FESTIVE SEASON 2016

Festive season 2016

By Rebecca Masina

It is that time of the year where families get to get together and have an awesome time. The only thing people do not pay attention to is their safety. Drivers are urged to be extra vigilant on the roads. Persons safety first. You do not want to regret at the last minute. Nkabe ke ngwana mo rago. If you know what I mean. Yes, we love this time of the year. We lose our mind, and we go wild and crazy, but with maturity and cautiousness, you could save a lot of lives.

Some of the tips for this festive season to take note of:

Budget

Watch out how you spend. Do not spend like there is no next year just to impress people who do not add value to your life.

Be wise

Put your money into good use and do what is most important before going to waste it on friends whom don’t even know your surname.

Drink carefully

Drinks are going to be spiked. Make sure that you take care of your drink and you do not leave it open. Go with it where ever you go, even if it is the toilet.

Money

Do not walk around carrying cash, the best option is to always leave your cards at home and take the only money you will need for drinks and transport. When it is done then you know it is time to go home, and you have spent enough. This will also help prevent when you get mugged, you particulars including your money is safe.

Avoid unnecessary fights.

Fights will only lead to death in this day and age. You only survive by luck

People take good care of yourselves,

Nkabe ke ngwana morago. 

16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM- PLAY YOUR PART

16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM- PLAY YOUR PART

By Rebecca Masina

YES, it is that time again, and No we don’t only have to do this on each December of every year calendar. What about every day? Hmm doesn’t it sounds better? Well not only are women and children abused but men as well are abused, and they are sitting in silence fearing that they will be laughed at if they speak up. Askere men are believed to be the heads their families? But I tell you, there are many men not only in South Africa but across the world that are abused and only scared to come out.

 We live in a society that everything has already been planned out. Like “Monna ga alle-men don’t cry” eeh where have you seen that? Aren’t they humans as well? Don’t they ever get hurt? Aowa they are not robots hey. Let’s love and respect them and not laugh when they are in pain.

The following is a guide of what 16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM is all about:

The objectives of the 16 Days Campaign are to:

•Attract all South Africans to be active participants in the fight to eradicate violence against women and children, hence the theme: Count me in.

•Expand accountability beyond the Justice, Crime Prevention and Security (JCPS) cluster to include all government clusters and provinces.

•Combine technology, social media, the arts, journalism, religion, culture and customs, business and activism to draw attention to the many ways violence against women and children affects the lives of all people in all communities around the world.

•Ensure mass mobilization of all communities to promote collective responsibility in the fight to eradicate violence against women and children.

•Encourage society to acknowledge that violence against women and children is NOT a government or criminal justice system problem, but a societal problem, and that failure to view it as such results in all efforts failing to eradicate this scourge in our communities.

•Emphasise the fact that the solution lies with all of us.

Readers can read more about 16 days of activism on this link:

http://www.gov.za/speeches/16-days-activism-2016-22-dec-2015-1000

PLAY YOUR PART-BE ACTIVE

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LIFE WILL HUMBLE YOU

Life will humble you

By Rebecca Masina

Have you ever thought about what may happen the following day? It may be based on your life or anything that is in your life. No one is ever sure about tomorrow. That is how life works. If you think that you are better than the next person, well wev got news for you! Re tla bona laka moso gore letlhaba jwang.

Just because I do not have anything in my life that I do not deserve respect. With today’s life, loyalty is everything. Humble yourself dear child, and you shall see what the good Lord has planned for you. Accept and appreciate every little thing that is being presented to you.

Have you ever thanked a small child for doing something for you? Or is it because ke ngwana, swanetse a romiwe? Mmh think about it. What you do to people, you should also know that you will not get hurt when it is being done onto you.

Bobe ka bobe ase bophelo.

Remember to always be true to yourself and do not live up to other people’s expectations. People don’t have to like you and you also do not have to care but always be considerate. Be a strong individual, be brave, and mostly BE HUMBLE.

Be happy for other people’s success and stop hating.

LIVE LOVE and BE HAPPY

HOW FAIR ARE YOU?

How fair are you?

By Rebecca Masina

It turns out not everyone is faithful as they act out to be. Most of the people that we meet, do not reveal who they are untill they ‘’TAP TO GO”.

“It may be unfair, but what happens in a few days, sometimes even a single day, can change the course of a whole lifetime...” 
― Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner

What makes me to end up writing this piece is because of what we see these days. People turn to do things that they know they will later regret doing. Typical example will be, girls giving boys kids. No one is refusing anyone to have kids, no, but the fact of the mater is you have to think about the after math of the things that you will be doing. Everything that you do has a result just like the saying ‘’Nothing is for mahala lovey’’.

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You don’t go around giving boys kids, no, that is not how it is done skado. Grow up, get education, get your life, and make mama and papa proud, alive or gone. Show some respect. The rest should be able to come later. What I mean by the rest I mean that baby you want to give to a boy who does not know how to write and explain what responsibility is, can only be done after marriage. If he wants it without a condom, let him put a ring on it first and the rest will just flow.

