SELF LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

SELF LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE

By Rebecca Masina

Do you know that before you can love and accept others you firstly need to love and accept your self? How do you normally accept your self as you are and learn to deal with the challenges that you are and will be facing?. We all have our own methods of dealing with things. The best way is to accept the person you are and be ready to change if that’s good for your being.

Self love is very important. Love and respect your self. Most important respect your body as it is the temple of God.

“We are what our thoughts have made us; so take care about what you think. Words are secondary. Thoughts live; they travel far”- Swami Vivekananda

When  it  comes to self love, one should consider taking care of their selves by being clean and making the right decisions in life, seeking help where they seem to struggle. there's nothing wrong with asking for help.

The biggest struggle in life is the struggle to know, embrace, and accept ourselves, with all of our faults and imperfections. Many of us were raised  by parents who were themselves victims - who were not taught to see their own worth, or who were not really seen by their own parents. Our grandparents generation faced massive trauma and upheaval due to the Second World War and the Great Depression. The focus was on survival and minimizing the damage, rather than on love, appreciation and intimacy. Individuals and families today face the challenges of long commutes, longer working hours, and global economic uncertainty. These stresses can beat us down, or make us build walls around ourselves that are so dense that even our dearest friends, partners, spouses and children can't get in. Yet, there is another way.

Know Yourself

1. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.- Carl Gustav Jung

2.You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are. -Yogi Bhajan

3.We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light.-Mary Dunbar

4.What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

5.Everything worth having costs something, and the price of true love is self-knowledge.

Be True to Yourself

1.Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it. - Unknown

2.Follow that will and that way which experience confirms to be your own. - Carl Gustav Jung

3.The hardest challenge is to be yourself in a world where everyone is trying to make you be somebody else.
-E. E. Cummings

4.Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.
-Eleanor Roosevelt

5.To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Respect  Yourself

1.The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself -  Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

2.The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore. C. JoyBell C.

3.Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one's own sunshine.-Ralph Waldo Emerson

4.Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does-William James

5.It isn't what they call you, it's what you answer to-W.C. Fields

  Value Yourself

1.Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are-Malcolm S. Forbes

2.Scarcity of self value cannot be remedied by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence-Gary Zukav

3.The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.”
- William James

Accept Yourself

1.To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself-Thich Nhat Hanh

2.Our entire life … consists ultimately in accepting ourselves as we are.”
- Jean Anouih

3.I’ve finally stopped running away from myself. Who else is there better to be?”
- Golden Hawn

4.Your problem is you’re … too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”
- Ram Dass

5.To accept ourselves as we are means to value our imperfections as much as our perfections-Sandra Bierig

6.Believing in our hearts that who we are is enough is the key to a more satisfying and balanced life.- Ellen Sue Stern

Love Yourself

1.You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy

2.You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection. -Buddha

3.You can’t build joy on a feeling of self-loathing. -Ram Dass

4.It's not your job to like me...it's MINE! -Byron Katie

5.Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. - Rumi, thirteenth century Sufi poet

CREDIT…

The Mindful Self-Express .The mind-body experiment.

by Melanie Greenberg, Ph.D.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201210/the-50-best-quotes-self-love

LOVE AND LUST

By Rebecca Masina

It is not suppose to hurt, but to make you happy. It is suppose to consist of respect, honesty, comfort, communication, trust together with good bad times. It is suppose to be real not fake. How can one love but have no heart in the relationship? How do you define love? What does it mean to you? How does it make you feel? How do you act when you are in love?

In recent years, people do not love for real but to just pass time and for their own benefits which are money, fame and material. Others for a one night stand only. It hurts to know that the one you love is playing pass time with you, whilst you are planning big for them.

It has never been easy to maintain a relationship and to keep it going for years but yes it is easy to fall in love and to love.

