Be the best version of you

By Rebecca Masina

Aint you tired of always envying other people’s lives? Well I am not saying that it is wrong to envy other people or any good thing. Don’t you think that it is time for you to make yourself more visible? More reliable to important people in your life? How about self-motivating yourself?

Well I personally think that you can be the best version of yourself and let yourself be envied as well.  Change your life not for the bad but also for the best. Do something that you never thought that you are capable of doing. Challenge yourself.

Allow yourself to dream and make things possible. Allow yourself to be criticizedWell today it is the last Friday of the year. Have you ever thought about what you want to have achieved by next year this time?

We learn that way. Be with people who are positive and only willing to grow and not bad mouth e=very thing they walk past or see.

Allow positivity to run your life.  Love and be loved. Respect and be respected. You give what you want to be given back.

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us”. Joseph Campbell

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

FESTIVE SEASON 2016

Festive season 2016

By Rebecca Masina

It is that time of the year where families get to get together and have an awesome time. The only thing people do not pay attention to is their safety. Drivers are urged to be extra vigilant on the roads. Persons safety first. You do not want to regret at the last minute. Nkabe ke ngwana mo rago. If you know what I mean. Yes, we love this time of the year. We lose our mind, and we go wild and crazy, but with maturity and cautiousness, you could save a lot of lives.

Some of the tips for this festive season to take note of:

Budget

Watch out how you spend. Do not spend like there is no next year just to impress people who do not add value to your life.

Be wise

Put your money into good use and do what is most important before going to waste it on friends whom don’t even know your surname.

Drink carefully

Drinks are going to be spiked. Make sure that you take care of your drink and you do not leave it open. Go with it where ever you go, even if it is the toilet.

Money

Do not walk around carrying cash, the best option is to always leave your cards at home and take the only money you will need for drinks and transport. When it is done then you know it is time to go home, and you have spent enough. This will also help prevent when you get mugged, you particulars including your money is safe.

Avoid unnecessary fights.

Fights will only lead to death in this day and age. You only survive by luck

People take good care of yourselves,

Nkabe ke ngwana morago. 

16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM- PLAY YOUR PART

16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM- PLAY YOUR PART

By Rebecca Masina

YES, it is that time again, and No we don’t only have to do this on each December of every year calendar. What about every day? Hmm doesn’t it sounds better? Well not only are women and children abused but men as well are abused, and they are sitting in silence fearing that they will be laughed at if they speak up. Askere men are believed to be the heads their families? But I tell you, there are many men not only in South Africa but across the world that are abused and only scared to come out.

 We live in a society that everything has already been planned out. Like “Monna ga alle-men don’t cry” eeh where have you seen that? Aren’t they humans as well? Don’t they ever get hurt? Aowa they are not robots hey. Let’s love and respect them and not laugh when they are in pain.

The following is a guide of what 16 DAYS OF ACTIVISM is all about:

The objectives of the 16 Days Campaign are to:

•Attract all South Africans to be active participants in the fight to eradicate violence against women and children, hence the theme: Count me in.

•Expand accountability beyond the Justice, Crime Prevention and Security (JCPS) cluster to include all government clusters and provinces.

•Combine technology, social media, the arts, journalism, religion, culture and customs, business and activism to draw attention to the many ways violence against women and children affects the lives of all people in all communities around the world.

•Ensure mass mobilization of all communities to promote collective responsibility in the fight to eradicate violence against women and children.

•Encourage society to acknowledge that violence against women and children is NOT a government or criminal justice system problem, but a societal problem, and that failure to view it as such results in all efforts failing to eradicate this scourge in our communities.

•Emphasise the fact that the solution lies with all of us.

Readers can read more about 16 days of activism on this link:

http://www.gov.za/speeches/16-days-activism-2016-22-dec-2015-1000

PLAY YOUR PART-BE ACTIVE

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LIFE WILL HUMBLE YOU

Life will humble you

By Rebecca Masina

Have you ever thought about what may happen the following day? It may be based on your life or anything that is in your life. No one is ever sure about tomorrow. That is how life works. If you think that you are better than the next person, well wev got news for you! Re tla bona laka moso gore letlhaba jwang.

