SO MUCH HATE YET SO MUCH LOVE

SO MUCH HATE YET SO MUCH LOVE

BY Rebecca Masina

We do things then we regret doing them. We forget that we did them with love, so much love that we were not thinking about the outcomes of them. Have you ever done something with so much love then later regret doing it?  Like giving a hand to someone and they throw it back at you without a thank you. Such what do you about them? Let them pass? Mmhm your choice.

Speaking of choices, have you thought about what you did last night? Was it good, bad? Did it benefit you or the next person? Well sometimes if not every time, we young stars turn to make decision that will only benefit us and not think about the outcome of them until it is late and there is nothing one can do about them. It is not easy to live with regrets, to live with the ‘what if’s’. Those are the mistakes or choices we made and have to live with them and learn how to make better choices next time, it is a learning curve.
Time is precious and how you utilise it is also important. Turning back isn’t an option but fixing whatever that has been broken can be the only option to recovery. Not everything in life will be smooth sailing; well even the rich can confirm that one. Seek help where possible. No one is allowed to judge you as we all make mistakes in life. Not every right way will be right.

In life we learn by numbers!

 

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THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET

THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET

By Rebecca Masina

Have you ever got that feeling that you cannot describe or turn it into an action? Is it a good feeling or a bad feeling? Well such is life, sometimes is hard to explain it. That moment when you are happy and you cannot contain it, what do you do? In life we learn and we teach. We might not see it like that but hey it is what is happening. We learn everyday and somehow it happens that we teach without noticing that we are doing so.

To all my friends who got married/engaged this year congratulations. I mean even those that manage to take other peoples better halves. Well its life right? We are all blessed in different ways. Have you noticed that moment when you have been with your partner for almost a decade and hoping that one day they will wife you, then it happens that you fight or break up due to some reasonable reasons  or not, then they move on to the next person then a few months later you hear they are getting married. THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET. After all the sweats you went through, I wonder what is next after that. Does that mean you were not what they call marriage type or something else?

It is not like we are having doubts that you can or will not last in your marriage but don’t you think it is too early especially when you know you haven’t done anything with your life? Or ist that you will see when you get there? ‘’Yeah our parents also got married at a younger age and they lasted’’. But are you OUR PARENTS? THE CLOSER YOU CAN GET.

In this century nothing is ever the same. Today it happens to never be the same as yesterday. Of course it is a different day and time.

YOU DONT KNOW ME

YOU DONT KNOW ME

By Rebecca Masina

Look I am not in love with you because of your money or any other materialistic things, but I am with you because kao rata nothing more. Wait if you think I am here because of you riches then really, you do not know me at all. You go all around listening to every mouth that stops you and tells you that ‘cheese boy lalela, Kedibone ogo ratela tshelete ya hao’. Then you believe them and start acting weird towards me. Really? Like really?

Last I checked you are the one who came up to me and proposed. Did I ask you if you are loaded or not? Well let me tell you and you shall remember this. Not everyone will appreciate the good that you have. They will always try to run it down for their own benefits. One day I will be gone and you will be looking for me saying ‘nkebe’. We have been together for 6 years now and you only realise that I am after your riches? Ntse rewa re ema together now that’s all forgotten. I practically made you who you are today and that’s how you thank me.

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Ao come December you are nowhere to be found. You have a new number, a new girlfriend for December, you don’t sleep at home. You are always out. I guess you know me only ‘ge tlala e ephile maatla’. This is not a complaint but I am just letting you know that what you saw it is what you going to reap. January to November you know me as I am the one looking after you as if I am your parents or your bank account manager.

Come December because you now have money and bonuses you do not know me, thinking that I want your money. Well congratulations, have fun and come January as always I will be there not because of anything but only because kao rata and nothing more.