Bohlale’s story;

Bohlale got into a relationship not knowing what it is expected of her but she made sure that whatever it takes, she is going to make the relationship work. She was in a relationship and decided to end it and continue with the one she just got into. Things seems to be going well, “actually great”- she said

For the first time things seems to be going great for her in the relationship. It was the first relationship that she got into and got treated like a queen, made to feel loved and appreciated. Days turned into months but a year was never reached.

To her disappointment, the love started to have a leak, no more good times. He doesn’t call or return text messages. Suddenly the number doesn’t work anymore. When she calls all she gets is a lady voice saying “the number you have dialled does not exist”. Oh my WORD! What is she going to do? She’s four months pregnant and HIV positive and the daddy nowhere to be found.

From that, her worst nightmare, she does not know where the guy is from, his home. She only knew the apartment that he rented plus his fake name and now it has a new tenant, whom doesn’t know anything about the past tenant. Bohlale’s world became so tiny. She did not know what to do next. She cried day and night. She tried to go back to her ex boyfriend whom she dumped like trash, and as the poor ex boyfriend never stopped loving her, he gave her a shoulder to cry on and support but never did they get back together.

Well as for the boyfriend that left her with unplanned pregnancy and HIV, he is married with 7 kids and was using Bohlale to get over his stress at home. When things got fixed at his home, he packed his everything and went to his lovely family. Poor Bohlale who left his honest, loving and caring boyfriend to a boyfriend with money, cars and a flashy apartment has a herself to blame today. She is a single mother and not working but relies on child support grant. There’s that one person who truly loves you yet you are too damn busy with material lo notice that.

 

BE MY VILENTINE, WOULD YOU?

In few days time it will be that day that couples celebrate their love by spoiling each other with presents and spending time with them. What will you are doing that day? Uhm before you answer that, tell me, do you have a partner that you going to be celebrating the day with or you have partners? Haaa well I am just asking. These days you will never know.  People are only looking for partners that they call ‘just for V-day’ they only want them when it’s time for valentine and when the day is over and they have their presents with them, the next day they block and delete their numbers and wait for the next occasion to unblock them. Now that what we call life (go jewa).

All that depends on how matured you are, according to my perspective. If you are a mature individual, I doubt you could do the playing game. This day’s guys are more careful, its either you give them and they give you or nothing.

To the couples that celebrate the day, share with us what you would love to get and what you are getting your better half. As for me “Ribsy”... well lol *blush* yes I can happily say that I am happy and for the day I just want to keep everything in suspense (red and black). All I need is time nje, nothing more or expensive though I wouldn’t say no to those awesome stilettos.

Lingerie wouldn’t be a bad gift too lol, especially to those who know how to rock them.

We not all the same, some prefer to spend money and some prefer the other way. To those that don’t celebrate the day, stop judging and let those who celebrate to have their time and moments. They didn’t ask you to not celebrate the day or maybe you judging” kanti ungu mahamba yedwa”. Jealous down please.

Have a lovely Valentine’s Day awesome people and remember to the young ones in love, NO big tummies in the next few months. Play it SAFE and stay away from temptations. Makhwapheni stay alert lol.

Yours truly,

Miss Masina

WHITCHCRAFT (DO YOU BELIEVE IT EXISTS)?

Whenever they see an old women looking all dodgy and weird, they already accuse her of possessing witchcraft? Already they want to burn her alive. What has this world turned into? If you believe in witchcraft then how can you prove that it exits? Not everyone is a believer into such things.

We are losing our great grandparents because of some accusations that are based on myths and maybe science. We supposed to love and respecting these old people. They are here for a good reason, to guide and groom us into better people for tomorrow.  How about some gratitude. What will you do if it is your grandmother that they accusing of witchcraft? I bet it won’t be of good.

Who have seen a naked old women flying with bread? Haaa. So as I was in a taxi from Midrand going home, some women started talking about witchcraft and all they did was to criticise old women as they were young. Is witchcraft practiced by older people only and women only? What about men? Oh another thing do sangomas also possess witchcraft?