Just because I do not have anything in my life that I do not deserve respect. With today’s life, loyalty is everything. Humble yourself dear child, and you shall see what the good Lord has planned for you. Accept and appreciate every little thing that is being presented to you.

Have you ever thanked a small child for doing something for you? Or is it because ke ngwana, swanetse a romiwe? Mmh think about it. What you do to people, you should also know that you will not get hurt when it is being done onto you.

Bobe ka bobe ase bophelo.

Remember to always be true to yourself and do not live up to other people’s expectations. People don’t have to like you and you also do not have to care but always be considerate. Be a strong individual, be brave, and mostly BE HUMBLE.

Be happy for other people’s success and stop hating.

LIVE LOVE and BE HAPPY

HOW FAIR ARE YOU?

How fair are you?

By Rebecca Masina

It turns out not everyone is faithful as they act out to be. Most of the people that we meet, do not reveal who they are untill they ‘’TAP TO GO”.

“It may be unfair, but what happens in a few days, sometimes even a single day, can change the course of a whole lifetime...” 
― Khaled Hosseini, The Kite Runner

What makes me to end up writing this piece is because of what we see these days. People turn to do things that they know they will later regret doing. Typical example will be, girls giving boys kids. No one is refusing anyone to have kids, no, but the fact of the mater is you have to think about the after math of the things that you will be doing. Everything that you do has a result just like the saying ‘’Nothing is for mahala lovey’’.

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You don’t go around giving boys kids, no, that is not how it is done skado. Grow up, get education, get your life, and make mama and papa proud, alive or gone. Show some respect. The rest should be able to come later. What I mean by the rest I mean that baby you want to give to a boy who does not know how to write and explain what responsibility is, can only be done after marriage. If he wants it without a condom, let him put a ring on it first and the rest will just flow.

Being a newbie

an image of a newbie

By Rebecca Masina

Being a newbie in a work place can be sometimes intimidating, well if not scary.  In some places they turn to make you look like ‘’yes, you are a fool’’. Well ive got a story to tell.

Not so long ago ave got employed at one of the most high rated media companies in south Africa, and so far I can tell you I am freaken enjoying each and every minute of it.  It is not everybody that’s gonna tell you that they enjoy what they do. Some of the places make newbies look and feel like they do not belong.

Well maybe it is an initiation things that most colleagues turn to do to newbies. Finding a new job is not easy at all let alone having to learn what is what and how is what operated. People turn to turn a bling eye to this newbie thing, but hey it is a huge issues and it is also like any other important issue.

Newbies are supposed to given proper time to learn e few things. When they are given a high time they turn to end up doing wrong things and not delivering the work.  People enjoy being you and enjoy loving what do. Be free and set your mind free. Allow yourself to learn and be criticized.

Be happy, be you.

Taxi drivers- Million lives in their hands

By Rebecca

When it comes to taxi drivers, there is no telling what could happen. For people who are always on the road they sure know their ways of getting to a certain point within a limited time.  People who are always using taxis know hard it is to be traveling using a taxi. Some taxis are not road worthy yet they are still operating carrying people’s lives. Many lives are lost due to the negligence of taxi drivers.

picture of a taxi

Using a taxi it does not mean those who are using their own cars are safe. But all it means that they also face hard times with taxi drivers always wanting to overtake them in a hurry not thinking.  All it matters is that they get to their destination and not other drivers. People turn to rate taxi drivers bad but to be honest we should also give props to those that are driving properly. 

AUGUST..MONTH OF HEROINES... BASADI

AUGUST… MONTH OF THE STRONGEST (HEROINES) WOMEN

By Rebeca Masina

It is that month that reminds us that women are not only objects but they are more than that. Ke dikgwari, batshwari ba thipa ka bogaleng, ba eta pele. Without them things won’t be the same. We need these people. They have soft hearts, caring, loving and yet you can never break their spirits. Women, they go through a lot so when you see women of any age, respect, honor that women.