 

LOVE VERSUS BROKENESS

By Rebecca Masina

What you have today it is what it is used to measure love in this century. Nowadays it is said that where there is no money there is no love. Mhmm how true is that? When you love shouldn’t that be because of the heart and not money? So does this mean all broke people do not deserve to be loved because of their financial status? Are we all born lucky and blessed? The answer to that is yes but we are all unique, which makes us lucky and blessed in different ways. Life needs to be balanced. We cannot be all financially stable.

What was love before money mattered? Why do we need money in relationships? Or maybe love is money. One should love regardless of money or employment. Most of the people say that dating someone who doesn’t have an income it is not easy and for them it is not acceptable as the partner will rely/depend on them with everything married or not.

While a small percentage of interviewed people say it is not a big deal as long the person remains true and faithful to them and can also keep them happy. All they want is their love and affection nothing beyond that. With all that then there’s no way that money will be a problem as long as they also try to do something with their lives not just sitting at home and expecting to be spoon fed every day. Love is everything then all the materials and money they are just a bonus to them.

What has this world come to? So a good relationship is defined by money these days. No money, no car, no house means one does not deserve to be loved. Not everyone will reach their dreams in time but only God decides when to bless us all. Poor people have to go around stealing money and cars in other to receive love from the ones they love and want to be with. What happens after the money, cars and flashy things have gone? Does the love also vanish and end along with the money/material?

Love is something precious and needs no extra ingredients to add on in order to be special. On its own it is special.

 

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LET THEM WRITE

LET THEM WRITE...

By Rebecca Masina

Let them write. Let them express through writing because it seems like it is the only way of how they can actually say what is eating them, what is inside of them. Writing allows one to express themselves, to tell their feelings. It can be of anger, joy, love, sorrow or happiness, but please just allow them write. They may not know how to tell the way they feel aloud but with written words one will bet you, they can do a better job. It hurts, it really does hurt to lose them but if it is for a good cause then so be it.  You cannot force them, despite of how you may be feeling. What you must know and believe in is that when it is done let it be. Do not force it. Do not close the door for them. It can be a friend, a long time friend, a better half, a long term one; do not refuse them the way.  Set them free. A lot might have happened but sometimes we cannot control how we feel about certain things.

You spend days and weeks thinking about them, thinking of what went wrong and how it all began, how you could have prevented it but either way it was time to let go.  Sometimes our lives, happiness come first then the rest shall follow. It will feels like part of your life has died and about to be buried.  You cannot blame everything on yourself; you will end up losing the good life that the LORD has given you. Well guess se sesa feleng sea hlola. Learn a thing or two from such then move on. Always remember to say NO to abuse. Leave or report it.

LET THEM WRITE

AFTER LOVE

After love

By Rebecca Masina

How easy it is to tell that one person how much they mean to you and what you would do for them. The plans that you have for the relationship and how you planning to execute them. You promise them heaven and earth and at that moment you believe whatever that you are being told, thinking that this better half is really a serious and a commitment person that you can rely on in good and bad times. They tell you the impossible and make you believe that they are the possible, even though you know very well that they can’t move any mountain for you but you believe all in the name of love.

We’ll wait till they have got enough of you. They tasted all your angles. Right to left, centre and backwards. Then you will see their true colours, what they are really made of. Once you piss them off. Woo it’s going to be one hell of a mountain to climb.

They used to tell you how beautiful, handsome, sexy you are. How you are made for them. How you are a blessing to them and all that. Now they are telling you that you were never their type from the first place and that they were only doing you a favour lol. They will be telling the whole world how you bad you are in bed, lazy, how you smell and how all wrong you are. Ow and the best they can say is ‘’I don’t even know what I was seeing in her/him’’. Then they will continue to say maybe you gave them korobela, that you are bad luck to them lol...such madness. They will complain as if they were rich or successful before you came and gave them bad luck.