We all have our own perspective of such thing. Some believe and some don’t believe. But then,

We can’t always live to judge people because of how they look or what they do. We are not God and we are not sent by God to come and judge His children. He is the creator of life.

Leave our grandparents alone.

SHE CAN’T GET ENOUGH

Every car that passes her, she has to ride it. She can’t say NO. She can’t get enough of what she has. Her friends have turned against her because all she does is to snatch their partners. Sleep with them behind their backs. She doesn’t get satisfied with she has. All she cares about is herself and no other. Her life is a mess. The whole Gauteng Province has tasted her underneath. Some guys are even complaining now it’s a big whole. She’s living the fast life. She doesn’t have any kind of qualification not to mention matric. She last saw school gate in grade 8, even that grade 8 she went for 3 months and got tired.

 She will tell you all about the fancy life that she lives that she does not need school to live happy. She doesn’t care. You can say whatever you want to say to her she will just look into your eyes and says ok then laughs like no body’s business. Her parents don’t know what to do. They have tried everything they could do. There’s no hope anymore as she already has all the diseases that you can think of.

 Now she’s in bed, unable to breath, eat or walk herself to her bathroom. She wears pampers, that are supposed to be worn by kids. What happened to her? Life happened we can say. Where are the people that she used to ride their cars and give them the best love making ever? Gone they don’t even know that she exist let alone to know her name. Now her parents are suffering, going up and down for her to get the best treatment yet it is already late. Hopefully she will get enough in her grave.

HIV AND AIDS DOES EXIST.

NGWAGA O MOSWA- NEW YEAR

Ola my people, so hope ya'll missed me neh? Lol I know even though you would pretend you didn’t. Well I know for a fact that you keep opening my site thinking that maybe and just maybe I forgot to post a blog on my social networks. Lol well I too like you was on holiday. Anyways Compliments of the new season my awesome people. Hope you all had an awesome, super December hey! Me did, I got to know some part of my family that I never knew existed. Wow and the amazing part was meeting one of the craziest cousin of mine called *ponds* Selby is his real name.

Alright back to real life now. So now it is the time that we prepare to see the results of December mhm... so can’t wait to see what it has brought to 2014. No no no don’t be scared, you did not do anything wrong did you? Huh you still thinking about it? Lol got you right, keep thinking.

We did spend time with our families, had a lot of fun and closed 2013 with a great bang. We are all hoping that 2014 will be the best year for all of us right?. Some of you have set up new year’s resolutions which you know very well that you wont keep. Hahaha we watching you. Lots of lives were lost and love also lost along the way, but then this is the time to redeem your self to the good things in life. Aim high so that when you fall you don’t just fall right at the bottom. Always have plan B for whatever that you plan to do or achieve.

Continue to love and respect others. Do unto others as you would also love them to do unto you. This is life; we all need each other to survive. You came alone to this world but you need people to survive. Respect God and His Words. Respects elders at all times. Remember everything you do has its consequences. We hope and pray to see no abortions and teenage pregnancies. We pray to see more 21^st birthday parties too. Except what you can’t have in life. No sugar daddies hey!

Happy new year everyone!!!  

ONLY 13 BUT GOING WILD

Adolescent kicked in so much earlier in her. Now she’s driving her parents crazy, they are scared she might do something that can disgrace then, even more makes her life a tough one like being a mother at a young age. She’s still in grade 9 but her actions are those of a 21 year young lady. On weekends she doesn’t sleep at home. They call her and she drops and switches it off the next day she changes her number and refuses her family to have the number.

Her family tries by all means to give her guidance, talk to her about life and all that but all seem to have fallen to a person whom can’t hear. This is only the beginning. Imagine when she reaches 18 year, what will she be doing? The worst thing, she replies back to her elders when they try to talk to her. She’s totally uncontrollable. Only 13 but you can’t touch her. The more you try to talk to her it seems like it is the more you push her to do the things she is doing.