Imagine what your mother has gone through to get you where you are today? The struggle she went through just for you to have a better life than her yet today you are disrespecting her and calling her names. It might happen that she is not your mother but imagine how you treat her, how would you feel if it was someone doing that to your own mother?

It is said do unto others as you would like them to do unto you. 

You give respects you get respect back. Love and respect, honor this individuals. They are a rare kind. Women’s tears are very much expensive. Keep them happy and you shall reap what you saw.

This month we celebrate women who went through a lot for us women to live a free and better life today. We salute them. Mostly we thank them so much.Today women run businesses. They live their lives to the fullest. They lead and they are continuing to conquer.

Women are stronger than men, no matter how we see it. They are queens, they are not afraid to fail and failure to them is just a stepping stone to greatness. As it is said “if you want something said, ask a man, if you want something done, as a woman”-Margaret Thatcher. Women are a blessing to this life.

For they are not only celebrated in a month but throughout the year. Happy women’s Day. Women will keep running this world.

WHERE DO WE GO?

WHERE DO WE GO? HOW DO WE GO ABOUT?

By Rebecca Masina

Caption: Rebecca Masina

Life doesn’t always give us what we want. Only your believe and determination will get you where you want to be.  In life we go through different challenges, be of easy or hard they are all part of a learning curve. We learn something with that, even our mistakes do count.  Self-motivation goes a long way and it is not for the faint hearted. One needs to know how to motivate themselves especially when times are hard as it is not every time that people do give positive motivation.

In this life nothing is smooth sailing, you work for it, you sweat for it, well unless otherwise.  Have you noticed that we are motivated to go to school and learn so that we will become better people for tomorrow? Well most people believe in that as it is said you can never achieve anything without education because it is the key to your greater opportunities/success.

This has become so overrated. Why? It is because in this nowadays one goes to school for the whole three years and learn all the traits of the career they want to be in, then after so much dedication to their work, they graduate then stay at home for years only because everywhere they want people with years of experience. Well am a fresh graduate where will I get experience when you don’t allow me that opportunity?

Moments later we end up settling for any job just because we need to support our families and help our siblings to also go to school and be the same as us, waiting for experience that will come from nowhere then get hired. Why are we forced to get educated only to be refused opportunities because of experience? Isn’t that by given a chance that’s when we going to learn and gain that experience?

Not all of us have the heads to be entrepreneurs. If we did then we would be talking another story. Everything has its person/people. We do volunteer at NGO’s but at the end we also need to put something on the table for our families. They sacrificed a lot for us to go to school now it is time for us to give thanks to them.

Are we supposed to be standing on the streets with boards written “please help with a job; I have a BA in Journalism”? Before we can get hired? That seems to be the only way because that’s only when we get recognized.

In this generation we live in. it seems like you only get a job by knowing someone, not by your qualifications that you have worked hard to get.

The next thing you will see a BA graduate on the streets smoking weed/nyaope because they waiting for experience to come since all companies told him that he is well qualified but need experience. Really? Is this how things are supposed to be?

HAPPY FATHERS DAY

FATHERS DAY

Sharing best memories

By Rebecca Masina

Every child needs a father and not visitor. If you are not able to take care of your responsibilities then why at all create a living being that you know you are not going to take care of it?. Life is tough and bringing a living being to the world is a big deal and you going to have to live with it for the rest of your life.

"I want to congratulate all the men out there who are working diligently to be good fathers whether they are stepfathers, or biological fathers or just spiritual fathers." T. D. Jakes

Father’s Day is a day for responsible fathers. People whom we can call daddies because they deserve it. Remember every man can be a father but it takes a strong man to be a dad.