 At that moment they don’t even own a simple R10 000 UNO. They don’t even have a shack to their name let alone a job that pays more than R5 000. Hahaha some people though! So all of a sudden one of you is a gold digger, a user, good for nothing. Lol to check just last week you were called the best ave ever had. What amazes me is that, all along they did not see all the wrong that you had? Well that’s love for you or should I say after love for you? What are the benefits of bad mouthing the other half? When love is no more just move on, after all its life and we learn from such.

It is better to be honest than to stay in a relationship that you don’t have an interest on anymore and be unhappy on. It might hurt to be dumped but best believe it is for a good cause. You don’t want to be played because that will be the worst heartbreak ever. Better be told the truth and be able to move on freely. It can be hard and unforgiving but all happens for a reason. If it is not meant to be let it go and do not force love.

AFTER LOVE

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THAT ONE TRACK

THAT ONE TRACK

That one track or so used to call a song that literally changes your mood from good to bad or the other way. Mmmm you may be having a bad day or a just one of those days where everything seems to not going your way then suddenly that sound pops out, then you turn the volume up, it might be on the radio or your own music or better yet just an ordinary car passing and happens to be playing that track loud. It is amazing how a sound or a beat can change ones feelings or one’s life without hearing the lyrics.

Then you start to sing along to the lyrics, next moment you shaking your head and before you know it, you dancing like it is your last day on earth. ’’wololololo’’.

You may be going through hard times such as losing the ones you love through death, breakup or otherwise. You are in pain, you in endless thoughts, you asking yourself many questions without getting answers.  Well sometimes it feels like heaven in life and sometimes it feels like hell, yet we still have to keep on going till we make it.

Or you may be in your room just having those moments of feeling bored with no interest of doing anything. Oooh then that one track that reminds you of how good life is, reminds you of the good and bad times you had with those special ones. Ncooh and it puts you in the mood to keep on moving, keep the motivation on.  To push till you get it. How amazing how one simple track can change you hey. Yeah right.

How weird it will be when you actually mourning then that one track you love and reminds you of the one that just passed on happens to be a house track, then you busy dancing, being in your own imaginary world, having a good time with that person. By the time the song stops playing everyone is watching you, then you smile feeling somehow embarrassed.

Feel free to express yourself with music there’s totally nothing wrong with that. Lol you probably thinking of that one rack that makes your world go wild Neh....hahahaha I SEE YOU!

IT HURTS

Isn't it funny how the memories you cherish before a breakup can become your worst enemies afterwards? The thoughts you loved to think about, the memories you wanted to hold up to the light and view from every angle--it suddenly seems a lot safer to lock them in a box, far from the light of day and throw away the key. It's not an act of bitterness. It's an act if self-preservation. It's not always a bad idea to stay behind the window and look out at life instead, is it?-Ally Condie
The other confusing part is that when people break up they turn to think that it was the biggest mistake to date the person . Suddenly they start to ask themselves what is it that they were seeing in that person? like really now? why ask that question after so long? huh you did not notice anything wrong about them all along? but now that you are no longer together, you can  see all the wrongs that he has.. mhm how clever and sweet of you boo boo.
stupidity starts in that way. love is love and when is over it is over. either you can fix it or not. (sa pala sa leswa)..Move on he or she has already moved on too lala. Going crazy writing about then on social networks about how you regret dating them and how you where doing a favour, eish lala that's stooping low hey. GROW UP ALREADY.

WHY MAKE THEM YOUR REBOUNDS?

Are they the ones that hurt you? placed you in a situation that you are in right now? Aowa tjo, phela this way you are continuing with the circle that was started by your ex and that means you do approve of it. Sheba we are not the ones that made you to fall in love with that player, so please stop making us your rebounds. We deserve better than that. We are not here to play hide and seek or any other games. When we love, we actually do love, but because wena you have been used and played around with  like a yoyo then you also do the same to us. really? o batla mpama struu!

Anyone who has ever been in a serious relationship knows that a breakup can rock your world. Whether you saw the breakup coming or not, the time after a relationship ends can be tenuous at best and self-destructive at worst. 
 