Her elder sister is only 21 and by 4 O’clock she’s already at home. But that is her time to go out instead. Her home is so comfortable, loving and very respected. Recently she has joined the life style of the so called “SKHOTHANI”.Well this is only the beginning I tell you. The 13year old is forever demanding money and never tells what she wants to use it for. The other day she was just nagging her mother to get a gold tooth for her.

Is this the future? Is that life? The names of the expensive shoes she names, the language she uses, her attitude? Lots of role models within her house yet she never gets motivated even a bit. She doesn’t see her clothes as attractive lately, so she wears her friend’s clothes and you would ask where she got them and she will proudly reply you.

All the family has is hope for the better to come..

AUSI, ABUTI PHAPHAMA

Are you that one girl that they only miss, call and text when they want sex? Haaa excuse me but they using you shame. And there you are charmed by those flashy cars that they still owe, telling you that they bought it cash. Enklek what do you gain there? What are the benefits? Is it the gifts, food and the clothes they buy you only to find out they did not even buy them his sister did not like them because she has good taste, then he just decided to keep them till he gets bored and horney then calls you and surprises you and wena with lack of taste in fashion and good things you feel like he bought you life, just because you are an idiot you also think the guy likes you and all that then two minutes later you open your legs. You are his distraction from his problems just so you know plus he is taking advantage unless you are also up for game.

 Have you ever asked yourself, where does he stay because he always takes you to cheap motels, which you think they are expensive. He never even mention the word love yet you tell us that you are in love saying (chomie hape nna ka ratiwa) lol you will tell us the day you realise that you are actually HIV positive or suffering from any sexually transmitted disease and being pregnant then him not to be found. KHUZEKA NTOMBI.

Your background should not be the reason you do such things. “You have means to achieve your dreams and men are not the answer”.

Are you that one guy that girls miss and be friendly, pretend to love when they are bored and want to go out and they call you because you have a flashy car and money and they call you “kgogo ya rona” ao hahaha shame phaphama (wakeup) baho hloba strong! They keep giving you false hope of love. Ai shem ngwana batho just because wena you love them and you are too blind to see that you are being used, you keep falling for their tricks.

Yah neh the world is messed up, but retlareng? That’s how things work these days. Go rough mo ntle mo. Being sweet and all that good won’t work but they will take advantage unless you also have your own motives.

For everything you do, there’s always going to be a result for it.

THE GIFT OF GIVING

It is almost time for the festive season. The time for spending and having good times with family and friends.

In these times do you ever think of those that don’t have anything to eat, drink and dress? It is heartbreaking to see someone suffering at the same time looking at you whilst you are having fun. Where’s the love? Can’t we share?
Out there, there are Non Governmental Organisations that helps people from all over the world with homes, food and better life. Those organisations are everywhere. Spread love and help them know how it is to be loved and appreciated mostly how it is to have fun once in a while. Most of the people have lost their families, homes due to fire or crucial accidents. They ran from their families due to abuse.
Give them love, even if it is not love but whatever you give them make sure it comes from the heart. That person will forever cherish that moment and thank you. Have you seen that most of the people who are thankful for the life that they are given are those that don’t have anything in life?
The gift of giving back is when you open your heart and give the love to those that need it. It doesn’t have to be materialistic. There more you give back the more the Blessings from God come.  Give help to anyone, it can be your neighbour or a stranger. God gave you the power to give back, use it.
This time have the heart of giving and make someone else life different. Make someone smile once in a while. Give that street kid a blanket. Show them where they can go for safety and better life. Dress that kid to school. Do anything that can change their perspective view of the world. Give them hope.
If you don’t know which organisation you can make donations to or to contact, then ask around or email me at rebecccateffo@gmail.com or call me on 0745696220.

Make someone’s life a better one, change their suicidal thinking.

