HEITA MAGENTS

HEITA MAGENTS

By Rebecca Masina

Askere ntse hole monate when you guys were in bed or where ever you were doing it without protection? so don't come here with your nonsense and tell them to abort. i think you know what are the consequences of having unprotected sex. she is not the only one who is having sex, but the both of you. so it is both your responsibility to take precautions. most of the time females are expected to be the ones who are supposed to be taking precautions but that is wrong. both partners are suppose to be taking it. for as long as you are not ready to become a parent or be responsible for someone, then taking precaution should be the first thing on your mind when such things are about to take place.  you can be in a steamy position but remember it will only last for few minutes and the responsibility will last for ever. 
monate rao rata strong vele but lets love it with carefulness. why omo rotela if you  don't love her or plan to have a future with her? ebe she keeps the baby then you go around telling people that she is trying to trap you with the baby enklek who said ko wena don't wear a condom?. ai suka wena, be real.  real men dont put such blames on women as they make them look lame and stupid. it completes their status IQ. Females do also blame males for the  things that they also know that they should have prevented from happening. keng did that guy tell you he will love you more if omofa ka nama? lol look what happenes now. o pusha six pack and yena o phusha new chikita. keng what were you hoping for? miracle? well hard luck sistas o spat and ena hes moved on. majita a byao fela.
a wise guy knows how to act responsible and also do things responsibly. not only thinking about themselves but also the next person. simple sex can ruin your future lala. nkabe tlabe ele ngwana wa morago. bula mahlo...same as speed kills. ho mathela dilo tsesa ho tshwannang. otla e tshola lovey. ntho e monate hae tshabe.

HOW COULD YOU

How could you

By Rebecca Masina

All this while you were playing me kanti? Why did you not tell me that we are only playing and you are not into the commitment things? Why did you let me fall so hard for you? Dude I gave you my all. I gave you my heart and this is the thanks I get? Haowa you can’t be serious. You just broke my heart and you are smiling about it. How could you? Why vele?

Ko social media o bua ka nna as if I am obsessed with you. As if am the one who followed you and approached you. As if ntse keo jisitse korobela. Haa mara my guy really vele? I guess where we love most it is where we are not loved or we not going to get the love back.

Sheba abuti, nna kao rata neh? Bona wa nketsa. From the start nje I didn’t have doubts about you, about us. What I have for you is real. Mara if that’s how you want it to be then I can’t force you to love me because that is where am going to keep hurting myself even more. You keep showing up with different girls but I never asked you to why you doing that to me.

Kana bare Karma is a bitch. Well I don’t know if that is meant for me or not. Mara retla bona. Se sesa feleng sa hlola. What goes around comes around. Am not obsessed or anything, am just shocked. The love I gave you, I swear there’s no one that can exceed that. Am not cursing am just wishing you the best that’s all.

Nna kao rata shem.  

 

 

THE BOOK OF LOVE

THE BOOK OF LOVE

By Rebecca Masina

Love at first… you are not only able to love yourself but to also love your better half unconditionally. Love is something else. It cannot be defined, it is UN explainable yet we love like there is no tomorrow. We fall in love and do crazy stupid things; but it is a great feeling to do them. We go all the way to impress and satisfy our better halves. We go to the extremes to make and keep them happy.

This is my story…. The best thing which might be the one thing that kills me is that I love without limit. I may not be the best lover a guy can ever ask for, but I don’t lessen my love. When I love I love, but the question is do I get the same love back? It is not easy to love with your whole heart and still stick around even though you do not receive the love back or to be cheated on. Cheating comes in many ways. It may not be with another person but not receiving the love that you deserve is also cheating from your better half.

If one does not love, then they should make it clear to the next person that they do not love them the way they think that they are loved. Tell them straight that they are just for time pushing; tell them that they should not get their hopes high with the relationship. Giving people false hope hurts hey, big time.

Well I loved and truly loved but I never got the same love back. Maybe it was me, but I have noticed that no, it was not me but the people that I fall in love with, they do not have the same motive as me. They had their own plans and motives and they were not love but time pushing. One even kept me a secret for over four years but because of the love I had; I did not worry about that.

Well after all those years of playing and all, and then I met M*, well then that is where real love was shown and appreciated. Gosh it felt like a dream. M* loved and so did I. I have never in my life experienced love like that. It was so good, great. I couldn’t have asked for a better guy in my life. Thought that I will spend my life with him. *A girl is allowed to over dream lol* Well then life happened. Someone played the right music and won him to the dance.