Enklek waba sheba batho ba o jolang le bona or you just go fro the love of money and good life? Are you going to benefit something from making them your rebounds?Lala sheba, you have been hurt sure we know that. OK we might not know the pain that you are going through but go ira the next person whom truly loves you a rebound ain't an option.
It is a breakup after all. Get over it. Hasa ho batla. Ofeditse ka wena. Lerato le fedile. Move on babe. Some things just dont last forever!!!

Ribsy.

WHY SETTLE FOR LESS

The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.

Do you know how precious life is and yet how short it can be?. Well all that does not mean that just because you are from a disadvantaged background you can short cuts to get to the top. This days all that you can see is grown up men going for young girls, and it seems like those young girls are also falling for their traps. First of all that grown up men has seen the world and knows more than you can know. He probably has a family that needs him and mostly a wife that is always waiting for him to come back home every night and you young lady are busy with that men thinking that he will give you the world. His last born might be your age. How would you feel if it was you father dating young girls that are even younger than you?.
"I think happiness is a choice. If you feel yourself being happy and can settle in to the life choices you make, then it's great. It's really, really great. I swear to God, happiness is the best makeup"-Drew Barrymore.
Have you ever once thought about what you want in life? and how you going to achieve it?. Cant men be non of it there?. Make your own choices in life and make the right ones. Seek help don't be shy.
 "Believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it"-Steve Jobs

Think before you act. there's more to life than settling for less.

SELF LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

SELF LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

By Rebecca Masina

Do you know that before you can love and accept others you firstly need to love and accept your self? How do you normally accept your self as you are and learn to deal with the challenges that you are and will be facing?. We all have our own methods of dealing with things. The best way is to accept the person you are and be ready to change if that’s good for your being.

Self love is very important. Love and respect your self. Most important respect your body as it is the temple of God.

“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far”- Swami Vivekananda

When  it  comes to self love, one should consider taking care of their selves by being clean and making the right decisions in life, seeking help where they seem to struggle. there's nothing wrong with asking for help.

The biggest struggle in life is the struggle to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults and imperfections. Many of us were raised  by parents who were themselves victims - who were not taught to see their own worth, or who were not really seen by their own parents. Our grandparents generation faced massive trauma and upheaval due to the Second World War and the Great Depression. The focus was on survival and minimizing the damage, rather than on love, appreciation and intimacy. Individuals and families today face the challenges of long commutes, longer working hours, and global economic uncertainty. These stresses can beat us down, or make us build walls around ourselves that are so dense that even our dearest friends, partners, spouses and children can't get in. Yet, there is another way.

Know Yourself

1. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.- Carl Gustav Jung

2.You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are. -Yogi Bhajan

3.We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.-Mary Dunbar

4.What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

5.Everything worth having costs something, and the price of true love is self-knowledge.

Be True to Yourself

1.Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. - Unknown

2.Follow that will and that way which experience confirms to be your own. - Carl Gustav Jung

3.The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.
-E. E. Cummings

4.Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

5.To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Respect  Yourself

1.The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself -  Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

2.The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore. C. JoyBell C.

3.Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

4.Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does-William James

5.It isn't what they call you, it's what you answer to-W.C. Fields

  Value Yourself

1.Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are-Malcolm S. Forbes

2.Scarcity of self value cannot be remedied by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence-Gary Zukav

3.The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
- William James

Accept Yourself

1.To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself-Thich Nhat Hanh

2.Our entire life … consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.”
- Jean Anouih

3.I’ve finally stopped running away from myself. Who else is there better to be?”
- Golden Hawn

4.Your problem is you’re … too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
- Ram Dass

5.To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections-Sandra Bierig

6.Believing in our hearts that who we are is enough is the key to a more satisfying and balanced life.- Ellen Sue Stern

Love Yourself

1.You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy

2.You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. -Buddha

3.You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing. -Ram Dass

4.It's not your job to like me...it's MINE! -Byron Katie

5.Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. - Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet

CREDIT…

The Mindful Self-Express .The mind-body experiment.

by Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

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LOVE AND LUST

By Rebecca Masina

It is not suppose to hurt, but to make you happy. It is suppose to consist of respect, honesty, comfort, communication, trust together with good bad times. It is suppose to be real not fake. How can one love but have no heart in the relationship? How do you define love? What does it mean to you? How does it make you feel? How do you act when you are in love?