YOU CANT KEEP A MAN BY HAVING HIS CHILD

Girl listen you can’t keep a man by having a kid with him. “Mmapelo oja serati”. If you not the one he loves then it’s a waste to have a baby with him let alone to plan the future with him. You are simply wasting time. “Otsamaya ntse ona le bana ba hae”. Anyways does this mean that whenever you are in a relationship and that person wants to leave, you are going to have his baby? How many kids are you going to have with different fathers? Well that’s not life at all.

Are you that desperate? Just because he earn millions and lives in an expensive apartment and treats you right, that doesn’t mean he’s yours and that doesn’t mean you should have his baby so that he can stay with you forever. “Se sesa feleng sea hlola”. Everything has its beginning and ending. He might have promised you heaven and earth but if he doesn’t love you or want you, then those promises will never be fulfilled. No love is worth forcing. That is total obsession.

When he says he wants to leave, feel free to let him leave. It’s no use to fight for a relationship to work whilst it is only one person trying and another one not even showing an effort. Well we know love is something else and it can make one to do strange things. Just so you know you simply cannot keep a man by having his kid. That is more like a threat to force him to love you. When love is gone its gone sweets, it won’t come back unless by some sort of miracle. There's more of how to keep a man but not with a baby.

Learn to let go. Yeah yeah we know it is hard but the sooner you realise you are not loved the better. There might not be another guy like him but I am sure there’s one whose more than him. You deserve better.

MGOSI

I always smile, make jokes, laugh at all times and I make sure that everybody who is around me is always happy. As long as I see everyone happy and smiling, and knowing that I am the reason behind that, then I know my heart is at peace and my God is watching over me and blessing me with more love to give.

Behind all the great things that I do, the love and respect that I give back to everyone, there is actually a brutally broken heart. I am a quiet person, whom enjoys life and taking it easy at all times and give thanks to the Lord at all times. Good or bad I always pray to God to give me strength to live to see more years and to be able to achieve my goals and dreams.
We all have those bad days, where your heart is being played with. Well I’ve never thought that I will allow myself to be heartbroken. I always thought that those who get their hearts broken are the weak hearted. Don’t get me wrong I am strong young lady and I stand my ground if I want something I make sure that is of goodness to my life and won’t hurt the ones around me.

I am a crazy person yet I never go wild. I am a risk taker yet I play it safe at all times. But there is this one thing called love. Damn that word is so beautiful and can do a lot yet people turn to play with it and torture the hearts of the innocents. Mh well here is my story.

When I love, I love so badly. I try by all means to give it my best. I believe with honesty, trust, comfort and communication there’s nothing that can break a relationship with those. But lies, deceit never grew a relationship. No relationship ever lasted with that. I loved and gave it my all and told myself that this is it. No more games and no more lies. Here I am to stay. Little did I know that my so called boyfriend (askere ka nako eo reba bitsa bo HUBBY lol) was in love with someone and that someone was not me. Lol and girl is awesome and has the looks but not the brains. So since well am literate I think I was a bit of job to handle.

Yoh guy knew how to treat his lady that even if you were to be told that he is cheating you wouldn’t believe it or you can see that he is cheating or flirting yet you still refuse to see the truth.  Yep that was me Blinded by love. All the signs were there it was just me being in denial. It hurts to love where you are not loved. Most hurting thing is that we love were we are not loved and reject where we are truly loved.

It wasn’t about the money or the material but only love. Yet the name was put into mud and stomped.  Ow or maybe uz’thandela ama bencane mmm as u call them.

always happy..thanks to the one who messed up now I got the right one *dead* 

To think that the lady being cheated with is only five (5) years younger.lol yeah I also thought that too (rape), hahahha am joking. Did not even finish school; she dropped out of high school.  Innocent hearts are always the ones that get hurt. There’s more to the story but cannot write about it. A leopard will never change its spots. Lesson learnt.