I seemed to have lost hope afterwards. I will never find the right person for me. That was when I was wrong about everything. Love finds you, not the other way. Well then I decided to stay single for a long time which it was not that long when friends from MGI have invited me to come and celebrate one of our friends birthday with. I have just turned 22 and it was a great feeling. At the party I never even thought that I will find love or fall in love. I was a jolly person, having fun was the plan and it is what I did. Days passed and weeks also then suddenly a guy whom was on the party messaged me.

We became friends and spoke a lot till we decided to meet and enjoy the day of reconciliation together with his friends at his Kasi. It was a great day, meeting people and getting to know kasi.  The same day we fell in love. As Rebecca I thought it was only a time pushing thing as I have given up on love. Days and time passed and I realised that this guy cannot be a pass–a-by but a guy for keeps.

Well I stopped everything for him. Neglected my friends, life and focused on him. He is my world, my king. I would do anything just to be with him. We spent the whole December together as if we were married. He did not take time to introduce me to his family. That’s a point where I saw that games are over and it is time to focus on real life. The days of playing are over, the days of fooling around.

He makes me laugh, we spend more time together that even his friends were so jealous that I was taking him away from them. Time passed and love grew even bigger but to the disappointment of it he wanted me to cut off some of the most important people in my life which it was not part of the plan. Relationships are hard to keep. You have to compromise somewhere somehow. Nothing comes easy in life if it is meant to be.

We all have our own views of perfect/good relationship. The one I am in no one could define it. We forgot that we have friends. All we did was to be with one another and the rest did not matter. It is like nothing exists but the two of us. It is like that love that you only read about in books and see in the movies.

I am not bragging about it because nothing lasts forever but what I do is to cherish the love that I get and be thankful to the Lord for such a blessing He is about to bless us with.

Love without Limit... appreciate the little you get.

Miss Masina.

SO MUCH HATE YET SO MUCH LOVE

SO MUCH HATE YET SO MUCH LOVE

BY Rebecca Masina

We do things then we regret doing them. We forget that we did them with love, so much love that we were not thinking about the outcomes of them. Have you ever done something with so much love then later regret doing it?  Like giving a hand to someone and they throw it back at you without a thank you. Such what do you about them? Let them pass? Mmhm your choice.

Speaking of choices, have you thought about what you did last night? Was it good, bad? Did it benefit you or the next person? Well sometimes if not every time, we young stars turn to make decision that will only benefit us and not think about the outcome of them until it is late and there is nothing one can do about them. It is not easy to live with regrets, to live with the ‘what if’s’. Those are the mistakes or choices we made and have to live with them and learn how to make better choices next time, it is a learning curve.
Time is precious and how you utilise it is also important. Turning back isn’t an option but fixing whatever that has been broken can be the only option to recovery. Not everything in life will be smooth sailing; well even the rich can confirm that one. Seek help where possible. No one is allowed to judge you as we all make mistakes in life. Not every right way will be right.

In life we learn by numbers!

 

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THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET

THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET

By Rebecca Masina

Have you ever got that feeling that you cannot describe or turn it into an action? Is it a good feeling or a bad feeling? Well such is life, sometimes is hard to explain it. That moment when you are happy and you cannot contain it, what do you do? In life we learn and we teach. We might not see it like that but hey it is what is happening. We learn everyday and somehow it happens that we teach without noticing that we are doing so.

To all my friends who got married/engaged this year congratulations. I mean even those that manage to take other peoples better halves. Well its life right? We are all blessed in different ways. Have you noticed that moment when you have been with your partner for almost a decade and hoping that one day they will wife you, then it happens that you fight or break up due to some reasonable reasons  or not, then they move on to the next person then a few months later you hear they are getting married. THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET. After all the sweats you went through, I wonder what is next after that. Does that mean you were not what they call marriage type or something else?

It is not like we are having doubts that you can or will not last in your marriage but don’t you think it is too early especially when you know you haven’t done anything with your life? Or ist that you will see when you get there? ‘’Yeah our parents also got married at a younger age and they lasted’’. But are you OUR PARENTS? THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET.

In this century nothing is ever the same. Today it happens to never be the same as yesterday. Of course it is a different day and time.