In recent years, people do not love for real but to just pass time and for their own benefits which are money, fame and material. Others for a one night stand only. It hurts to know that the one you love is playing pass time with you, whilst you are planning big for them.

It has never been easy to maintain a relationship and to keep it going for years but yes it is easy to fall in love and to love.

Bohlale’s story;

Bohlale got into a relationship not knowing what it is expected of her but she made sure that whatever it takes, she is going to make the relationship work. She was in a relationship and decided to end it and continue with the one she just got into. Things seems to be going well, “actually great”- she said

For the first time things seems to be going great for her in the relationship. It was the first relationship that she got into and got treated like a queen, made to feel loved and appreciated. Days turned into months but a year was never reached.

To her disappointment, the love started to have a leak, no more good times. He doesn’t call or return text messages. Suddenly the number doesn’t work anymore. When she calls all she gets is a lady voice saying “the number you have dialled does not exist”. Oh my WORD! What is she going to do? She’s four months pregnant and HIV positive and the daddy nowhere to be found.

From that, her worst nightmare, she does not know where the guy is from, his home. She only knew the apartment that he rented plus his fake name and now it has a new tenant, whom doesn’t know anything about the past tenant. Bohlale’s world became so tiny. She did not know what to do next. She cried day and night. She tried to go back to her ex boyfriend whom she dumped like trash, and as the poor ex boyfriend never stopped loving her, he gave her a shoulder to cry on and support but never did they get back together.

Well as for the boyfriend that left her with unplanned pregnancy and HIV, he is married with 7 kids and was using Bohlale to get over his stress at home. When things got fixed at his home, he packed his everything and went to his lovely family. Poor Bohlale who left his honest, loving and caring boyfriend to a boyfriend with money, cars and a flashy apartment has a herself to blame today. She is a single mother and not working but relies on child support grant. There’s that one person who truly loves you yet you are too damn busy with material lo notice that.

 

BE MY VILENTINE, WOULD YOU?

In few days time it will be that day that couples celebrate their love by spoiling each other with presents and spending time with them. What will you are doing that day? Uhm before you answer that, tell me, do you have a partner that you going to be celebrating the day with or you have partners? Haaa well I am just asking. These days you will never know.  People are only looking for partners that they call ‘just for V-day’ they only want them when it’s time for valentine and when the day is over and they have their presents with them, the next day they block and delete their numbers and wait for the next occasion to unblock them. Now that what we call life (go jewa).

All that depends on how matured you are, according to my perspective. If you are a mature individual, I doubt you could do the playing game. This day’s guys are more careful, its either you give them and they give you or nothing.

To the couples that celebrate the day, share with us what you would love to get and what you are getting your better half. As for me “Ribsy”... well lol *blush* yes I can happily say that I am happy and for the day I just want to keep everything in suspense (red and black). All I need is time nje, nothing more or expensive though I wouldn’t say no to those awesome stilettos.

Lingerie wouldn’t be a bad gift too lol, especially to those who know how to rock them.

We not all the same, some prefer to spend money and some prefer the other way. To those that don’t celebrate the day, stop judging and let those who celebrate to have their time and moments. They didn’t ask you to not celebrate the day or maybe you judging” kanti ungu mahamba yedwa”. Jealous down please.

Have a lovely Valentine’s Day awesome people and remember to the young ones in love, NO big tummies in the next few months. Play it SAFE and stay away from temptations. Makhwapheni stay alert lol.

Yours truly,

Miss Masina

WHITCHCRAFT (DO YOU BELIEVE IT EXISTS)?