Being a newbie

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By Rebecca Masina

Being a newbie in a work place can be sometimes intimidating, well if not scary.  In some places they turn to make you look like ‘’yes, you are a fool’’. Well ive got a story to tell.

Not so long ago ave got employed at one of the most high rated media companies in south Africa, and so far I can tell you I am freaken enjoying each and every minute of it.  It is not everybody that’s gonna tell you that they enjoy what they do. Some of the places make newbies look and feel like they do not belong.

Well maybe it is an initiation things that most colleagues turn to do to newbies. Finding a new job is not easy at all let alone having to learn what is what and how is what operated. People turn to turn a bling eye to this newbie thing, but hey it is a huge issues and it is also like any other important issue.

Newbies are supposed to given proper time to learn e few things. When they are given a high time they turn to end up doing wrong things and not delivering the work.  People enjoy being you and enjoy loving what do. Be free and set your mind free. Allow yourself to learn and be criticized.

Be happy, be you.

Taxi drivers- Million lives in their hands

By Rebecca

When it comes to taxi drivers, there is no telling what could happen. For people who are always on the road they sure know their ways of getting to a certain point within a limited time.  People who are always using taxis know hard it is to be traveling using a taxi. Some taxis are not road worthy yet they are still operating carrying people’s lives. Many lives are lost due to the negligence of taxi drivers.

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Using a taxi it does not mean those who are using their own cars are safe. But all it means that they also face hard times with taxi drivers always wanting to overtake them in a hurry not thinking.  All it matters is that they get to their destination and not other drivers. People turn to rate taxi drivers bad but to be honest we should also give props to those that are driving properly. 

AUGUST..MONTH OF HEROINES... BASADI

AUGUST… MONTH OF THE STRONGEST (HEROINES) WOMEN

By Rebeca Masina

It is that month that reminds us that women are not only objects but they are more than that. Ke dikgwari, batshwari ba thipa ka bogaleng, ba eta pele. Without them things won’t be the same. We need these people. They have soft hearts, caring, loving and yet you can never break their spirits. Women, they go through a lot so when you see women of any age, respect, honor that women.

Imagine what your mother has gone through to get you where you are today? The struggle she went through just for you to have a better life than her yet today you are disrespecting her and calling her names. It might happen that she is not your mother but imagine how you treat her, how would you feel if it was someone doing that to your own mother?

It is said do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. 

You give respects you get respect back. Love and respect, honor this individuals. They are a rare kind. Women’s tears are very much expensive. Keep them happy and you shall reap what you saw.

This month we celebrate women who went through a lot for us women to live a free and better life today. We salute them. Mostly we thank them so much.Today women run businesses. They live their lives to the fullest. They lead and they are continuing to conquer.

Women are stronger than men, no matter how we see it. They are queens, they are not afraid to fail and failure to them is just a stepping stone to greatness. As it is said “if you want something said, ask a man, if you want something done, as a woman”-Margaret Thatcher. Women are a blessing to this life.

For they are not only celebrated in a month but throughout the year. Happy women’s Day. Women will keep running this world.

WHERE DO WE GO?

WHERE DO WE GO? HOW DO WE GO ABOUT?

By Rebecca Masina

Caption: Rebecca Masina

Life doesn’t always give us what we want. Only your believe and determination will get you where you want to be.  In life we go through different challenges, be of easy or hard they are all part of a learning curve. We learn something with that, even our mistakes do count.  Self-motivation goes a long way and it is not for the faint hearted. One needs to know how to motivate themselves especially when times are hard as it is not every time that people do give positive motivation.

In this life nothing is smooth sailing, you work for it, you sweat for it, well unless otherwise.  Have you noticed that we are motivated to go to school and learn so that we will become better people for tomorrow? Well most people believe in that as it is said you can never achieve anything without education because it is the key to your greater opportunities/success.

This has become so overrated. Why? It is because in this nowadays one goes to school for the whole three years and learn all the traits of the career they want to be in, then after so much dedication to their work, they graduate then stay at home for years only because everywhere they want people with years of experience. Well am a fresh graduate where will I get experience when you don’t allow me that opportunity?

Moments later we end up settling for any job just because we need to support our families and help our siblings to also go to school and be the same as us, waiting for experience that will come from nowhere then get hired. Why are we forced to get educated only to be refused opportunities because of experience? Isn’t that by given a chance that’s when we going to learn and gain that experience?

Not all of us have the heads to be entrepreneurs. If we did then we would be talking another story. Everything has its person/people. We do volunteer at NGO’s but at the end we also need to put something on the table for our families. They sacrificed a lot for us to go to school now it is time for us to give thanks to them.

Are we supposed to be standing on the streets with boards written “please help with a job; I have a BA in Journalism”? Before we can get hired? That seems to be the only way because that’s only when we get recognized.