YOU DONT KNOW ME

YOU DONT KNOW ME

By Rebecca Masina

Look I am not in love with you because of your money or any other materialistic things, but I am with you because kao rata nothing more. Wait if you think I am here because of you riches then really, you do not know me at all. You go all around listening to every mouth that stops you and tells you that ‘cheese boy lalela, Kedibone ogo ratela tshelete ya hao’. Then you believe them and start acting weird towards me. Really? Like really?

Last I checked you are the one who came up to me and proposed. Did I ask you if you are loaded or not? Well let me tell you and you shall remember this. Not everyone will appreciate the good that you have. They will always try to run it down for their own benefits. One day I will be gone and you will be looking for me saying ‘nkebe’. We have been together for 6 years now and you only realise that I am after your riches? Ntse rewa re ema together now that’s all forgotten. I practically made you who you are today and that’s how you thank me.

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Ao come December you are nowhere to be found. You have a new number, a new girlfriend for December, you don’t sleep at home. You are always out. I guess you know me only ‘ge tlala e ephile maatla’. This is not a complaint but I am just letting you know that what you saw it is what you going to reap. January to November you know me as I am the one looking after you as if I am your parents or your bank account manager.

Come December because you now have money and bonuses you do not know me, thinking that I want your money. Well congratulations, have fun and come January as always I will be there not because of anything but only because kao rata and nothing more.

 

LOVE VERSUS BROKENESS

By Rebecca Masina

What you have today it is what it is used to measure love in this century. Nowadays it is said that where there is no money there is no love. Mhmm how true is that? When you love shouldn’t that be because of the heart and not money? So does this mean all broke people do not deserve to be loved because of their financial status? Are we all born lucky and blessed? The answer to that is yes but we are all unique, which makes us lucky and blessed in different ways. Life needs to be balanced. We cannot be all financially stable.

What was love before money mattered? Why do we need money in relationships? Or maybe love is money. One should love regardless of money or employment. Most of the people say that dating someone who doesn’t have an income it is not easy and for them it is not acceptable as the partner will rely/depend on them with everything married or not.

While a small percentage of interviewed people say it is not a big deal as long the person remains true and faithful to them and can also keep them happy. All they want is their love and affection nothing beyond that. With all that then there’s no way that money will be a problem as long as they also try to do something with their lives not just sitting at home and expecting to be spoon fed every day. Love is everything then all the materials and money they are just a bonus to them.

What has this world come to? So a good relationship is defined by money these days. No money, no car, no house means one does not deserve to be loved. Not everyone will reach their dreams in time but only God decides when to bless us all. Poor people have to go around stealing money and cars in other to receive love from the ones they love and want to be with. What happens after the money, cars and flashy things have gone? Does the love also vanish and end along with the money/material?

Love is something precious and needs no extra ingredients to add on in order to be special. On its own it is special.

 

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LET THEM WRITE

LET THEM WRITE...

By Rebecca Masina

Let them write. Let them express through writing because it seems like it is the only way of how they can actually say what is eating them, what is inside of them. Writing allows one to express themselves, to tell their feelings. It can be of anger, joy, love, sorrow or happiness, but please just allow them write. They may not know how to tell the way they feel aloud but with written words one will bet you, they can do a better job. It hurts, it really does hurt to lose them but if it is for a good cause then so be it.  You cannot force them, despite of how you may be feeling. What you must know and believe in is that when it is done let it be. Do not force it. Do not close the door for them. It can be a friend, a long time friend, a better half, a long term one; do not refuse them the way.  Set them free. A lot might have happened but sometimes we cannot control how we feel about certain things.

You spend days and weeks thinking about them, thinking of what went wrong and how it all began, how you could have prevented it but either way it was time to let go.  Sometimes our lives, happiness come first then the rest shall follow. It will feels like part of your life has died and about to be buried.  You cannot blame everything on yourself; you will end up losing the good life that the LORD has given you. Well guess se sesa feleng sea hlola. Learn a thing or two from such then move on. Always remember to say NO to abuse. Leave or report it.

LET THEM WRITE

AFTER LOVE

After love

By Rebecca Masina

How easy it is to tell that one person how much they mean to you and what you would do for them. The plans that you have for the relationship and how you planning to execute them. You promise them heaven and earth and at that moment you believe whatever that you are being told, thinking that this better half is really a serious and a commitment person that you can rely on in good and bad times. They tell you the impossible and make you believe that they are the possible, even though you know very well that they can’t move any mountain for you but you believe all in the name of love.