Most of you desert your children and go to take care of children that are not yours. Then the next thing you want to be called a dad. What are you smoking? You think you deserve it? Running away from what you know will not help you at all.

Being a dad does not mean you have to have money and lots of it for that matter. Being there every day, when she falls, cries and laugh is all that matters. For them knowing that you are there and you love them is what keeps them going.

We salute you strong, courageous man in this whole world and we say continue doing great. HAPPY DADDIES DAY.

I love you dad #Mr.Teffo 

DON’T BLAME YOURSELF FOR FALLING PREGNANT

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DON’T BLAME YOURSELF FOR FALLING PREGNANT

By Rebecca Masina

They might make you feel like it is your fault, why did you not use protection or better yet why are you not on prevention. The truth is you are both responsible for what takes place during and after intercourse. You did not sleep alone. He was there. You women also don’t need to blame men on why they did not ejaculate on the outside. Why were you also not using a condom and we all know that unprotected sex leads to what, so why do we act as if we don’t know?

Education about pregnancy and diseases is being spread within schools, churches, clinics and even at homes.  To this day people still act if it is not as if they have never heard about the consequences of unprotected sex. People suffer from H.I.V; people suffer from S.T.I’s even though they know better about them. Media is the biggest platform where teachings about such thing are being aired but still no one really takes them to mind till it is late.

“Nkabe ke ngwana morago”

Most of the time guys turn to think that it is women’s responsibility to make sure that they don’t get unwanted pregnancies but no, that is not true. Whoever gets involved in unprotected sex is responsible for the consequences. It only takes two seconds to create a soul, whether wanted or not.

No one is trapping anyone with a baby as we know that cannot happen. They leave with or without a baby. Even a good sex doesn’t mean he will stay or otherwise. The truth is if you know you do not want unforeseen things to happen then you have to protect yourself. No one will protect you but yourself. After all no one sends you to go have sex. It is your choice and your life.

Thoughts and decisions of abortions come up. They might force you to do one and you also might fall into it as you will be feeling like you are not yet ready to have a child let alone with that person. Your decisions might be based on your future but who gives rights to kill innocent souls? He might not be ready but he can’t force you to kill, vice verse lady.

Families also do sometimes blame you for falling pregnant but they also have children and they have also made some mistakes in life. No one is perfect don't let them judge you, belittle you. Don’t beat yourself about it.

Don’t feel ashamed but take responsibility of your actions. 

MY SKIN COLOUR

MY SKIN COLOUR

By Rebecca Masina

Why does my skin have to define me?

Why is being dark skinned considered to be the same as black skinned? not beautiful? Even so why does it bother some if one has a dark skin? Is that person not the same as other light skinned people? How important is the light skinned? How much better is the light skinned? Have you ever imagined that light skinned as a dark skinned person and see that there is no difference as they are all people? Do light skinned individuals eat or do things better than the other? Are they born with special talents?

I realized quickly what Mandela and Tambo meant to ordinary Africans. It was a place where they could come and find a sympathetic ear and a competent ally, a place where they would not be either turned away or cheated, a place where they might actually feel proud to be represented by men of their own skin color. Nelson Mandela

No one is judging anyone as everyone has their own opinions and it is within their rights to have one. It is seen that most of the people prefer being friends or associates with light skinned people as they are viewed as more beautiful and easy to hang around with. I for one see that as a myth. Everyone has their own opinions about the skin of other people. Being dark skinned doesn’t make you ugly or unapproachable.

It is perceived by stereotypes that light skinned are nicer for going to parties and are good for music videos and they are easy people. Dark skinned are better in other parts especially when they are thick bodied. Light is associated with being blon

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de and dark with brains.

There are people whom actually prefer dark skinned people.  Do not let your skin colour to define your life for you. Do not let the opinions of other people to choose the path for your life. You are as human as much as they are too. Which colour is better or not it does not matter. Choose to be wise and be a person of right choices.

