guess what?? It is a leap year. Yeap yes it is ladies. You now don’t have to wait on him to hit on you. This year you can make things happen. He’s been taking too long to open up. Well this is your year, your chance. Tell him how you feel.  “Mo shele”- propose to him. If you don’t then you going to have to wait for another four years dear. Let love rule this month. It is yours. You deserve it.

“If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love”. - Maya Angelou

Love should be happiness, support, communication, loyalty, trust, comfort and fun, fun, fun.

“Most people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.” ― Aberjhani

Rebecca Masina…

 

BEING THE OTHER WOMEN

BEING THE OTHER WOMEN

By Rebecca Masina

How does it feel being the other women and knowing that you are one? Are there any benefits that come with being the other women? What are the gains? How do you respond when they ask you questions about being the other women? How will the first women feel when she finds out that you are busy with their partner and you know of their existence? Are you planning to take her spot? Have you been guaranteed that the spot will soon be yours?

Totally you must be confused. Isn’t it that the first thing that he must have done when he realized that he is in love with you was to leave the person that they are involved with? Oh I forgot that you know of the first women. Keng are you interested in polygamy? Keng banna bafedile or vele wena you are a marriage/relationship breaker?

We are totally not against what you believe in. well after all its your choice but do not expect to be the first as you know there is someone already in that position. Keng it’s called sacrificing for the one you love or you hoping for something or you have plans for that? Lol ai shame some people, you like giving your selves endless and unnecessary jobs/responsibilities.

Holding or trapping him with a baby is not an option my dear. Ba tsamaya ntse hole byao.

Have you ever thought about your reputation? Or you ae that type that does not care about what other people say or think?, obviously it is not about other people but you and your person but hey you must be ready for anything that comes your way. Your life is precious and you deserve better than being second best. No one is opposing anything. It is your life, live it and live it to the fullest.

Love and respect yourself. Consider self-love and self-worth before anything.