We’ll wait till they have got enough of you. They tasted all your angles. Right to left, centre and backwards. Then you will see their true colours, what they are really made of. Once you piss them off. Woo it’s going to be one hell of a mountain to climb.

They used to tell you how beautiful, handsome, sexy you are. How you are made for them. How you are a blessing to them and all that. Now they are telling you that you were never their type from the first place and that they were only doing you a favour lol. They will be telling the whole world how you bad you are in bed, lazy, how you smell and how all wrong you are. Ow and the best they can say is ‘’I don’t even know what I was seeing in her/him’’. Then they will continue to say maybe you gave them korobela, that you are bad luck to them lol...such madness. They will complain as if they were rich or successful before you came and gave them bad luck.

 At that moment they don’t even own a simple R10 000 UNO. They don’t even have a shack to their name let alone a job that pays more than R5 000. Hahaha some people though! So all of a sudden one of you is a gold digger, a user, good for nothing. Lol to check just last week you were called the best ave ever had. What amazes me is that, all along they did not see all the wrong that you had? Well that’s love for you or should I say after love for you? What are the benefits of bad mouthing the other half? When love is no more just move on, after all its life and we learn from such.

It is better to be honest than to stay in a relationship that you don’t have an interest on anymore and be unhappy on. It might hurt to be dumped but best believe it is for a good cause. You don’t want to be played because that will be the worst heartbreak ever. Better be told the truth and be able to move on freely. It can be hard and unforgiving but all happens for a reason. If it is not meant to be let it go and do not force love.

AFTER LOVE

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THAT ONE TRACK

THAT ONE TRACK

That one track or so used to call a song that literally changes your mood from good to bad or the other way. Mmmm you may be having a bad day or a just one of those days where everything seems to not going your way then suddenly that sound pops out, then you turn the volume up, it might be on the radio or your own music or better yet just an ordinary car passing and happens to be playing that track loud. It is amazing how a sound or a beat can change ones feelings or one’s life without hearing the lyrics.

Then you start to sing along to the lyrics, next moment you shaking your head and before you know it, you dancing like it is your last day on earth. ’’wololololo’’.

You may be going through hard times such as losing the ones you love through death, breakup or otherwise. You are in pain, you in endless thoughts, you asking yourself many questions without getting answers.  Well sometimes it feels like heaven in life and sometimes it feels like hell, yet we still have to keep on going till we make it.

Or you may be in your room just having those moments of feeling bored with no interest of doing anything. Oooh then that one track that reminds you of how good life is, reminds you of the good and bad times you had with those special ones. Ncooh and it puts you in the mood to keep on moving, keep the motivation on.  To push till you get it. How amazing how one simple track can change you hey. Yeah right.

How weird it will be when you actually mourning then that one track you love and reminds you of the one that just passed on happens to be a house track, then you busy dancing, being in your own imaginary world, having a good time with that person. By the time the song stops playing everyone is watching you, then you smile feeling somehow embarrassed.

Feel free to express yourself with music there’s totally nothing wrong with that. Lol you probably thinking of that one rack that makes your world go wild Neh....hahahaha I SEE YOU!

IT HURTS

Isn't it funny how the memories you cherish before a breakup can become your worst enemies afterwards? The thoughts you loved to think about, the memories you wanted to hold up to the light and view from every angle--it suddenly seems a lot safer to lock them in a box, far from the light of day and throw away the key. It's not an act of bitterness. It's an act if self-preservation. It's not always a bad idea to stay behind the window and look out at life instead, is it?-Ally Condie
The other confusing part is that when people break up they turn to think that it was the biggest mistake to date the person . Suddenly they start to ask themselves what is it that they were seeing in that person? like really now? why ask that question after so long? huh you did not notice anything wrong about them all along? but now that you are no longer together, you can  see all the wrongs that he has.. mhm how clever and sweet of you boo boo.
stupidity starts in that way. love is love and when is over it is over. either you can fix it or not. (sa pala sa leswa)..Move on he or she has already moved on too lala. Going crazy writing about then on social networks about how you regret dating them and how you where doing a favour, eish lala that's stooping low hey. GROW UP ALREADY.