HURT

BY Rebecca Masina

So many people are being hurt and they do not talk much about it, or they just chose not to talk about it because of fear from those that hurt them and from the public that will judge them. Being hurt does not have to be physically only, there are many ways that one can get hurt. The ones we love seem to be the ones that take the cake on hurting us. The ones that we trust and have our hopes on, seem to be the ones that take away our pride, joy and happiness.

Talking about your hurt to someone or other people can be helpful in terms of finding a healing or helping others. We give our hearts with the thought that they will be taken care of and not destroyed or abused. “Earlier I was listening to Metro FM  ...Ask a men... there was a guy who called and asked for advise with his girlfriend of three years whose been cheating on him and still is cheating at the same time she got married to someone whilst seeing that guy. The lady has a six year old child which the guy takes care of besides the fact that the child is not his. So apparently the lady keeps coming back and the guy keeps forgiving her, but still the lady continues to cheat”. This only shows that we as people do not appreciate the little that others are trying to show and give us.

Where we seem to love it is mostly said it is where we are not loved. We give our all but they still find a way to hurt us. We give too much that when we are getting hurt we find it hard to let go. Which will be the best way and the best way to save ourselves from hurt? Move on, there are people out there who will appreciate you more and give the same or even more percentage of love, respect and communication than what you are getting. Time heals so they say. Trying to move on is not simple but it’s the best way of healing. You are not meant to be hurt. Everyone deserves what’s best for their lives.

Let love rule not hurt. Others are abused physically and emotionally but still they hang on thinking that the situation will change but the honest truth is we all know a leopard will never change its spots.

Work on yourself. Figure out who you are and what you are about. Know your story. Don’t be afraid to ask. Believe in your abilities. The future is your and not theirs.

SELF REHABILITATION AFTER FAILING IN A BIG LEAP

By Brandly Mathibela

When one tries to leap into a mentality of success the likeliness of failure weighs lighter than that of the opposite, but when it comes to reality there are quite a lot of qualities that one's mindset has to consist of because in the mist of failure one will suffer thudding blows to the mentality which will definitely leave permanent scars. In that context and going forward one's energy shall be altered with, and result in a mind and heart that think in a slack tune.

The new tune created by permanent scars shows up as a character of skepticism and the fear of going all  committed towards one's dreams and aspirations. People often resort to convenient alternatives due to the fear of failing in their own lanes, compromise their dreams for something totally different due to the low self-esteem created by the failure of the initial maneuvers.

The questions that emerge are: How does one rehabilitate oneself from the previous failure's trauma, rekindle the attraction one had towards success, how do you begin to think you are ready for challenges  though it is not known by anyone what to expect, How do you get rid of the bad memories left by failure?

THERE'S A NEW KID ON THE BLOCK

 THERES A NEW KID IN THE BLOCK

By Rebecca Masina

Tshepo  Zulu also known as Trizle Beats, a young and upcoming artist who is passionate about music and lives up to his name  The Midrand/ ivory park born star is a producer ,rapper and a performer. The love of music started when he was still young, at the age of five when he realized that he loves singing and dancing in which he has won awards consecutively, for three years.  At the age of 16 he decided to start producing and writing his own music.

During his matric year he had a bedroom studio where he recorded most of his songs and started performing them in local schools and local taverns where he got recognition as a musician. Trizle went to Ponelopele Oracle Secondary and is currently studying Public Management at Tshwane North College.

When asked how he started his music career, he said “I used to be a dancer meaning I used to listen to music a lot, and then I started to learn how to produce and write my own music”. He got motivated by his late mother, who used to be singer.

He has produced and still produces music for upcoming artist like him all over South Africa.

 ‘’I mix and master my own songs and I also produce my own beats. the best track I’ve ever recorded and produced is my latest single #WeLoveTo, I feel like it has that vibe to get anyone dancing, whether you love hip hop or not.’’- He said.