In this generation we live in. it seems like you only get a job by knowing someone, not by your qualifications that you have worked hard to get.

The next thing you will see a BA graduate on the streets smoking weed/nyaope because they waiting for experience to come since all companies told him that he is well qualified but need experience. Really? Is this how things are supposed to be?

HAPPY FATHERS DAY

FATHERS DAY

Sharing best memories

By Rebecca Masina

Every child needs a father and not visitor. If you are not able to take care of your responsibilities then why at all create a living being that you know you are not going to take care of it?. Life is tough and bringing a living being to the world is a big deal and you going to have to live with it for the rest of your life.

"I want to congratulate all the men out there who are working diligently to be good fathers whether they are stepfathers, or biological fathers or just spiritual fathers." T. D. Jakes

Father’s Day is a day for responsible fathers. People whom we can call daddies because they deserve it. Remember every man can be a father but it takes a strong man to be a dad.

Most of you desert your children and go to take care of children that are not yours. Then the next thing you want to be called a dad. What are you smoking? You think you deserve it? Running away from what you know will not help you at all.

Being a dad does not mean you have to have money and lots of it for that matter. Being there every day, when she falls, cries and laugh is all that matters. For them knowing that you are there and you love them is what keeps them going.

We salute you strong, courageous man in this whole world and we say continue doing great. HAPPY DADDIES DAY.

I love you dad #Mr.Teffo 

DON’T BLAME YOURSELF FOR FALLING PREGNANT

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DON’T BLAME YOURSELF FOR FALLING PREGNANT

By Rebecca Masina

They might make you feel like it is your fault, why did you not use protection or better yet why are you not on prevention. The truth is you are both responsible for what takes place during and after intercourse. You did not sleep alone. He was there. You women also don’t need to blame men on why they did not ejaculate on the outside. Why were you also not using a condom and we all know that unprotected sex leads to what, so why do we act as if we don’t know?

Education about pregnancy and diseases is being spread within schools, churches, clinics and even at homes.  To this day people still act if it is not as if they have never heard about the consequences of unprotected sex. People suffer from H.I.V; people suffer from S.T.I’s even though they know better about them. Media is the biggest platform where teachings about such thing are being aired but still no one really takes them to mind till it is late.

“Nkabe ke ngwana morago”

Most of the time guys turn to think that it is women’s responsibility to make sure that they don’t get unwanted pregnancies but no, that is not true. Whoever gets involved in unprotected sex is responsible for the consequences. It only takes two seconds to create a soul, whether wanted or not.

No one is trapping anyone with a baby as we know that cannot happen. They leave with or without a baby. Even a good sex doesn’t mean he will stay or otherwise. The truth is if you know you do not want unforeseen things to happen then you have to protect yourself. No one will protect you but yourself. After all no one sends you to go have sex. It is your choice and your life.

Thoughts and decisions of abortions come up. They might force you to do one and you also might fall into it as you will be feeling like you are not yet ready to have a child let alone with that person. Your decisions might be based on your future but who gives rights to kill innocent souls? He might not be ready but he can’t force you to kill, vice verse lady.

Families also do sometimes blame you for falling pregnant but they also have children and they have also made some mistakes in life. No one is perfect don't let them judge you, belittle you. Don’t beat yourself about it.

Don’t feel ashamed but take responsibility of your actions. 

MY SKIN COLOUR

MY SKIN COLOUR

By Rebecca Masina

Why does my skin have to define me?

Why is being dark skinned considered to be the same as black skinned? not beautiful? Even so why does it bother some if one has a dark skin? Is that person not the same as other light skinned people? How important is the light skinned? How much better is the light skinned? Have you ever imagined that light skinned as a dark skinned person and see that there is no difference as they are all people? Do light skinned individuals eat or do things better than the other? Are they born with special talents?

I realized quickly what Mandela and Tambo meant to ordinary Africans. It was a place where they could come and find a sympathetic ear and a competent ally, a place where they would not be either turned away or cheated, a place where they might actually feel proud to be represented by men of their own skin color. Nelson Mandela

No one is judging anyone as everyone has their own opinions and it is within their rights to have one. It is seen that most of the people prefer being friends or associates with light skinned people as they are viewed as more beautiful and easy to hang around with. I for one see that as a myth. Everyone has their own opinions about the skin of other people. Being dark skinned doesn’t make you ugly or unapproachable.

It is perceived by stereotypes that light skinned are nicer for going to parties and are good for music videos and they are easy people. Dark skinned are better in other parts especially when they are thick bodied. Light is associated with being blon

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de and dark with brains.

There are people whom actually prefer dark skinned people.  Do not let your skin colour to define your life for you. Do not let the opinions of other people to choose the path for your life. You are as human as much as they are too. Which colour is better or not it does not matter. Choose to be wise and be a person of right choices.