Whenever they see an old women looking all dodgy and weird, they already accuse her of possessing witchcraft? Already they want to burn her alive. What has this world turned into? If you believe in witchcraft then how can you prove that it exits? Not everyone is a believer into such things.

We are losing our great grandparents because of some accusations that are based on myths and maybe science. We supposed to love and respecting these old people. They are here for a good reason, to guide and groom us into better people for tomorrow.  How about some gratitude. What will you do if it is your grandmother that they accusing of witchcraft? I bet it won’t be of good.

Who have seen a naked old women flying with bread? Haaa. So as I was in a taxi from Midrand going home, some women started talking about witchcraft and all they did was to criticise old women as they were young. Is witchcraft practiced by older people only and women only? What about men? Oh another thing do sangomas also possess witchcraft?

We all have our own perspective of such thing. Some believe and some don’t believe. But then,

We can’t always live to judge people because of how they look or what they do. We are not God and we are not sent by God to come and judge His children. He is the creator of life.

Leave our grandparents alone.

SHE CAN’T GET ENOUGH

Every car that passes her, she has to ride it. She can’t say NO. She can’t get enough of what she has. Her friends have turned against her because all she does is to snatch their partners. Sleep with them behind their backs. She doesn’t get satisfied with she has. All she cares about is herself and no other. Her life is a mess. The whole Gauteng Province has tasted her underneath. Some guys are even complaining now it’s a big whole. She’s living the fast life. She doesn’t have any kind of qualification not to mention matric. She last saw school gate in grade 8, even that grade 8 she went for 3 months and got tired.

 She will tell you all about the fancy life that she lives that she does not need school to live happy. She doesn’t care. You can say whatever you want to say to her she will just look into your eyes and says ok then laughs like no body’s business. Her parents don’t know what to do. They have tried everything they could do. There’s no hope anymore as she already has all the diseases that you can think of.

 Now she’s in bed, unable to breath, eat or walk herself to her bathroom. She wears pampers, that are supposed to be worn by kids. What happened to her? Life happened we can say. Where are the people that she used to ride their cars and give them the best love making ever? Gone they don’t even know that she exist let alone to know her name. Now her parents are suffering, going up and down for her to get the best treatment yet it is already late. Hopefully she will get enough in her grave.

HIV AND AIDS DOES EXIST.

NGWAGA O MOSWA- NEW YEAR

Ola my people, so hope ya'll missed me neh? Lol I know even though you would pretend you didn’t. Well I know for a fact that you keep opening my site thinking that maybe and just maybe I forgot to post a blog on my social networks. Lol well I too like you was on holiday. Anyways Compliments of the new season my awesome people. Hope you all had an awesome, super December hey! Me did, I got to know some part of my family that I never knew existed. Wow and the amazing part was meeting one of the craziest cousin of mine called *ponds* Selby is his real name.

Alright back to real life now. So now it is the time that we prepare to see the results of December mhm... so can’t wait to see what it has brought to 2014. No no no don’t be scared, you did not do anything wrong did you? Huh you still thinking about it? Lol got you right, keep thinking.

We did spend time with our families, had a lot of fun and closed 2013 with a great bang. We are all hoping that 2014 will be the best year for all of us right?. Some of you have set up new year’s resolutions which you know very well that you wont keep. Hahaha we watching you. Lots of lives were lost and love also lost along the way, but then this is the time to redeem your self to the good things in life. Aim high so that when you fall you don’t just fall right at the bottom. Always have plan B for whatever that you plan to do or achieve.

Continue to love and respect others. Do unto others as you would also love them to do unto you. This is life; we all need each other to survive. You came alone to this world but you need people to survive. Respect God and His Words. Respects elders at all times. Remember everything you do has its consequences. We hope and pray to see no abortions and teenage pregnancies. We pray to see more 21^st birthday parties too. Except what you can’t have in life. No sugar daddies hey!

Happy new year everyone!!!