He is an independent artist and currently owns his own music label Trizle Beats Entertainment and recently opened a crew by the name of ‘’TalkTruthClan’’

Later this year he’s going to release his first Beat-tape called the R.E.D (Red End Dangerous). Hip hop is what he loves and enjoys. ” it makes me feel comfortable with who I am- he said.

Here is one of his releases that you can listen and rate him on,

http://www.datafilehost.com/d/6479eae2

Contacts: trizlebeats@gmail.com

Facebook: Trizle Beats

HER FIRST WALK..STEPS

madala dancing

FIRST TIME PARENT (MY JOURNEY)

FIRST TIME PARENT (My journey)

BY Rebecca Masina

It all seems easy until it is you having to go through it. For me I never thought that I could nail this parenthood thing. I never thought I could be this good. I’ve always been that crazy, happy and a person who always makes jokes. I don’t remember being serious about life. Well I had that thing of I will be serious when the time comes and for now it is just my time to be me and enjoy being Rebecca. I raised my sisters kid Gomolemo and learnt a lot from raising her. I did everything that a mother can and should do for a new born to a toddler. Well except for breastfeeding because I wasn’t her mom.  From there I have never thought of my self being a mom let alone having my own bundle of joy, my own photo copy. I bet almost everyone was shocked to hear and see me being pregnant including myself. Even after eight months I still did not believe it was me who was pregnant.

My little one was always kicking me so bad it hurt and did not want her to kick anymore. I was  a month away to giving birth but still it wasn’t in my mind that I was about to be a mom. As crazy as I seemed, most people were even asking what kind of a mom I am going to be to my child because I was never serious. Weeks away I still was not prepared. Not even bought anything for the baby or prepared anything. I hated how she kicked me but when she was not kicking I was getting worried.

Always had that friend who sponsored my crazy cravings (Lebo Mamabolo). This lady went through hell as if she was the father of my baby. She took a lot of crap from me. Stood by me even though I gave her tough times. Thank you LEE. **/…Askere Modimo ago boke.

Oh well soon I got into labor at the best ever hospital, where I almost drove nurses crazy. Aah labor pains are no child’s play. 27+ hours of hectic labor pains. Hope you understand the pain that I was in. then they asked me if I was going to come again. Lol well after what I have experienced I do not know.

After those hours with God’s Grace I gave birth to a baby girl and named her Kagiso. She is my benediction. From that hour I knew it was the beginning of a long life journey. Just because some of us raised kids at our places, then taking care of Kagiso did not need me to always call my mom to help me. I did everything myself. Today I call her Formula 1 because she’s too active and speaks a lot of gibberish, she has a loud voice and she’s a strong lady. She fights for her things. She’s my all. And even today I still cannot believe am her mom. Only 10 months old, but already calls me mama. Already walks to every room she wants to go to. The way she responds to her dads call… wonders. Granny always complaining about the mess but hey what we can do. We put together then few seconds she’s marking her territory that she’s here. Mess up the house in seconds. Not forgetting that she’s a dancer. That she took from her aunt.

few minutes born...Kagiso

 We love her. Kagiso ya rona. 

9 months 

10 months ols

FOR A GOOD LAUGH... MY LILL SISTER DANCING TO RIHANNA AND DRAKE WORK!!

video taken by Tebogo Masina.. 16 years old.

DEAR UNFAIR

DEAR UNFAIR

By Rebecca Masina

Putting up a face is not easy at all. You can do it as many times to try to perfect it but hey it is very hard out there. You always see people out there sitting and saying there are no jobs and you will be thinking “yes there are no jobs because you are sitting here and waiting for a job to come to you”. Well sometimes judging is wrong, concluding without facts it is wrong. We all have dreams. They might be bigger or smaller but the truth remains that we all have dreams. Size does not matter. I for one have been under a lot of strain yet no one can really tell that I have.

Some people out there when they say they tried and they even thinking of giving up, it is not because they are lazy or they are not motivated. Truth is you can go to school and study hard for that certificate, diploma, and degree and to mention a few. At the end you still have to go out there and look for a job. Jobs are scares not to mention that, these days it is all about who you know and not what you have. Our papers these days do not weigh as much. One may be qualified more than the other but just because you don’t know someone, then you lose the opportunity that you worked hard for. That we call “life is hard” oh yes “life is unfair”.

Isn’t that we go to higher institution so that we can better our lives? Yet it seems like it is the more we go deeper into poverty. Names are put for people who try to make money by selling their bodies and judge them, yet we do not know where they come from. We did not walk in their shoes.

People with university papers have been at home for more than 4 four years without jobs. They tried, hustled like nobody’s business, but no luck. On the other hand some have to give out cash to get jobs. How will you be able to give cash that you don’t have in order to get a job? The world we live in. if you go to many companies to check who has the right papers for the positions they are in, well you will see things. “Shockers”. We are told and taught to be entrepreneurs but let’s face it not everyone can be an entrepreneur. Same as not all of us can sing. It has its own people.

some people even resort to crime.

It is said that a prayer helps and Gods timing is always the best. Well it’s all up to how much you believe. No one is opposing that statement but you spend more than a decade after graduating looking for job and you still say Gods timing is always the best? Huh? We pray, we praise and believe but for how long? Pray until something happens.  That statement is always said but those who already made it and I am sure they only saying that and them, themselves did not do it. It is motivation but for how long?

DEAR UNFAIR as we believing.

ITS A LEAP YEAR LADIES

IT’S A LEAP YEAR LADIES.

By Rebecca Masina

http://wis.pr/Nuji

 

It is that month that gets couples closer to each other. Treat each other with more love and gifts. It’s a month that hopefuls also come out and seek other hopefuls. It called a Love Month “kgwedi ya baratani”.  On the 14^th of February couples will be having that extra love and showing more affection to each other. Well that’s to those who enjoy it. Have you got your valentines date yet?

Most people say to them Valentine’s Day is every day or it should be every day. Well I for one think that those people are the ones  that do not have anything to do or anyone to spoil them, so they hating on those who celebrate it. Well get a hobby and leave those who celebrate it to celebrate it. It is not our fault that you don’t have anyone to spoil you. Lol hater! Why aren’t you saying the same things when it is your birthday?

“What a lover’s heart knows let no man’s brain dispute.” ― Aberjhani,

OH well guess what?? It is a leap year. Yeap yes it is ladies. You now don’t have to wait on him to hit on you. This year you can make things happen. He’s been taking too long to open up. Well this is your year, your chance. Tell him how you feel.  “Mo shele”- propose to him. If you don’t then you going to have to wait for another four years dear. Let love rule this month. It is yours. You deserve it.

“If you have only one smile in you give it to the people you love”. - Maya Angelou

Love should be happiness, support, communication, loyalty, trust, comfort and fun, fun, fun.

“Most people are slow to champion love because they fear the transformation it brings into their lives. And make no mistake about it: love does take over and transform the schemes and operations of our egos in a very mighty way.” ― Aberjhani

Rebecca Masina…

 

BEING THE OTHER WOMEN

BEING THE OTHER WOMEN

By Rebecca Masina

How does it feel being the other women and knowing that you are one? Are there any benefits that come with being the other women? What are the gains? How do you respond when they ask you questions about being the other women? How will the first women feel when she finds out that you are busy with their partner and you know of their existence? Are you planning to take her spot? Have you been guaranteed that the spot will soon be yours?

Totally you must be confused. Isn’t it that the first thing that he must have done when he realized that he is in love with you was to leave the person that they are involved with? Oh I forgot that you know of the first women. Keng are you interested in polygamy? Keng banna bafedile or vele wena you are a marriage/relationship breaker?

We are totally not against what you believe in. well after all its your choice but do not expect to be the first as you know there is someone already in that position. Keng it’s called sacrificing for the one you love or you hoping for something or you have plans for that? Lol ai shame some people, you like giving your selves endless and unnecessary jobs/responsibilities.

Holding or trapping him with a baby is not an option my dear. Ba tsamaya ntse hole byao.

Have you ever thought about your reputation? Or you ae that type that does not care about what other people say or think?, obviously it is not about other people but you and your person but hey you must be ready for anything that comes your way. Your life is precious and you deserve better than being second best. No one is opposing anything. It is your life, live it and live it to the fullest.

Love and respect yourself. Consider self-love and self-worth before anything.

 

WE ALL HAVE A CHOICE

WE ALL HAVE A CHOICE/DISRESPECT

By Rebecca Masina

We all have problems or what we may call challenges in our lives especially when growing up. Maybe you lacked confidence during your formative years. Perhaps you received little love and encouragement. Possibly you might remember the constant fights that took place in your home and how they shred your family apart. Sometimes blaming yourself that you may be the reason why your parents are no longer together. Even bigger, having to live with the fact that your own parents neglected you or they were abusing you physically or verbally.

Life will always be unfair as most of you take it.  All in that it does not mean that we should lose respect because you do not know what respect it. Yes you may grew up hectic but giving respect to your elders regardless of what they did to you is the best you can do. Revenger has never been sweet as they say. Respect gives you the light, gives you the way, and opens up for you every door that you would like to enter. It shows you life, a better life. So keep it and use it everywhere you go.

Be the change that you want to see in others.  Love and respect others. Be you.

 

 

I CANT GET ENOUGH OF YOU

I CANT GET ENOUGH OF YOU

By Rebecca Masina

Thursday, January 7, 2016

A new year it is. People make resolutions for every year but only they know if they do stick to them or not. Well I for one am not a fan of making resolutions. Reasons being that I never follow them or try to.  This year I pray it be a good year for me as last year I cannot say it was a good year for me. Life happened and life goes on. We thank God for another day as is indeed a blessing.

Have you ever thought of how some other things can make you feel like it is only a dream and you will soon wake up from it? Well yeah I got that and guess what it is not a dream at all it is reality. God blessed me. I might not have a lot and I might not have a name to anything but hey, I am a happy women and each and every day I thank God for it.

He brought a special gift to me. A lot has taken place but now I know my worth. You know when you are treated like the women you are, and then you know you are doing something right to the right person. Past months I’ve learnt a lot about respect, love, loyalty and communication. I got one and hey each and every minute I get a smile on my face.

Gosh I RIRI am in love.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

ABUSE AND FORGIVENESS

Abuse and forgiveness

By Rebecca Masina

How do you begin to forgive someone who abused you intentionally? How do you begin to forgive someone who took what you have for them for granted? Someone who made your life seems so useless you even thought of committing suicide? Do you believe in good life after forgiveness? Yes you might have forgiven but does your heart and mind really forget?

They say time heals but really? How many of you have been through such stages and have forgiven and forgotten? It takes a very good heart to forget about such. Abuse is a very big thing in our country and it is continuing to happen. Most people are afraid to speak out, in fear of being judged. Keeping something in your heart will definitely kill you.

Abuse comes in different ways. Most suffer from physical and emotional abuse. Look you deserve better than being abused. There is more to life than to be with someone who abuses you and tomorrow say they are sorry, they did not know what was wrong with them and that they will never do it again only for it to happen few hours after they have apologized. They might be the only people you have in your life but really somewhere out there, there is help. Let’s take down our pride and open up. Try to get help. In that you might be taking the step into helping those in need of help. No one deserves to be abused in any sort of way.

Yes we love them. But let’s love them enough to let them go. No one should commit suicide in the name of love. Love should be love not abuse. Love is happiness, respect, joy, trust, communication, understanding, comfort, laughter and growth.  No one is allowed to be abused and say it’s been done because they are being shown love. Wake up. Someone who loves you will never abuse you. Even the obsessed lovers never lay a hand on their loved ones.

Give love, trust, and respect if you also want to be given them back.1/7/2016